Cannot stand constant noise

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My four year old, like all four year olds, is loud. All the time.
My husband is loud.
My work is constant phone meeting after phone meeting.
The TV is always on. Seemingly even just in the background?!?

After my four year old is in bed my husband wants to talk, or watch tv or have sex (it's not happened for a while).

I log into work at 7am and it's constant fucking noise until four year old goes to bed @8pm
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I don't want to be touched and I don't want to listen to anything! I want to spend my evening being left completely the fuck alone .

Genuinely feel like too much noise is giving me a slight mental break down? ?

Just wanted to rant, didn't know where to post sorry. Anybody else feel the same?

I hate the tv on until at least 9pm.

I hear you op

This is why I live alone, I hate noise.

Do you want to come and stay with me for a while? We can sit on one of those rocking swings on the porch and sip cocktails (but not speak to each other)

Can you have bath night once a week during lock down. Husband does bedtime and you lock yourself in the bathroom for some peace and quiet. - I can stretch it out for about an hour before I nearly fall asleep! Or what about a solo walk on your own.

I hear you, OP. It seems like there is just no quietness in the world. I don't do well with too much noise and I crave some solitude, no crying,.phones ringing, husband being loud( I probably should have thought about all that before marriage and kids )

I have a four year old and I feel your pain op. When he runs out of things to say he just makes word-like noises, and its so bloody high pitched.

Dp practices guitar most nights too. Fed up of it all too tbh.

@purrswhileheeats sounds like heaven!

Ooh ooh! This is my dream life. Can I come too? @purrswhileheeats

@Mumdiva99 am definitely going to do the bath night.

I wanted to do walks myself but it's just not working out time wise. We're tag teaming working and dealing with the four year old at the moment, so literally non stop until 8pm at which point I just want to Unwind rather than go out and exercise.
Although Lack of exercise is probably not helping me

You sound like me. It is like I am being driven slowly insane.

I have something called Misophonia, which is basically hatred of noise...so I most definitely understand your pain. My toddler is just a walking headache.

I could have written this post

I am also craving complete silence

Feel like screaming shut the fuck up on a daily basis

Yep. Worst thing about lockdown by far. There's always someone in the house making noise. I loved my 2 short days when DC were both in school/childcare. It gave me space and balance, and I caught up with house shit as well.

Lockdown runs don't quite cut it either, always needing to think ahead about social distancing, not meeting people at a bottleneck.

I like stealing some extra time in the supermarket car park, blessed silence! I've even stopped listening to audiobooks and the radio in the car!

I am the same OP.
Wake up between 6/half 6, feed the baby. The second I step out of bed my 6yo hears me and is up and ready to go.
I start WFH around 7, dp leaves for work at 7.30, so I am WFH all day with the 6yo and 11month old. 6yo talks constantly and keeps asking me question after question after question. The only way he stops talking is if hes watching TV, and when he does that I have the noise of the TV going on.
I finish work at 4.30 by which time the baby is getting really cranky and moaning.
When dp gets in from work around half 5, I run away upstairs to get 5/10 mins on my own with no noise, it is bliss.
Baby goes to bed at 6pm and then I'm just waiting for 7.30 to come around for the 6yo to go to bed.
If I've had a hectic day, I go to bed then myself just to be alone.
Like you, it just doesnt suit for me to go for a walk on my own. By the time kids are in bed I am too exhausted to even try and walk.

Noise. Cancelling. Headphones.

Not perfect, but by god they help.

Is there room for me on that porch (probably not with the 2 metres rule)..seriously thought I hear you. I would love love LOVE to be able to go out in the garden on a warm day and have PEACE, and hear the birds singing. But no, neighbours constant fecking radio at full volume or neighbour on other sides bloody hi fi or phone calls conducted on some sort of megaphone/speaker phone system.

Do these people ever stop to think that if everyone in the neighbourhood made the same level of noise that they do then the cacophonous din would be literally ear splitting?

Yes, agree with you there @randomsabreuse, after my weekly shop I sit in the car in silence for 5/10 minutes before starting the drive home!

But no, neighbours constant fecking radio at full volume or neighbour on other sides bloody hi fi or phone calls conducted on some sort of megaphone/speaker phone system.

Oh you’re brave! Be prepared for the ‘you live in a community...move to the middle of nowhere....the wonderful sound of children laughing’ to ambush you. 😁

Me too. 4 year old twins here. Imagine. And a loud, extrovert husband who, when he's not talking on the phone/watching Netflix extremely loudly/ talking at me is drilling in the garden!

I try and make a point when the kids are in bed of saying "right, I need some quiet time now.", what he hears is "why dont you play music really loudly from your tinny phone"

I hate noise. When I am at home alone I have no noise. I can't wait for ds's to go back to school.

I have the same indoor thing going on too, everyone working at home, DS 21 has become a night owl constantly talking to mates over the airwaves til all hours!

It is like I am being driven slowly insane.

Exactly this!

Feel like screaming shut the fuck up on a daily basis
And this! I feel bad as DH clearly wants to chat, but mentally i just can't I really really can't.

Oh god @Dk20 that sounds hard. Full sympathies here

I lock myself in the laundry on the pretence of work phone call. Then I put on noise cancelling earphones. My 1 year old makes a noise that makes me want to claw my brain out it’s so high pitched.

Go for a walk - even it's just a slow 10 mins around the block in the dark - just for some
Alone time, not exercise just for your sanity xx also try the headspace app for a quiet mind x