Had to rescue mum tonight (DV)

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I really want my mum to leave my dad. She's disabled both are over 65. Tonight he attacked her and she snapped and hit him in the face. He's since been phoning saying she blinded him.

This has been ongoing for years. Along with mental abuse as well, he says the most despicable things and is the most controlling person I've ever met. As a child I had to call the police due to dvd (him attacking her).

I'm going to try and get her to speak to a divorce lawyer tomorrow. Please leave messages of support. She's had 45 years of this the worthlessness and being worn down. I so wish she would have the strength to leave. He's such a bastard

Really didn't want her to go. But cannot force it. Much as I want to. Just hope she's ok 😭

Bit numb to it to be honest. She will never LTB for good I don't think

It's ghastly. It's the worst thing, how women cannot leave men who are so horrible to them.

I’m sorry, it must be so hard for you.

Was she able to tell you why?

There isn’t always a clear reason, always, it just is.

Mum is back here. I think she's having a break down. She's exceedingly drunk. She's going to stay with her sister who lives a fair way away for a while

Oh dear 😟

How are you coping OP?

Wow! That's good. Breakdown and drink are helping her change and leave I think - not the time to worry too much about that bit. Going far away to her sister's is MASSIVE progress. Support this bit, worry about the rest later. What does sister know?

she can call WA she doesn't have to go anywhere
refuges are open and accepting people even during lockdown
she can look at freedom programme on line
be aware though that she is at very high risk right now- when women finally find the strength to leave is when men step up their abuse massively