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9 days until nurseries reopen

58 replies

WheresTheEvidence · 22/05/2020 14:14

As a nursery nurse please may I suggest you use the next 9 days to prepare your children in going back.

If you're rocking them to sleep, please try to encourage them to self soothe another way.
If you're feeding them encourage them to try and feed themselves.
If you've let bad habits slip by in the past weeks prepare them for routine.

It is going to be a hard adjustment being away from you and being back in a new environment even if theyve been used to nursery beforehand. Support them by giving them tools to thrive. As much as I would love to cuddle babies to sleep I have at least 11 so it's not feasible the same with feeding a 2 year old isnt easy when 16 of them are asking to be fed. Encourage your baby to try and feed themselves a bottle, they will be supported but if I have a 5 month old needing a bottle at the same time as a 13 month i need to help the baby and sit alone aside the older one.

It will be hard for them to adjust so please support them in this transition

OP posts:
Pepperwand · 22/05/2020 14:18

Do you have children?

SarahAndQuack · 22/05/2020 14:28

Do you realise how bloody rude your post sounds?

Not to mention the fact that if you really have 11 babies under your sole care, you're surely breaking the rules on numbers?

Like a lot of people, I've been juggling trying to work full time and trying to look after a toddler. I do not have time to do your job for you as well.

LittleRa · 22/05/2020 14:31

Isn’t the ratio something like 1:3 for under ones and one year olds and 1:4 for two year olds? So why do you have 11 babies or 16 2yo?

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

2 year olds 3-6 months old Babies & sleep Childcare & nursery
Megan2018 · 22/05/2020 14:32

I bloody hope you aren’t at the nursery I’ll be using. Talk about give nursery staff a bad name Angry

Spikeypineapples · 22/05/2020 14:50

Sounds like you're in the wrong job.

RubberCactus · 22/05/2020 14:58

You sound awful.

If my baby wants to be rocked to sleep then she will be. I'm not going to withhold comfort because you can't be bothered to do your job.

masonmason · 22/05/2020 14:59

Did you make this shit up yourself or copy and paste it Hmm

itchyfinger · 22/05/2020 15:03

Christ. How patronising. It's up to the parents how to parent, not the nurseries.

itchyfinger · 22/05/2020 15:04

And I'm annoyed, I thought this was going to be a thread for those rejoicing in the fact the nurseries are open in 9 days. You are not my people OP.

HappyHammy · 22/05/2020 15:07

Are you really a registered nursery nurse. Please tell me when you qualified and where you work. Does your employer know abd approve that you have posted this

ScarfLadysBag · 22/05/2020 15:10

Oh dear.

FoxtrotSkarloey · 22/05/2020 15:12

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INeedNewShoes · 22/05/2020 15:15

What a great post. I think you should show it to your manager.

cookielove · 22/05/2020 15:16

Confused there is no way she has kids 🤪😂😂

Sandsnake · 22/05/2020 15:16

I thought it was a countdown threat too. With my DS’ behaviour today I’m thinking of making a mini advent calendar Grin.

Elephantonascooter · 22/05/2020 15:17

Bloody glad you don't care for my child. I'll do whatever the fucking I like with him thanks. I've been cuddling him daily for naps because soon he will be too old to do that and I'm not going to base my parenting choices on whether it's easy for the nursery staff. I pay the £50 a day to care for my child, I expect them to do that

Frlrlrubert · 22/05/2020 15:17

Wtf?

DD went to nursery at 11months, she was bf to sleep every time at that point.

Her nursery are amazing and managed to get he to nap without that (obviously!).

They shush and pat and stick to ratios.

Your nursery (if real) sounds horrendous.

1forsorrow · 22/05/2020 15:18

My DD did work experience in a nursery when she was in year 10. She hated it, hated the babies being left to cry, one was only 3 months and just started at nursery. DD said she was screaming and one member of staff said maybe they should pick her up and the senior said no as she "had to learn" Then there was my 15 year old left with 4 in the kitchen to make fairy cakes, thank God no one was burned.

She hated it and couldn't wait for the week to be over.

ScubaSteven · 22/05/2020 15:18

I don't think this is helpful to those parents who have no choice but to put their children in nursery so they can return to work. It's a time of huge anxiety for many and you sound as if you expect the only parents to use nursery to be the ones who can't be bothered to look after their own children.

Be compassionate and emphasise how much nursery workers will strive to look after children in the same way they always have. You should be looking to support and give confidence to parents, not take it away and tell parents their babies won't be cared for.

MostlyAmbridgeandcoffee · 22/05/2020 15:19

I actually think it’s quite a useful post (if a little harsh sounding!)

NuffSaidSam · 22/05/2020 15:19

It's a badly judged OP.

But in her defence re. the numbers...

Ratio is 1:3 in the baby room and 1:4 for toddlers, but that's for all staff, doing everything.

So you've got 16 having lunch and 4 members of staff. One is dishing up the food, one is clearing up from an earlier activity, one is changing a nappy/soothing a child who is upset/dealing with a parent and the other one is trying to feed 14 or so 2 year olds.

Same with babies and being rocked to sleep.

It's not about not being bothered to do your job. It's a hard job (often for shit money).

OP's post suggests she might not have kids, responses suggest some of you have no idea of the realties of how nurseries work.

And no I'm not a nursery nurse. And yes I have been in the past.

TorysSuckRevokeArticle50 · 22/05/2020 15:22

You won't know until 28th May if the government has decided that the 5 criteria have been met. So it may not be 9 days till nurseries re-open, that is the earliest possible date if the 5 conditions are met.

Bollss · 22/05/2020 15:23

Both nurseries we've used followed our lead on stuff like feeding and naps. Some nurseries are better than others!

SarahAndQuack · 22/05/2020 15:25

Ratio is 1:3 in the baby room and 1:4 for toddlers, but that's for all staff, doing everything.

We know that. The OP is indicating she's doing it all on her own, which suggests either that she is making things up, or that she's exaggerating.

NuffSaidSam · 22/05/2020 15:31

'We know that. The OP is indicating she's doing it all on her own'

Well that's my point really, sometimes it does end up like that. If the other staff are busy doing something else, it can end up one member of staff trying to feed 14 2 year olds. Or one member of staff soothing multiple babies.