What’s the *one* thing you would change in your life..

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If given another chance? It’s getting married for me...the biggest mistake of my life.

I'd have stood up the bullies on day one. Nip it in the bud instantly. It would've totally changed the direction and outcome of my life.

Decent dps...

If given another chance? It’s getting married for me...the biggest mistake of my life.

Yep. I’d have stayed single.

I would never have allowed myself to get fat. I am a massive binge eater (emotional) and hate how I look a lot of the time.

I wish I wasn't fat, but have failed at every diet going and now I have just resigned myself to being a disgusting blob my whole life.

I will never like myself, my mother words ringing in my ear, 'you will NEVER be beautiful if you're fat'.

I would never have married. I'm now divorced. I would however still have the child I have so i cant wish it all away

Would have stayed in the job I had and probably would have ended up remaining single.

Maybe travelled more

My health. If I was in better health everything would be easier

Jon don’t let what your mum said ruin your life. I know it’s hard, but you can still change things around. Just start with something very small...and you can start building on it gradually.
I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks now when I’m struggling I force myself to think of one tiny positive thing, it could be anything from it’s a blue sky, or I just saw a butterfly, but it works...it’s worth a try with your health journey.

@prawnsacrifice. You and me both. If I had stood up for myself or confided in someone about how bad the bullying was but I didn't. I just buried my head in the sand and they just wore me down more and more everyday.

I didn't realise then that it would still be affecting me many years later, my confidence or lack off, female friendships again lack off and not progressing as much in work as I should have through lack of confidence. Things could and should have been different.

That our attempt at adoption had not broken down after 2 months

I would have put more effort into dating in my 20s. I’m single, childless at 36 and desperately sad about it.

I'd never have married the person I did

I would have stayed with emotionally controlling dh. It broke the children and I regret that. It really wasn't worth it from their point of view.

I'd have moved abroad with my parents when they went when I was 15/16 years old and stayed for 15 years
I was stupid to stay!

I wish I had found the right person. I've shut the door on it now.

I would have quit my degree. I didn't like it from day 1 and felt too lost, confused and unsupported to do anything else. 18 is such a young age to make such an important life changing decision. I should have done a gap year instead to think about my options.

I would have had a baby earlier, I thought I didn’t want any then changed my mind at 40.
I now have my amazing DD but probably won’t have a second. In hindsight I’d have loved to have lots of babies.

I wouldn't have wasted so many years on my ex. I knew the relationship was wrong from day 1 but it took me 5 years to grow some balls and leave.

@NameChange84
I met my now DH at that age out of the blue and had a baby at 41. It’s still possible

I would have ‘heard’ my girl telling me she was dying.

She died so very quickly. Without me there. My heart died the same day she did.

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I'm the same as windyatthebeach - decent parents. In spite of them, I've turned out OK (well, pretty damn good actually ), but my poor DB is still horribly damaged and is such a lost soul.

Awright I’m so sorry

@JonbonMoany
I could have written every word that you have said.
I have no life and sometimes think I would be better of not being here. ( which seems likely anyway due to my weight)

AwrightDoreen that is really sad.

If my mum had stayed separated from my dad. I would have grown up so differently, with different people, in a different place and I would have had a different accent.