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For anyone adhering strictly to the 'rules...'

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borntohula · 10/05/2020 14:18

If 'lockdown' was lifted tomorrow, would you go on non-essential shopping trips or see your family or friends again? Just wondering what's keeping people so obedient and whether it's because we've been told what we can and can't do or because they are genuinely terrified of the virus (in which case, when will that fear go away and how long are these people willing to go on like this?)

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ImFreeToDoWhatIWant · 10/05/2020 16:17

I'd go back to my pre covid activities immediately. Epidemiologically the risk of death to me as an individual is extremely small, smaller than practically every other risk in my life. Risk of serious illness slightly more significant. But it's all hypothetical, as a pp said - what I would do is irrelevant, it's not going to happen.

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borntohula · 10/05/2020 16:20

Should have said 'if lockdown was lifted right now' rather than 'tomorrow.'

I know it's not going to happen. This is hypothetical.

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IncrediblySadToo · 10/05/2020 16:31

@iklboo

You could go and see your parents now, it's 'permitted' in the guidelines.

Hope your Mum is ok 🌷

@timeforawine as Chasing has said, your husband can drive you to the shops. Though you'll find there's nothing enjoyable about it these days.

fluffi · 10/05/2020 16:32

If lockdown was lifted tomorrow ..

Would

  • see close family (apart from shielding) because they haven't mixed with anyone
  • go to the office if asked to do so (although that would limit how much I see family again Sad )
  • go outside twice a day for exercise
  • sit in the park on a sunny day (live in flat)
  • stick with once a week shop

Wouldn't

  • do any unnecessary shopping - continue to order all non-food online
  • stop at shops on way home if go to work - good for my waistline at least Smile
  • go to gym (continue to cycle and workout at home)
  • go to salon / hairdresser
  • go to restuarants / pubs / bars / cinemas or get takeaways

Unlikely

  • see friends because most are not local and takes advance planning

But its all a bit academic because I don't think a lot is going to change at this point, might be able to go out twice a day from tomorrow

Lionsleepstonight · 10/05/2020 16:33

I'd be quite happy if we just had the bubble that was mentioned. Ive a close but very small family whi see each other nearly daily so its been hard. That would suit me as I'm happy to not spend on tat like a pp. I have some planned interal work to be done so that would be nice to get started, but the delay has helped me save more towards it. I wont be going to a bar or restaurant anytime soon. Not because I'm scared, but the lockdown has shown I'm far more intraverted than I'd realised, and plan to use coronavirus as an excurse to carry on in a similar way.

KatnissMellark · 10/05/2020 16:35

No, because I'm none months pregnant, asthmatic and have immune issues. DH, DS and I have been going in short walks but other than that only left the house to collect click and collect groceries or attend hospital appointments.

Once baby is here, the combination of newborn+my asthma and immune issues means we'll likely be careful for a while yet.

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 10/05/2020 16:38

I can’t see much changing bar work. I can’t imagine shopping as a pleasurable activity for some time not meals out etc.

lachy · 10/05/2020 16:40

I would probably go and see my parents. They are desperately missing DD and she them.

I'm in no hurry to make non-essential trips, and as lovely as it is to get together with friends, we've agreed that we'll zoom call because we've got vulnerable parents etc, so while we are missing our catch ups etc, we'll manage zooming for now.

Zenithbear · 10/05/2020 16:45

We're both back at work already although on a rota. We have to do our share of shopping for our vulnerable immediate family who can't go out so already seeing them every week.
Won't go back to shopping for non essentials, have been impressed with online shopping and will continue as I avoid big shops/shopping centres as it is. Only I will definitely go to the garden centre if that opens. We're missing our social life and friends so will be meeting up whenever we are allowed.

Thebearsbunny · 10/05/2020 16:49

We already occasionally drive to exercise as there aren’t many decent walks where we live, plus the local park etc are rammed with people. I’d like to do this more, and travel further afield. We are both introverted so not bothered about mixing with others etc., quite happy to socially distance.

Lostvoiced · 10/05/2020 16:51

I dont know what to do. I don't feel safe.
I have a young baby who has a lot of family, and obviously they cant wait for the lockdown to be lifted because they want to see him. It's going to be hard to tell them they cant once there's no "official" reason.
I might see his grandma once a week or once every other week, but I won't be running to see people.

Bluntness100 · 10/05/2020 16:54

I will go and see friends and family when the restrictions are lifted, have a bit of a social event/party/overnighter. It’s long over due.

For the shops, It will depend on the queues, I’d happily go, but I’m not keen to stand outside a shop queueing for the best part of an hour. I will see my hairdresser as soon as she can see me.

My husband will go on the golf course as soon as he can.

Pinkbubbles12 · 10/05/2020 16:55

I've not been out apart from dog walks! I've stuck to it because the media as scared the shite out of me.

If lock down was lifted, i would see my mum she lives alone 5 minutes away but would continue to do as we are for now.

I was poorly at the start with what could of been corona but not sure, im petrified that if it wasn't my lungs aren't recovered to deal with that on top.

Also as i said above watching the news and reading online is all doom and gloom and has basically made me want to stay in our bubble

mencken · 10/05/2020 16:57

no change for me except an extra walk if that's allowed. New infections are not dropping so we are nowhere near 'there' yet. If the likes of me stay out of the way, those that have to go out and go to work have a better chance of not catching it.

it's not a matter of 'terrified' it is a matter of being able to read a graph and understand numbers.

mencken · 10/05/2020 16:59

@gilead that's no reason not to be hospitalised. Your area will have an informal support group, it is a big ask, but no harm in asking if there is someone who can take on your dog.

KillerofMen · 10/05/2020 17:05

I'm only interested in being able to visit my mum and my mother in law. I have seen MIL because she's shielding so we take her food but can't take the kids etc.

I'm furious at the government and the idea that we can be workers and we can be consumers but we our relationships must be restricted. That's not a life worth living.

ProtectAll · 10/05/2020 17:05

I have not been out apart from a few short walks since lockdown, I understand that I am of higher risk than many, I can and do wfh and will continue, I will not be going into the office nor to the shops.

DH will continue to go to work, where they have social distancing policies in place and to do the necessary shopping. He has visited his DP weekly with their shopping and sits the other side of the garden to them.

Adult D.C. living at home have also both stuck to the rules one has done a few trips to check on relatives and to drop off supplies. They have both on separate occasions dropped off birthday cards and presents but these have all been done as part of their daily exercise and from a distance. This week they had to go to the shop to get some bits as DH was stuck at work that were needed, one drives the other shops, this will continue.

If outdoor gatherings of groups are allowed I am sure they will want to meet up with friends again but before they do that they will need to decide if it is worth the risk. I can’t see then going shopping but then they mainly do that online anyway.

My DM is high risk but I will be visiting under the new guidelines, ideally on warm sunny days so I can stay in the garden. If we are indoors I would want to be 2m apart maybe even in separate rooms.

I would love a hair cut and pedicure but will have to continue with my poor DIY efforts for a long while yet.

For me it is wait and see if the Germans are already experiencing a rise in R I don’t want to be caught in the 2nd wave

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borntohula · 10/05/2020 17:06

I think anyone who is trying to convince themselves that the media hasn't successfully scared people is quite naive. I think a lot of people are frightened.

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corythatwas · 10/05/2020 17:08

If 'lockdown' was lifted tomorrow, would you go on non-essential shopping trips or see your family or friends again?

No. Ds and dh will probably have to go back to work but they won't be doing anything else other than straight there and back and weekly shopping trip. I won't be doing anything I'm not doing now. Even if it wasn't for vulnerable family members, I don't want to add to the NHS crisis or risk more people dead or disabled.

Can't see my family anyway since they live abroad. May never get to see my dad again. And it makes me sad. But I don't want others to die for that.

That curve has not gone down yet. Where we are now, Italy and France weren't even thinking of lifting the lockdown.

HerRoyalNotness · 10/05/2020 17:10

Ours has lifted and we said we’d give it another 2 weeks to see how it was going. Husband is supposed to go back to office to work soon and still wants us to stay home apart from that and food, which I think we will.

Itstheprinciple · 10/05/2020 17:21

I'd see my mum. And let DD see her friends.

iamapixie · 10/05/2020 17:25

I would go back to normal. I am only abiding by the rules because I think it's important generally to be law-abiding.
I am not at all worried about Covid as it presents a very low risk to many.

SeperatedSwans · 10/05/2020 17:27

Yes me and ds would go back to normal for us.

School for DS, working from the office and in the community for me, and trips to the park/beach for a picnic and games.

And my friend coming to visit friday-satirday whilst DS is at his nans. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sandybval · 10/05/2020 17:30

I would go to see family who are all local, although not those who are vulnerable. I find shopping okay at the moment, but would definitely be more mindful and not go just for the sake of it as I sometimes used to.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 10/05/2020 17:36

I would still be staying in. I'm in the shielding group so expecting to have to shield for most of this year