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What do you think would’ve been the outcome if Mariánne/connell had posted on mumsnet?

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Springspring2 · 18/05/2020 15:53

Just that really. Was thinking about this earlier and am curious what the advice would have been and the outcome of their relationship?

I guess it might’ve gone very differently...but would it have been worth it not to have had what they ended up having??

Gahhhhhh clearly too much time on my hands in lockdown!

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Springspring2 · 18/05/2020 17:02

No one??

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megletthesecond · 18/05/2020 17:06

I haven't watched it but I want to know to save me from watching.

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Springspring2 · 18/05/2020 17:07

Ahhh well I don’t want to give you spoilers!!!

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Iwalkinmyclothing · 18/05/2020 17:07

I literally have no idea who you are talking about and when I googled Mariánne and Connell to try and find out this post was the first result, with none of the others giving me a clue.

Who are these people? Characters in a book or something?

Flamingodial · 18/05/2020 17:08

They’d have said ‘a relationship shouldn’t be this hard. And ‘you don’t communicate at all’.

And perhaps, ‘cheer up’

DuchessOfSofa · 18/05/2020 17:09

Who is she, or they?

MonsteraCheeseplant · 18/05/2020 17:09

What Flamingodial said!

It's the two main characters from tv series "Normal People"

Oakmaiden · 18/05/2020 17:10

Marianne makes me think Sense and Sensibility...

On the other hand, I guess if you don't get the reference then you won't have an opinion to offer either.

I don't...

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 18/05/2020 17:10

Not seen it but have read the book

Connell is a bad user

Marianne is a drip

megletthesecond · 18/05/2020 17:10

spring I never have time to watch anything. The MN judgement will be way funnier anyway.

TobyDeLaris · 18/05/2020 17:11

I would have told Marianne to leave the bastard while she was still at school because of him hiding their relationship from his friends.

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Springspring2 · 18/05/2020 17:19

Sorry I really should have put it in the title but thought there were quite a lot of Normal People fans around. But yes it’s from the bbc /Hulu series and also the book by Sally Rooney.

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Sparklingbrook · 18/05/2020 17:22

I would tell them to get a grip and try and communicate with each other like adults.

Insideallday · 18/05/2020 17:25

Based on the 1st 2 episodes Marianne would have been told RUN.

Lunawuna · 18/05/2020 17:26

I've read the book but not watched the programme (started the first episode, couldn't get into it).

They'd get told to learn to communicate like sensible people and get over themselves. Marianne would have been told to dump him when they were still at school. Saving me a lot of bother reading the rest of it.

LadyGAgain · 18/05/2020 17:31

I'd say don't throw away a good thing. You're so young and you don't realise that reaching the emotional level you have at such a young age is something that many in the 30 and 40's crave. Want. Need. Spread your wings. Agree that you could go on different paths but stay in touch as you may well discover that what you have is worth keeping.

CatsAreLikeChocolates · 18/05/2020 17:34

Clearly the slightly wet Marianne would have been told of the perils of red flags and to LTB asap. In fairness, she should've kicked him in to touch back at school and not let him back in to her life at Uni. I think they're probably in a slightly unsatisfying marriage now with very beautiful kids.

But Connell would never have posted on Mumsnet. It's not exactly inclusive round here and I don't think teenaged/early 20s young men are the target audience. Grin

Sparklingbrook · 18/05/2020 17:34

I think there would be nothing more unwatchable than Normal People 3 where they are married with children. Grin

RuffleCrow · 18/05/2020 17:37

I think it would vary at different points in their relationship. Connell turns out ok, whereas Marianne is clearly still carrying a lot of trauma from her upbringing( in the book - i've only seen a few episodes)

Kissmycousinkate · 18/05/2020 17:38

I would have sit down and talk!

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Springspring2 · 18/05/2020 17:48

I think with some sound advice they could have made it work - they clearly had a deep emotional connection and whilst Connell was immature initially I don’t think he was a bad person. He understood what he did wrong and regretted it and could’ve been given another chance. I think with some early intervention they could have done each other much good.

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Springspring2 · 19/05/2020 11:54

No one else have any thoughts?

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Phosphor · 19/05/2020 13:22

School-age Marianne would have been told that she's worth more than being the dirty little secret of the popular GAA player. School-age Connell would have had his head ripped off for even contemplating asking someone else to the debs. University-age Marianne would have been told to go NC with her mother and brother and stop going out with abusive, unpleasant men. University-age Connell would have been sighed at, told he was emotionally illiterate, and to USE HIS WORDS.

Lula11 · 19/05/2020 13:33

School age Connell would have had his arse handed to him if he came on here outlining the situation, and saying he’d asked someone else to the Debs.
Cue, loads of pages calling him a using prick bastard.
AnyFucker and assorted would have weighed in calling him a wanker, and rightly so.
He’d get called a perpetrator all the way to the time the message that the thread was pulled due to tempers getting out of hand, and we’d have a chastising message to be kind.

Settle59 · 19/05/2020 13:37

in terms of early episodes definitely LTB!