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My sis didn't know bra straps are adjustable wtaf

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Crickets · 09/05/2020 12:39

On zoom, one was much higher than the other. She is 40.

If your bra straps fall down off your shoulders, the back is too big and you should go down in inches. If it rides up at the back, your cup size is too small.

Start out wearing your bra on the biggest setting and tighten as it get older.

How do I know these things and she doesn't?

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avroroad · 09/05/2020 12:47

I don't understand. So what if her straps were different lengths? Mine often are, I know they are adjustable all the same, but natural movement means they are not always identical.

The rest of it re sizing, are you just having a rant of is that part of a conversation you had with her?

Makes little to no sense other than you wanting to have a bitch about your sister tbh.

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Crickets · 09/05/2020 13:01

We had a real laugh that her bra was so ill fitting and so easily fixed. Conversations are happy and my sis is one of my best friends.

You either don't have sisters, have the relationship we do or read something in my post that doesn't exist. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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avroroad · 09/05/2020 13:04

Perhaps maybe you didn't give enough information? It wasn't clear either that you talked to her about it or that you have a good relationship.

I can only read what is there. My incorrect reading was down you your lack of detail.

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Sparklfairy · 09/05/2020 13:08

Bra straps confuse me I just can't get my head around how to adjust them and it takes me ten times longer than a normal person. Don't even get me started on doing it up at the back. I have to do it up first and pull it over my head just the way my brain doesn't work!

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Crickets · 09/05/2020 14:34

I fasten at the front and wiggle to the back. I adjust the straps when I put the laundry away. I wash them in the machine and obviously spin them too fast.

This is chat not aibu. Anyone else reading this please assume the best, take it at face value or scroll past No drip feed or backstory. No feelings have been hurt and all are ok that everything is in alignment.

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avroroad · 09/05/2020 14:40

This is chat not aibu.

I never said YWBU

Anyone else reading this please assume the best, take it at face value

That is exactly what I did.

or scroll past No drip feed or backstory.

It was the lack of information in the OP that I was referring to. And yes, popping along layer to say you both had a laugh about it is a bit of a drop feed. From your OP that was not clear. At all.

No feelings have been hurt and all are ok that everything is in alignment.

I'm glad. But please accept I was only responding to the information you gave.

Twenty2 · 09/05/2020 14:50

Slightly off-topic, but until I read it on MN, I didn't realise that lots of women can't or don't fasten their bra at the back. I've always done it that way and I'm not the most supple person, I don't have Mr Tickle arms and I'm a bit, er, portly. In spirit of experimentation, I tried doing it up at the front and swivelling it round and I find that much harder.

lyralalala · 09/05/2020 14:57

You are laughing at your sister having a wrong size bra when yours is big enough to wiggle to the back?

Zaphodsotherhead · 09/05/2020 15:01

I'm really flexible but I CANNOT do my bra up behind me! No idea why not - I do it up at the front and then swivel it round, always have done.

Causes me no end of problems when my bra accidentally comes undone - I have to go to the loo, undress my top half and rectify.

I can, however, do a bikini top up behind me (the ones with those butterfly clasps).

tabulahrasa · 09/05/2020 15:06

“I've always done it that way and I'm not the most supple person, I don't have Mr Tickle arms and I'm a bit, er, portly.”

It’s not the reach around that’s the problem... my arms are quite flexible, I can clasp my hands behind my back, cover myself in sunscreen no problem, all that sort of stuff.

But I can’t do the wee clasps if I can’t see them.

Borgonzola · 09/05/2020 15:06

I read this as an amusing thread

I bought a terrifying sports bra from Sainsbury's the other day that had crossover straps at the back. I tried to put it on the right way round (like you I normally do backwards and then twist, or get front fast-fastening sports bras so I can wrangle my boobs in that way ) before fastening and nearly strangled myself. I then realised you could unclip the crossover straps from the back and have normal front to back straps - thank god for that, as before it seemed to be designed for someone with boobs that sit on their collarbones

TheFaerieQueene · 09/05/2020 15:08

God there are some miseries on here.

dementedpixie · 09/05/2020 15:12

If it rides up at the back then the back size is too big (the cup size may be too small too but primarily its because the back is too big)

Musmerian · 09/05/2020 15:12

@Crickets - if it rides up at the back then the band size is too big- nothing to do with the cup size.

TheMandalorian · 09/05/2020 15:16

I currently have no bra straps.

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Crickets · 09/05/2020 15:22

My bra is the right size. Like Twenty2, I didn't realise there was any other way to put on a bra until I read about back fastening on mn.

This is a very strange subject to feel superior about and I can confirm I don't. To clarify my intent: I'm surprised that a women in her 40s didn't know bras straps and bands are adjustable. No feelings were hurt in real life. I'm wondering how we ever learnt how to put a bra on and if bra related matters were ever discussed in our house growing up? Not that I recall anyway

Not a drip feed, I didn't mention feelings at all so clarified intent and the situation when raised. The first post WAS unintentionally vague about such things. Chat is usually a nicer place than aibu and you can assume the best. If posts are vague, maybe ask for clarification?

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ILoveJoeBrown · 09/05/2020 15:24

I was re-educated about bras by my sisters when I was 40. I'd always been flat chested and spent most of my life braless as I just didn't need one. Then I got breast cancer.

I had a boob job as part of my reconstruction so they showed me how to put my new boobs in a bra!

My current moan is about sports bras that have 3 hooks! I mean, why? It's hard enough getting 2 to line up round your back, let alone 3. I have 2 bras like that and it sometimes takes longer to get the bra on than it does to run round the block.

Twenty2 · 09/05/2020 15:26

*It’s not the reach around that’s the problem... my arms are quite flexible, I can clasp my hands behind my back, cover myself in sunscreen no problem, all that sort of stuff.

But I can’t do the wee clasps if I can’t see them.*

Ah, I see, so it's more a fine-motor thing! I do fumble a little, but I don't find it a huge problem.

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Crickets · 09/05/2020 15:26

Borgonzola sports bras are the devil to put on.

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helpfulperson · 09/05/2020 15:28

Not having worn one for about 7 weeks I'm concerned that I won't know what to do with any of the bits when I come to wear one again!

tabulahrasa · 09/05/2020 15:30

“Ah, I see, so it's more a fine-motor thing! I do fumble a little, but I don't find it a huge problem.”

Yep... I have to put skirts with those clasps on backwards as well and with dresses someone else has to do them for me.

Any other fastenings I’m fine with, it’s something to do with that slotting action and them being so small, lol

Sparrowlegs248 · 09/05/2020 15:32

@Crickets as someone who has taken delivery of several new bras this week, I wonder how on earth she gets them on to start, as all the shoulder straps were done up to to their tightest on the new ones I got. I couldn't have put them on like that, the back strap would be halfway to my neck and the cups under my chin!!

thisenglishlife · 09/05/2020 15:41

Don't even get me started on doing it up at the back. I have to do it up first and pull it over my head
Don't do that @Sparklfairy you're ruining your bra. Do it up at the front, swivel round, adjust the position of your breasts (if required) and then put the straps on.

Untrained · 09/05/2020 17:11

I had one sports bra that you had to put on over your head. I pulled a muscle just getting the bloody thing on!

mencken · 09/05/2020 17:49

I was also wondering how she gets them on in the first place. In a classic example of woman-work, they are sold with the straps on minimum length so unless your boobs grow from the top of your shoulders, you have to lengthen the straps first. And if you try a bra on and then put it back, someone is tasked to shorten the straps again so it looks tidy on the hanger.

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