9 days until nurseries reopen

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As a nursery nurse please may I suggest you use the next 9 days to prepare your children in going back.

If you're rocking them to sleep, please try to encourage them to self soothe another way.
If you're feeding them encourage them to try and feed themselves.
If you've let bad habits slip by in the past weeks prepare them for routine.

It is going to be a hard adjustment being away from you and being back in a new environment even if theyve been used to nursery beforehand. Support them by giving them tools to thrive. As much as I would love to cuddle babies to sleep I have at least 11 so it's not feasible the same with feeding a 2 year old isnt easy when 16 of them are asking to be fed. Encourage your baby to try and feed themselves a bottle, they will be supported but if I have a 5 month old needing a bottle at the same time as a 13 month i need to help the baby and sit alone aside the older one.

It will be hard for them to adjust so please support them in this transition

Sarah I agree. As if any parent will be purposefully discouraging their child from being independent! All three of mine have required different levels and methods of comforting, it's often not the parents choice when it comes to what babies need.

What have I just read?!

I'm sorry, but I don't think a baby crying is 'trauma'. Well it depends doesn't it. If a baby has always been at home with mum, always rocked to sleep, held all day then going to nursery is a really big change and crying is asking for some attention and if the normal attention doesn't come I think that can be quite traumatic.

I don't think the OP was trying to guilt anyone, it is about making it as easy as possible for the baby, not the parents, not the nursery staff, the baby.

There are certain practicalities involved with having 12, 15 or whatever babies in a room. The ratio is 1:3 so of course all the children can't have 1:1 care all the time. The staff will do their best, but to some extent children have to fit in with nursery. Exactly and it is the adults duty to make that as easy as possible for the baby.

I trained as a nursery nurse and am now a nursery manager. Your post is terrible OP.
Not helpful at all

I notice the OP hasn't been back to face her judgey-ness

It absolutely does depend, and I agree it could be upsetting or even traumatic if a baby had The Perfect Mother who never left it to cry, and it went to nursery and suddenly it was crying. Even so, I do think this is traumatic (at worst) rather than 'a trauma'.

I think what bugs me about the OP's post is exactly what you're saying - she is acting as if it's all about what is easiest for the baby and the nursery staff, not the parents. That's quite staggeringly rude and ignorant, in the current situation.

I do realise it'll probably be bloody hard for nursery staff when the nurseries go back. Our nursery staff are fantastic and I hope they're ok, and I would do a lot to try and make their lives easier. But realistically, am I going to mess around with a child's sleeping patterns (and lose the time I desperately need to work in), in the vague hope they might - might! - continue to self-settle at nursery? Not very likely.

I notice the OP hasn't been back to face her judgey-ness

OP had been here the whole time. OP knew exactly what they were doing.