What’s the *one* thing you would change in your life..

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If given another chance? It’s getting married for me...the biggest mistake of my life.

To have not had my premature son die on my chest and to be carrying him right now and look forward to giving birth to him in July.

@AwrightDoreenTakeAFuckinDayOff a big part of me died with him too. I’m so sorry.

Similar to others, i wish i hadn't wasted 12 years of my life with an abusive ex. I might've met someone who was worth it during those years and who could give me a hug now.

Shouldn’t have got married
Shouldn’t have worked in IT

I’d have chosen a completely different career.

Different parents. One was a bully, and the other, I just don't know what the hell was up with them.

I would not have sold my old house. We lived in a niiiice area but were stretched to the absolute limit financially. We scrimped each month despite the having hood jobs and I'd had enough of it. We sold our house having made significant equity and moved to an ok house in a far less desirable city. We halved our mortgage, are completely debt free and are financially comfortable. But, my heart was in my old house. My child is devastated and still misses her old school. I've had to change jobs. All in all, we absolutely should not have moved.

I'd have not let the cruel things said to me as a teenager screw my self confidence.

I would have reached out to my family more when I was in trouble, rather than worrying about burdening them.

I'd have taken a different degree. I don't think I was capable at the age of 17 to make those kind of life choices.

I think other things would have been easier, or clearer, had I put myself on a decent career path. Instead I am kind of drifting and have bills to pay and don't have the energy or drive for re-education. I wasted my best years on a string of internships which led nowhere.

I'd have stuck to the very competitive degree I got into aged 17. Instead I got depressed and decided to give it all up - I did end up doing another degree but my career isn't really what I thought it would be.

I would have left my lovely dp, who I have never really been in love with or fancied, before having dc. I just get so unhappy about it I feel I've ruined all of our lives.

This thread is so sad but also makes me feel less alone (lying awake pondering these regrets right now).

My dh not having knackered his kidneys due to high blood pressure. For his transplant that he had 18 months ago to be not under strain and having to have in centre dialysis three times a week just as covid took hold of the country.

My past