Neighbours fence

[amazedmummy]

Next door neighbours pulled down their low fence in the back garden yesterday evening and set it on fire. They are now building a new higher one and have been doing it since 8:30.
DS had a bad night and I was really looking forward to catching up on some sleep so I am grumpy.
I feel like it's a big fuck you fence because I get the feeling that they don't like us that much.
Just having a moan really.

Oh and he's not doing it himself, he's got 2 guys in and they are not socially distancing at all. I also doubt swapping one fence for another is "essential" at this time.

Its his fence so he can do what he wants - just think of the privacy and the money you have saved not having to do it yourself

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Let me give you one of life's good tips.
Good fences make good neighbours.

I'm not disputing that he can do what he wants but did he have to do it during lockdown? Also I personally would have told a neighbour that they were about to be on the other side of a 6ft fence. It's also very close together and it'll block out a lot of our light.

I'd be very grateful TBH. Fences are expensive and I like privacy in my garden.

Now more than ever they probably want some privacy.

I'd be absolutely delighted if my neighbours replaced a low fence with a high one. I'd hate to be overlooked in my garden.

If they don't like you then a high fence is a good thing.
Lockdown is as good a time as any to do it - you might be more annoyed if the waited until things were normal and then disturbed precious weekend lie in by hammering in the garden. Really there's no good time to do it and if it's a one off and they aren't constantly doing noisy DIY then you can't reasonably be cross.

I'm not disputing that he can do what he wants but did he have to do it during lockdown

When was he supposed to do it exactly?

2.30am?

Be grateful he is doing it at his own expense and that he cant get a one-sided fence. You sound deranged and totally unreasonable - no wonder he's installing a bigger fence!

I’d hate a low fence. Would’ve been polite to tell you in advance. If the workmen are constantly working together it might be hard to socially distance from each other although they should be avoiding contact with the householder.

You'll learn to love the fence as it's going to make your garden more private too.
It's not a fuck you fence and will barely affect the light! Don't take it personally. Have a cup of tea and go and lie on the sofa watching crap telly. You'll soon feel better about it.

Do they need access to your garden? If not why would he tell you

@FartingInTheFence ah the classic. I am not deranged and I haven't said a word to them. I'm just upset. They used to say hi over the fence and talk to DS. Their wee bunny runs about the garden and DS liked looking at it if we were out. Now they've stuck up a big fence and we probably won't see them again. I know it's not logical but it makes me sad.

And @StoorieHoose yes they were in my garden this morning.

But you said they don't like you and it's a fuck off fence? Make your mind up

So if they were in your garden yes they should have mentioned it to you. Why don't you speak to them and say something?

I’d love a higher fence than a low one! Yabu

@StoorieHoose no I suspect they don't like me. They used to say hi and I think they like the baby. Most people like babies. I like them enough. I hear them taking to our other neighbours though and no I don't think they like us. We haven't got the money to fix up the house but it's clean and tidy.

You have your answer.
They don't want your dc spying in their garden...

Now they've stuck up a big fence and we probably won't see them again. I know it's not logical

...and you also said you think that they dont like you.

Yep, sounds deranged to me.

@StoorieHoose I don't want to make it a bigger deal than it needs to be so I thought I'd moan here (away from AIBU) rather than turn it into a thing.

Probably putting a big fence up before you start using garden toys like swings and trampolines which would ruin any of their peace with a low fence

@FartingInTheFence I haven't gone up to them and asked them if they like me. I'm not in a school playground. Deranged how? Medically insane? Probably not no.

You’re just tired. It won’t take too long and you’ll have a strong fence that gives you privacy and protection. Yes it would’ve been nice to tell you, but it’s not the end of the world.

@StoorieHoose they've had a 6ft trampoline for at least 2 years. Also DS is 5 months old, we're still a bit away from any of that.