Do you ever wonder if you’re a ghost?

[UnitedRoad]

I’m beginning to wonder if I even exist. I think the cat is the only one who can see me.

Do you ever find that you could make a joke, or a remark or observation and no one hears you, but if someone who was there when you said it, repeats pretty much exactly what you said, to the same group of people (ie my family), the others will laugh, or say ‘what a good idea’ or whatever.

Obviously this is lighthearted, but I’m feeling a bit invisible.

The cat has just walked past me. I don’t think he can see me either...

Oh christ, I know what you mean. But being a ghost would be great, when all the dishes need done and the washing hung up you could just disappear

@ssd Oh it would be lovely, but funnily enough the only time I exist is when they’re hungry or their clothes are dirty 😂

Come dinner time, that cat will certainly be watching you with his beady eyes. No fear of invisibility then!

I do know what you mean... it's almost like existing in the ether whilst everybody else rushes about their business... oblivious.

Yep it happens to me too. I've also mentioned something that had happened when I was with the same group of people only to have one or two people look at me sideways and say that I wasn't there at the time!

I had to pull out photos to prove it. That was odd.

Yes! I often find myself not bothering to talk in some situations because there is no point!

Tbh I often find this on MN too. I seem to be able to shut down a thread with one comment. (Apologies if that happens here).

I have the same thing. I find people talk over me or interrupt me all the time. I'm not boring and I don't waffle. When I'm one to one with someone it doesn't happen, only in groups. My friends think I'm funny and interesting but it seems that whenever I am in a group situation I somehow disappear. It's weird.

Also had the situation of saying something funny and it falling flat. Then someone else saying the exact same thing 5 minutes later and everyone falls about laughing.

@ndo4000 Me too. It’s quite demoralising isn’t it? Have you ever been talking to someone and you can see they’re not listening, so you stop mid sentence, but they don’t even notice?

@BissueTox That’s horrible! What did they say when you’d proved you were there?

That happens to me too OP. My DP is always re-explaining things back to me too. I like your ghost theory a lot although I suspect the cat would be able to see you... 😉

@UnitedRoad They laughed and said that they didn't realise I had been there, I was obviously too quiet and it sort of became my fault they hadn't noticed me!

It was my own brother's wedding and I was a bridesmaid! The one in the blue dress following the bride up the aisle...

If the cat is ignoring you he/she couldn't be hungry. Rattle the treats bag. If there is no reaction you might in fact be ... dead.

@KingaRoo I feel like I ignored you earlier. I promise I didn’t see However I feel like I could have written every word of your post. I’m far far happier in a 1:1 situation. I have a few good friends, but they’re all separate. I wouldn’t like a group of friends.

@BissueTox Your brothers wedding??? That’s astonishing and really insulting. You put up with a probably quite horrific dress, and you deserve recognition😀

Yes!! I was thinking about that just yesterday, I don’t know if I don’t say it loudly enough or if I’m being ignored 🥴🥴

@ndo4000 The thread thing has happened to me loads!

I have three unanswered messengers messages that I sent days ago! I know they have seen them too.

My DH tells me the same stories over and over and over! I can actually tell him the ending lol.

I am post menopause. Nobody sees me unless I jump up and down and wave (which is a sight to see in its own right).

After fifty women become completely invisible. Well known fact. I may take up breaking and entering.

Me too. I some times wonder if I speak really quietly, or if my voice is somehow inaudible to some people. A bit like we can't hear very high or low pitched sounds.

@Zaphodsotherhead Ooh me too! We could do it together

Hold on a minute @IntoTheUnknown89 - I'll just go and put my reinforced 'jumping up and down' underwear on.

@Zaphodsotherhead 😂 Can we find somewhere with wide gaps??

Yes! I can absolutely relate to this. I find its worse at work, even at the moment when we are working from home, I have taken to going on mute and staying there.
I got a dog so that I wouldn’t feel it as much at home!

@FayKnights Knowing my luck I'd get an unsociable pet 😂

Yes. Happens to me too. It is one reason why I prefer my own company to being in a large group of people where I am made to feel invisible. Much less effort and more enjoyable.

Yes! And nobody from old jobs or school/uni seems to remember me. I actually think it’s a good thing!

@UnitedRoad yes! Especially with my parents! My Dm just talks right over me both in person and on the phone! I have even said outrageous things just to prove that she doesn't hear anything I say!

@IntoTheUnknown89 I'm glad it's not just me that shut threads down! I just feel like I'm super uncool or boring and everyone (virtually) takes one look at my post, looks at each other and turn around to continue their own chats!

Yes certainly to the invisible feeling.
Try to introduce yourself or tell a joke in a group setting ... basically no one acknowledges you are even there .
Others can do and say exactly the same and everyone looks up and is delighted to say Hello.

I was at a funeral in early January. It was a family funeral. There were tables of about 8. I was sat in the middle of one of my second cousins and my dad (my parents are divorced and he isn't blood related to said cousin) - they actually talked around me! I was like WTF?!