How motivated are you after 5 weeks in lockdown?

[Ladywinesalot]

I started off in happy and determined to keep the dc’s mental health well, which thankfully so far they are happy.

However after 5 weeks I am in a state.

I have a small business and it looks like it won’t survive the lockdown.

I no longer want to try new recipes, read books, speak to friends or learn new skills.

I’m still going for daily walks only because I’m trying to reverse the 10lbs I have put on since the beginning of March.

I’ve just lost my lust for life and have become incredibly passive with daily crying outbursts.

I don’t know how to feel better.

Bit like you really, started off enthusiastically then it went downhill.

Can you find ways to relax like breathing, meditation, tranquil music then get on with the things you used to enjoy? Build up a schedule?

Oh and stay away from too much news

@Frownette Glad I’m not the only one.
I have a schedule for the dc, but once that’s done I don’t know what to do.

I’m really missing having a purpose to my day and like most ppl, seeing others.

Definitely feeling lockdown fatigue now, just to be clear I'm still abiding by the rules, but the bad/iffy days are increasing against good/ok days.

DS is four next month and I'm worried he isn't himself, probably bored and I'm worried about what all this means for him starting school in September. He has a speech and language delay and EHCP and I'm nervous about his readiness for school.

If it's safe, I'm so hopeful that some measures can be lifted early May.

I’m the same. Lacking enthusiasm now. I’m half wondering if I’m getting depressed. Normally my mental health is ok, but It feels exactly like my post natal depression which I had 10 years ago. Frustration, lack of enthusiasm, lethargy, basically don’t give a shit, interspersed with sudden rage. Need this to end soon or my mental health will be totally shot.

I try to stick to a routine to give my day some structure. Some days it helps, other days I find it stressful and it pushes me over the edge! There’s no pleasing me at the moment

Meh. DP is urging me to do more fulfilling things than play the Sims in my downtime but I’m cool with it. Our lives are on hold, we’re killing time, why pretend otherwise? I’m very happy in the sun with my silly game...

I’m really up and down tbh. Some days I get up and jump out of bed, shower, eat a healthy breakfast and walk the dog and then clean the house and other days I sit in bed till 11, drinking tea, reading or pissing about online then move to the sofa to watch Netflix. No rhyme or reason!

My mental health is better. For the first couple of weeks I was really quite upset by lockdown and how restrictive it was. It's funny though how things quickly become 'the new normal.'

I'm afraid things like. stay healthy, schedules, homeschooling have seriously slid now. The DC are still doing a couple of hours a day but there is far more chocolate and Xbox than there really should be.

Still keeping busy. I'll start getting anxious and depressed if I don't - I've always been a bit like that though. If I'm not working or doing stuff with the kids I'm cleaning/gardening etc. I only relax in the evenings like I've always done. I go through periods where I feel really down about all this but it tends to pass in a few days. Feeling ok right now - glad I still have things at weekends like zoom calls (with wine!) to look forward to as it keeps me going tbh.

I'm the same, although I'm retired and used to having plenty of time to myself, I'm really lacking in any motivation. I'm on the verge of crying most of the time. We're not allowed out at all in Spain and the police are very keen . You have a form to show if you go shopping, it's one in a car etc. I just bake, knit, drink and watch any crap tv that's on. It's been really bad weather so that's helped ,but I'm so very down at the moment, l feel life is passing me by.

I’m a hit all over the place. Yesterday’s as a good day, I did an exercise dvd, the kids behaved well and we got a good amount of school done. I also had a nice long solo walk.
Today I didn’t get out of bed until 10:30, I’ve only done 681 steps and have slumped on the sofa a lot. Kids have been fighting and we’ve probably managed about 15m of school work. Can’t be bothered to cook anything for tea either so will probably just chuck them some snacks and crack open the wine.
I find it tends to be one extreme or another for me, either I’m positive and productive or I spend most of the day obsessively watching the news and doing nothing. The two main factors seem to be exercise and news watching levels!!
I’m a sahm but dh industry is completely closed and will take a very long time to recover if at all. He’s remaining positive but it’s this awful dark cloud hanging over me - if they remain shut for as long as seems possible we will be completely screwed.

I’m ok but still got the routine of going to work.

I'm not. I'm on furlough and the longer the lockdown goes on the less likely it is that I'll have a job to go back to. I'm eating and drinking more. Trying to keep on top of schoolwork with DS but he's not interested and it's a struggle.

The first 2-3 weeks DS1, then me and DS2 were ill with (possibly) corona virus.

The next week I tried to do too much (baking! education! sort out the flat!) when I was still recovering and got a bit stressed

This week I'm fine as I've realised my 4 year old is happiest on his scooter or playing trains more than doing crafts etc, and If I sit down and watch tv he'll come join me. Plus, I feel like the end is in sight so I'm trying to think about the summer (doing my dissertation and hopefully seeing grandparents again)

@DaisylovesDonald yes I’ve been like that, days of either productive or procrastinating.

I’m really tired of this all now...

Same here really

I cba

I'm like @Pogmella tbh. Not expecting too much of myself. Enjoying the sunshine, not beating myself up. Be kind to yourself.

I seem to have one good day then two bad. Been like this throughout.
My worst night I sat in my car crying for two hours thinking I can’t take this much longer.

If anything I feel better now than I did in week one. Definitely better than I did when all this was beginning to unfold - then I was in manic terror mode, glued to the tv/news sites and catastrophising. I still have wobbles but I've made my peace with it, it is what it is. I'm worried about getting cv - I have an underlying health condition so if I do, it'll likely be bad - but other than being reasonably vigilant (hand washing, social distancing, no shopping washing here because down that road a different kind of madness lies) there's nothing else I can do. It's been a bit of a lesson in letting things go that you can't control for me.

Today I went for my first ever run. It was 6am and the streets were completely empty, it was beautifully clear and warm and sunny, blossom everywhere. I'm in a large city and I didn't see a soul apart from the occasional car for a whole hour. I'd never have got around to starting to run before the lockdown, even though I've wanted to for years. I'll go again tomorrow, and every morning from now on if I can. I'm trying to see one positive, however small, every day. That was today's (although the big glass or four of wine I'll have later will be another!).

My small business (hospitality) has been killed by the virus. Stone dead. Luckily, I have a second string, which enables me to earn the minimum wage over this period, working from home. Having something to do makes all the difference. I feel busy, not enough time to do all the things I want to do. Teenage DD is getting up at 5.30 in the morning (I get up at 9ish) and spending most of the day doing educational (ish) things, like reading, cooking, practising musical instruments, learning languages. I'm paying for language lessons over Skype, which is helping a lot. I really recommend it. Her school hasn't given her any work yet. She also does quite a lot of housework, and has started painting the garden fence. So I think she'll come out of this ok. And being allowed to go out for walks makes a big difference to me, though DD's not too bothered.

We were self isolating then I was ill before the lockdown, we've been home for 6 and a half weeks. DH is in charge of the children while I wfh, they had 6 solid hours on screens this morning and I didn't have it in me to make it stop.

Gone massively downhill this week, felt ok until this point. The DC have been bickering all week which is driving me bonkers, they’re just understandably bored and frustrated. Tried my best with homeschooling but again, it’s resulted in a lot of whinging and bickering.

I’m pregnant so don’t feel safe even going for a walk, I barely leave the house. Feeling rather deflated and depressed.

But when she painted the garden fence today, the neighbour went right up to his side of the fence and criticised how she was doing it. He was about a foot away from her. So I'm really hoping he doesn't have the virus. What an idiot.

OP, I'm the same. Started off five weeks ago with great plans, now I've no motivation to do anything. I'm not usually a weepy person... the last couple of weeks I'm crying every day. I'm also out of work. Living on my own away from boyfriend and family. Some days I find it hard to even get dressed now.