Confession

[Sooki6]

I have a confession. My OH has a few awful items of clothing that he wears quite often. Otherwise, he dresses well. These items are what you’d probably expect to see a 14 year old boy in, yet he’s 40. And so today, I’ve grabbed them and hidden them in a place he will never ever find them and I’ll deny all knowledge of where they are.
That’s better. 😊

I thinks fair to hide something in the hope it's forgotten about.

@SheSaidNoFuckThat that’s exactly what our relationship is like! Just fun, lots of laughs and honest! X

What high jinks! Binning people’s possessions!

In the real word, people respect their partners belongings, even if they don’t like them.

I think its fair game to 'hide' them & if he says 'oooh Sooki have you seen my lovely faded green joggers with the saggy arse & holey crotch?' you lose & fish them out for him.

If he doesn't miss them, they remain lost & that's life.

@GroggyLegs I will totally cave if he asks!! I’m rubbish at lying! X

@Nicknacky in the real world people have different sorts of relationships and sense of humours

We've been together 20 years, that's normal for us

@SheSaidNoFuckThat completely agree! 😊

Been with my husband 22 years. His belongings belong to him. Not for me to dispose of.

Just like my clothes that he might not like are mine.

No I wouldn't find it funny or high jinx either. Just ask him if you can put it in the bin.

I recently threw away all DPs pants. But i bought hin 20 nice new ones first!!

Your OH is an adult. What you have done is controlling. You are not his mother.

Not our fault our DHs have no taste lol

@Sooki6 green joggers would push me over the limit too, surprised you've lasted this long. He doesn't leave the house in joggers does he?

Reading between the lines. I think I know Travis reply, and I'm with her TBH.
If the genders were reversed this would be seen as controlling and financial abuse.

@Travis1 I said oh come on youboring “B” word

Or words to that effect.

Just imagine a thread where a man threw away a womans trousers because he likes to see her legs and compare the responses you know that thread would get to the reactions this thread has got and that tells you all you need to know about unbiased mumsnet opinions.

I wholeheartedly disagree @FatherB

In contrast what it actually highlights is the complete and utter lack of any sense of humour or sarcasm of a large proportion of the MN community. It's abundantly clear from @Sooki6 responses that this thread is lighthearted and meant as a joke. Who knows if she actually did it, and if she did, as a woman and a wife - if my husband did this we would have a laugh and a joke about it and move on.

Contrary to your assumption, she didn't hide his long sleeve tops because she wants to see his biceps, or his loose trousers because she wants to see his trouser bulge.

Stop trying to make it sexist when it isn't.

@mrsmummy111

"I know I should but I can’t, he’s got such beautiful legs, I just can’t see them inside those horrid green pipes of cloth. Maybe in a week."

Regardless of if it's a joke or not there is definitely a bunch of responses saying its fine to hide your husbands clothes, or its fine to hide your husbands clothes and hope he doesn't notice, or even i've thrown away my husbands clothes before.

You know as well as I do that the responses wouldn't be the same the other way around. You're just picking a fight because to you this is a joke whereas the other way around you wouldn't see it as a joke.

Bony

@mrsmummy111 really is that all? Jeezo admin were obviously feeling particularly sensitive last night 🙄 but then I didn’t actually directly insult the op and got deleted too. I’ve seen a hell of a lot worse on here so meh.

Anyway, I get people might think it’s a joke but it’s the whole mumsnet double standard as per usual. This is ok but a husband who was thoughtless over a pot - note not intentional on his part - is a bastard and all sorts and she should leave him?!

But hey this is mumsnet shouldn’t expect anything less from some. And I love a good laugh as much as the next woman I just know in reverse this thread would go a hell of a lot differently.

Jesus! What I thought would be a light hearted thread has turned into an assessment of my overall mental state! No longer is my relationship normal- which if you’d read my posts about it being a two way bit of banter we have. I am apparently now a sexist abuser. I genuinely hope that in every part of your relationships, that you are perfect. That you don’t do anything that would be questioned if a reverse of gender cake into play.
Talk about jumping into a sea of pirhanas.

Came* angry typing

Where oh where has mumsnet’s humour gone?

OP I had a skirt that DH hated, with a passion. It provided amusement and in jokes for years. I have just realised I haven’t seen it in a while .......

@slatternismymiddlename be careful, if you listen to some of the contributors on here, they’ll have you thinking you’re living with an abusive psychopath within a day!
P.S- if your OH is anything like me, I’d check on top of the water tank...

OP is it not your own fault? You've done something that is essentially unkind at worst and at best childish. He can, and should, dress how he likes.

I would be very hurt if DP hid my clothes because they are hideous and the rationale was that I was dressing too young and looked awful. Whether it was 'banter' or not- and we have plenty thanks, as well as respect.

No need to leap into hyperbole making out everyone who has criticised is a lunatic just because they don't agree with you that you are hilarious. Reversing the genders is a helpful way of assessing how decent an act it is and understanding how he might feel. Just because something is unkind enough to be easily viewed as abusive, doesn't make you an abuser no - doesn't mean it isn't unkind though.

🙄 humour is subjective. If you open yourself up to a large Internet forum you have to accept that not everyone will agree with you. ‘‘Tis life. Not getting my knickers in a twist over it. Just stating my opinion, that you invited when you opened the discussion online.

I have no doubt there would be things that I would find funny you wouldn’t hey ho I won’t lose sleep over it. In fact I’ve no doubt if mumsnet heard some of the conversations dh and I had they’d assume we hated each other and were both abusive but that’s our banter and why I wouldn’t discuss it on here because I know how people would react.

I spent many years of my life with things randomly disappearing at my mothers hand because she didn’t like them or she didn’t think they looked good or she didn’t think I needed them. She is a cunt so for me this is a big dirty red flag 🤷🏻‍♀️

You do you boo 😘