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Blaring music in the back garden - why???

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Lottapianos · 26/04/2020 15:27

Next door neighbour has music blaring loudly in his garden. I just dont get this - what is it about sunshine that makes some people crank it right up to 11? Play music if you want but if you live in a row of terraced houses rather than the middle of a field, maybe keep it down a bit!

I do feel lucky because:

  • hes generally a very pleasant bloke
  • I have a garden to sit in
  • its actually decent music, not shite
  • I would rather this all day long than the sound of screaming kids or barking dogs

But still..... it's just unnecessary isnt it?

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Cherrysoup · 26/04/2020 15:33

Should be illegal with massive fines. Ridiculously anti-social, I hate it.

Nomorewineever · 26/04/2020 15:38

Yes it is. Is he alone? If so, he could happily be listening to music at a level akin to inducing ear bleeding with no intrusion to anyone else.

I think personally you should ask him to turn it down.

Can you imagine a world in which you could read your book ‘loudly’ or ‘silently’ - the loud version being some dystopian world where every time you read a sentence it could be heard in your neighbours heads, whether they wanted to hear it or not. There you are, pegging out your washing or weeding when into your ears comes -‘well, Daphne said, i personally felt James was the most likely Suspect yada yada yada yada’ and you can’t get away from hearing it,

Everyone would say reading like that is antisocial and annoying, and if there is a way to do it quietly then you should. Thereby you still get your music and everyone else can hear their own music (through their ears) or enjoy the peace.

Except when I want to read my book quietly I have to listen to shit-FM, whether I want to or not.

As you can probably tell, this drives me bat shit on a regular basis.

teqcar · 26/04/2020 15:39

My neighbours have had the most ridiculous dance music banging away for weeks now. Every. Single. Day. Angry

BobbinThreadbare123 · 26/04/2020 15:40

It's always the people with the worst taste in music as well.....

Rumboogie · 26/04/2020 15:44

When I was growing up we were taught that radios in the garden were a massive no-no, intrusive and bad manners. Apparently no longer in many people's upbringing - is it just part of the Me Generation?

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Lottapianos · 26/04/2020 15:44

Yes hes alone
Like I say, the music choice was not bad at all (Massive Attack). If it was, for example, Lewis Capaldi or Robbie Williams , I would be climbing over the fence with a carving knife Grin

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superram · 26/04/2020 15:45

They are walkers!

MsTSwift · 26/04/2020 15:46

Even more unforgivable if he’s on his own. Headphones?!?!
We are paranoid that our neighbours not disturbed if we have music on in house all bifolds closed. Special place in hell for idiots like your neighbour

lifestooshort123 · 26/04/2020 15:48

It's a selfish thing to do, if he's generally a decent bloke perhaps he doesn't realise how intrusive it is for the neighbours?

TwoZeroTwoZero · 26/04/2020 16:42

Live and let live in my opinion. There are probably a few things you do that annoy your neighbours that they have to put up with so a bit of inoffensive music doesn't really matter.

Qwerty543 · 26/04/2020 16:43

Just been thinking the same as my neighbours keep sitting out the front with their (shite) music blaring. Yesterday I had to turn my tv up to try and block it out.

gavisconismyfriend · 26/04/2020 16:54

Yep, same issue here. Except that the music choice is terrible too....

Planetzog · 26/04/2020 16:56

It's so fucking selfish, our neighbour does it too. - has had his kitchen folding doors open since the sunny weather began, he works from the kitchen and has extremely loud phone calls and non stop pounding music all day long. We're in a terrace and I should think there are at least 10 gardens who can hear it.

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Lottapianos · 26/04/2020 17:08

'Live and let live in my opinion. '

Any exceptions to this rule, just out of curiosity?

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Chiyo666 · 26/04/2020 17:11

If it’s in sociable hours then theres nothing wrong with it. It’s no more annoying than lawn mowers, children screaming or people doing DIY.

Dubbadubbadumdum · 26/04/2020 17:12

One of my neighbours is "a DJ". I'm used to hearing his music at rather loud levels and at all times of the day and night, but for the sake of a quiet life, I ignore it. He decided that he's going to stage a music event every week, that went from one hour to fours hours "and sure I might play longer, we'll see how it goes" after having one reply to his Facebook post asking if the neighborhood would like a free gig.

I kind of lost my shit and replied and told him it was out of order to inflict his shit music choices on everyone, and he had a bit of a tantrum and decided it was all off, then blocked me on Facebook(no doubt to bitch and post passive aggressive memes about me) We've had blessed peace since, just the birds singing Grin

I'm not averse to music in people's gardens, it's part of normal life, but the last time he "played a free gig" I could feel the music vibrating through my body and was nauseous because of it. He's also a shit DJ, who has all the gear but can't quite manage to use it properly, and has really poor taste in music.

Rainbowb · 26/04/2020 17:13

We have one the same. Plays loud music and is forever sawing wood and smoking us out with bonfires!

Bert2e · 26/04/2020 17:14

Do you live near me?! I have a neighbour who does this and we finally snapped and asked them to turn it down last week (we put up with it all last summer as well). It did not go down well. I also know all about their entire lives as they spend the whole day on the garden on the phone or video calls at volume. I'm feeling the need for a full day of Wagner at volume!!

TwoZeroTwoZero · 26/04/2020 17:21

"Live and let live in my opinion."
Any exceptions to this rule, just out of curiosity?
Not really. At least, none that I can think of, unless your neighbours were raging smackheads or something.

Music, BBQs, children playing, dogs barking, power tools, lawnmowers etc. All of them have the potential to be annoying but you just have to learn to tune it out because otherwise you'll be constantly annoyed and never use your garden unless you move to a house in the middle of nowhere.

mencken · 26/04/2020 17:33

live and let live does not apply if you are inflicting your pig-like behaviour on the neighbours. Put the damn headphones on, there is NO need to blast out music. Especially if you are alone. What a dickhead.

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Lottapianos · 26/04/2020 18:26

'live and let live does not apply if you are inflicting your pig-like behaviour on the neighbours'

Well I would tend to agree, but I do see the sense in accepting that arseholes are gonna arsehole, and trying to accept it as part of living next door to people. Much easier said than done of course!

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Deathraystare · 26/04/2020 18:32

If you have a partner - start up a very juicy conversation - as sensational as you can with othe odd (very odd) bit loud but mostly to soft for him to hear. He may well turn it down at least temporarily.

If you have kids allow them permission to scream and yell in the garden for once.

Do you have barking dogs?

Can you mow the lawn or do something else that makes a noise?

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Lottapianos · 26/04/2020 18:36

Partner, but no kids or pets. He now has a friend round and I heard talk of 'shot glasses' Hmm hes around 50 by the way, not some daft 21 year old. Have moved indoors, and can still hear them, but its distant enough to not be annoying.

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OhMargo · 26/04/2020 18:48

Years ago in a former house, had the same issue. Drove me nuts.

One day I put my head over the fence and asked them were they having a good time. They said yes, I said well I'm not and you are dreadful neighbours only thinking of yourselves, I have a migraine and feel sick. Would you mind turning it down, or using headphones for everyone's sake.

To my utmost surprise they did. And that was that. Still keep in contact today. Sometimes people just don't "get it" by themselves.

beachcomber70 · 26/04/2020 18:48

I've just posted about this same problem. The bloke behind me does this every lovely sunny afternoon and it goes on for hours. I can hear it when I'm inside the house with all windows and doors shut. I can hear it when I go into the front garden too as the sound travels all over the area.

He's a selfish bully. And I shall be moving before next summer, I've decided.