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For anyone adhering strictly to the 'rules...'

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borntohula · 10/05/2020 14:18

If 'lockdown' was lifted tomorrow, would you go on non-essential shopping trips or see your family or friends again? Just wondering what's keeping people so obedient and whether it's because we've been told what we can and can't do or because they are genuinely terrified of the virus (in which case, when will that fear go away and how long are these people willing to go on like this?)

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picklemewalnuts · 10/05/2020 14:57

I really hope that people who are low risk can get out there and restart the economy. That medical services restart. And that everyone who can work from home still does.

If we could achieve that without the rates rocketing up it would be wonderful. I'm staying put as long as I can, because I've got two risk factors.

HandfulOfFlowers · 10/05/2020 14:59

I am only complying because it's been mandated. Personally I am not particularly worried about catching it, ditto for everyone in my household. As soon as restrictions are lifted I will alter my behaviour to comply with those.

Saints13 · 10/05/2020 15:02

No change for me though at least I'd know I can plan to go on my holiday in late September (July's week away I never booked).

Connie222 · 10/05/2020 15:02

Nope. Due a baby in August by c section so will not take any risk before hand, we would stay as we are seeing no one. Also no one will be seeing her for at least 6 weeks after even if things have changed by then (no one saw my other babies for 6 weeks either to be fair).

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borntohula · 10/05/2020 15:06

Connie if nothing else, it's a great excuse for keeping visitors away (I was always miserable and unsociable with a newborn).

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duckme · 10/05/2020 15:08

I'll probably be flamed but, if the briefing tonight said we can mix with other households, then I would do exactly that. I know all of my family-who are not shielding- would do too. My kids have been absolutely amazing throughout this and have obeyed the 'rules' even though we've seen so many others who don't. But this last week or so there is a change in them, especially my 15 year old and two year old. The eldest is becoming withdrawn and looks sad so much of the time now and the toddler seems to have been possessed! I can't blame them. I feel like I've hit my limit for now too. It makes it so hard that every time I look up my street or on social media there are instances of blatant disregard for the rules.
I can't see there being a vaccine for a good long time yet and I honestly can't stay in this situation until that time.

WitsEnding · 10/05/2020 15:08

I've been following the rules because I know consensus only works if the majority confirm; I don't think I'm the exception that can do as they please and act according to their own lights. (Looking at certain relatives who probably think I'm cold-shouldering them).

Late middle aged, fully fit and not scared - I'm keen to meet my friends after 7 weeks on my own, but it will be outdoors not in the pub for the first few weeks while we see how things go.

muddledmidget · 10/05/2020 15:12

No. I work in a pharmacy so am still going to work in a situation where social distancing is impossible so wear PPE to stop me taking out my colleagues if I catch it. I'm still interacting with 100+ people every day. Every extra interaction increases the possibility of me catching covid-19 and passing it onto colleagues and customers. I still have to go to work, I don't have to see friends and family, sit on the beach, go shopping for anything nonessential or drive anywhere unnecessary. So I go to work and stay at home, and I feel myself and those around me are safer if I 'stay at home' rather than 'stay alert' whatever the fuck that means. (of your slogan needs a 10 page document to explain the nuances of it, perhaps it's not the greatest slogan to be using)

Miriel · 10/05/2020 15:16

No. If I thought it was safe to do, I'd be doing it already.

I'm afraid of the virus. I'm afraid of getting seriously ill and struggling to breathe but being told that I'm not ill enough for hospital because my lips aren't blue. I'm afraid that if I die of it I'll be written off as someone with an underlying health condition, even though my condition shouldn't really affect my life expectancy.

I also know that most people who get it recover and are fine - but I still don't want to take unnecessary risks. I stopped going out before the official lockdown because the government's inaction and blasé attitude to mass gatherings terrified me. I don't trust them now. I'll start going out and meeting people when I judge it to be safe.

BruceAndNosh · 10/05/2020 15:21

I doubt I'll change much and it's not through fear, it's more what I want to do won't be available.
So really like eating out and I guess food places will be well down the line of things to reopen.
I also enjoy cooking but at the moment food shopping is a bore so I'll continue only shopping once a week.
No family close by but a couple of friends it would be nice to see.
No interest in queueing for B&Q or the Range, prefer to use smaller local places.
I have a couple of things bought just before lockdown that need to returned if possible.
Otherwise I'd like the Golf course to reopen!

timeforawine · 10/05/2020 15:22

I would see family and friends, not fussed about the shopping, though i am missing grocery shopping, i can't drive so my husband has to do it.

Impiz · 10/05/2020 15:25

The middle group - those who don’t die or recover but are left in comas lasting four weeks or more - are not being reported.

I’m vulnerable but even if I weren’t, no chance would I be doing anything differently.

iklboo · 10/05/2020 15:35

I NEED to go and see my parents (and not in a distanced way). My mum is really poorly but refuses to go to hospital. I'm worried I might not see her again.

ChasingRainbows19 · 10/05/2020 15:40

I work on a children's ward. I've been exposed to it but not sure if I have had a mild dose either.

I'm happy to stay away from people (out of work) for a while longer to help stop the spread. I will see family or friends eventually but probably not in there house or my house at first. Maybe gardens. But not yet.

Lockdown can't last forever I know this but we can't still be really careful if we choose to. For everyone's safety. I'm a big gig goer, we love to travel, eat out and go to bars etc. I'm not comfortable that any of that is safe for a good while, so we shall just carry on now and probably most of summer if cases drop I'll re assess of course.

I'll give places a couple of weeks open at least before I venture back as socially distancing won't be easy or even impossible.

ChasingRainbows19 · 10/05/2020 15:42

@timeforawine my partner drives and sits reading in the car while I shop.... so you could go shopping.

timeforawine · 10/05/2020 15:45

I would @ChasingRainbows19 but he goes after our daughter goes to bed when it's quieter.
Also he'd probably moan at me taking ages while i looked around Grin

Tulipsinmyvase · 10/05/2020 15:46

No to more shopping
Yes to seeing family
No to extended social events
No to kids returning to school

NerrSnerr · 10/05/2020 15:47

I am certainly not terrified, I'm a nurse and have been working all the way through. I have been adhering to the rules and will continue to stay away from others as much as possible as although my immediate family and I are low risk I don't want to pass it on if we're asymptomatic.

Karwomannghia · 10/05/2020 15:56

Yes I’m following rules. I would see friends who were happy to be seen, do everything allowed basically! I wouldn’t see vulnerable people though.

BroomstickOfLove · 10/05/2020 15:57

If the rules were changed but the situation was the same, then I'd do what I was doing in the fortnight before the lockdown - go to work but with lots of cleaning and hand sanitising (and I'd wear a mask, too), order shopping online if possible, and stay in unless I absolutely had to. So like my life now, but in a public-facing job.

HerNameIsIncontinentiaButtocks · 10/05/2020 15:58

"obedient" my arse.

Risk averse, because I'm at risk. I'm not likely to be going back to normal until after vaccination, because if I catch it I'm likely to be buggered.

stayathomer · 10/05/2020 15:59

. I'm a big gig goer, we love to travel, eat out and go to bars etc.
I was saying to dh the one thing I hope can come back fully in the future is gigs. Cant wait for the kids to experience their first one

JustOneSquareofDarkChocolate · 10/05/2020 16:00

I have only followed the rules because to get a police fine for breaching them would be professionally embarrassing and mean the end of my senior role (I have signed the code of conduct for public office). I’m not concerned about catching the virus, if indeed I haven’t already had it. I have had contact with confirmed cases but back in March - and was mildly unwell - but this was where there was only testing for hospital cases.

RaininSummer · 10/05/2020 16:05

My whole household have said that they won't be going anywhere where there are loads of people but myself, oh and dog are looking forward to more interesting walks hopefully.

imsooverthisdrama · 10/05/2020 16:10

Lockdown won't end tomorrow but hypothetically then I'd love to see my mum and my in-laws .
Get the dc back to school and his clubs .
Back to work
I'm not bothered about non essential shops as the queuing and the distancing takes the joy out of shopping anyway and it's very rarely went to the shops anyway , I'm usually a online shopper.
I miss eating out and sitting in the sun in a nice beer garden.
Holidays I miss , days out etc.
Of course family parties, weddings etc these could be a long way off .
I'm reminiscing now , this is why I feel sad we are not living simply existing.
Obviously a lot of these even if I wanted to I couldn't do yet but I wouldn't see my family until I was told it was safe to do so.