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AuntieSocia1 · 22/04/2020 16:06

Apologies for the very unsnazzy title but as it suggests a place to chat for those who have to shield at the moment. A few of us have been talking on the the Shielding after lockdown thread in the coronavirus topic.

Thought I'd put this in chat as some days I'm guessing we'll want to chat about anything other than coronavirus!

I know all of our circumstances are quite different as well as the reason we need to shield but it's a pretty big thing to have in common. Despite my username I look forward to interacting with you and as my username suggests I might also slink off from time to time!

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Methtones · 17/05/2020 17:40

ceecee32 congrats on day 100! That's bloody amazing! I hit day 3652 in June (not that I'm counting) but remember being really chuffed when I got to day 100.

Enjoy your curry, try not to worry. If you have enough cash to round up with a tip I'd just leave it out.

ceecee32 · 17/05/2020 19:04

Fuzzy and Methtones - thank you.

Really enjoyed my food and eaten more than i have in months. I just have this guilty feeling that i shouldn't have had it and that I might have exposed myself to the virus. Just shows what sheilding does to the brain.

And Methtones, marvellous result for you, I am aiming for similar Grin

BeyondDreamsOfBeyondFourWalls · 17/05/2020 19:28

Hiya everyone :)

I had a bit of a break from mn but I'm back. Been shielding since the first week of March, but actually finally had a letter to back up my (to me) paranoid hypochondria last week

NervousInYorkshire · 17/05/2020 20:24

@ceecee32 congratulations on the 100 days!
I know what you mean about The Fear - I got an UnSunday roast delivered yesterday because I have been obsessing about one for ages, and spent a chunk of last night being 'NOOOOOOO! WHAT HAVE I DONE???'.
It was delicious though Blush

Today's excitement is that I've had an email from the ZOE covid app people inviting me to have a test - I don't drive but apparently can order a home one. I think I might do it..

TitsalinaBumSquash · 17/05/2020 21:10

I'm shattered, I just cannot sleep for more than a few minutes at a time and even then into crappy light sleep that doesn't make me feel refreshed.
I also have wicked heart burn which doesn't help!
'School' again tomorrow, it seems like the weekend has barely been here, it's like Groundhog Day.

Lots of people have been chatting about their choice to send kids back or not on June 1st and I'm really feeling left behind while the world keeps moving but also glad I don't have to make that choice.
I've done a few decluttering projects this weekend, just areas that have got piled with 'stuff' I've put all the bin bags of cleared out clothes/shoes and rubbish into the car, that way they're not in the house and as soon as we can we'll drive to the tip and recycle/bin it all, it's good feeling like I'm doing something at least.

I'm also doing an evening creative writing course which is giving me something the look forward to every day and I can sneak my writing out there without being too brave about it as it gets reviewed by other students.

BeyondDreamsOfBeyondFourWalls · 17/05/2020 21:51

I'm not sleeping properly either, and feel you on the heartburn.

My parents are also a shielding household as my grandfathers (both sides - my poor mum!) have moved in. So I'm weighing up just how wrong it would be for the kids to go for a sleepover so I can just get five minutes to myself! That's if the DCs would go though - given they don't want to see their dad because of the risk of bringing it back to me.

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 17/05/2020 22:53

im so over being sick. i take forty pills, two inhalers a day plus an injection every two weeks and i STILL feel like crap every day of my life. I need a body transplant or soemthing

LadyDoc1 · 17/05/2020 23:02

Shielding since March, only left the flat for hospital visits.
Out of work a few weeks, recovering from 6 recent hospital admissions and 4 spinal operations and nursed flat. Interview on Thursday for a new role, 90 minute video call.
Since then I've been in agony, currently lying on a heat pack mooing like a cow.
I miss being able to move without the anticipation of pain so much, human contact, feeling like me again.
Boils my piss seeing people whine about pubs not being open, holidays cancelled etc.
Hopefully we will get through this and things will change for the better!

MarieVanGoethem · 18/05/2020 07:48

Have written this over about 5h30 of drifting in & out of pain-punctuated sleep; so apologies if it has any spectacular errors &/or if I’ve missed anyone. On plus side, somehow have mostly been having quite innocuous dreams. Weird & vivid, but nothing frightening &/or doom-laden. Indeed, I have invented several things just tonight that are particularly splendid & I’m really quite disappointed they don’t exist, frankly. At least I know they don’t exist though. Unlike my teenage attempts to buy the book of mixed plain & manuscript paper I was convinced existed. In fairness, everyone I asked about it got all excited about it & was after having one too. So not a stupid thing to have dreamt up. Just really embarrassing not to have correctly filed it as imaginary.
And now am going to shut up & get some sleep before my dietitian appointment later to try to ensure that it is as useful as possible & minimise risk of saying something ridiculous!

@OrganTransplant123
That’s so sweet of you! My trouble with the elusive article, however, is that it was written for the British Medical Association Northern Ireland branch's annual report of 1895–1896, not the BMJ. It’s a catchy wee title mind: A Curious Condition of Placenta and Membranes. Hence my thinking I’ll be needing to hie me to the Wellcome when such a thing is possible; but if you’ve access & time to look that’d be amazing.

@AuntieSocia1
Sorry you’re having a rough time atm. Fatigue is horrendous isn’t it? You’re a shocking bad influence though: I’ve now 2 duvet sets on order from Aldi (so need to be ordering sheets & extra pillowcases). I was vastly more tempted than a grown woman should have been by the idea of an invisibility cloak Blush

@Megatron
My portacath management is having to be done at a COVIDy hospital. That I’ve to travel to from the middle of a hotspot. I’ve done one visit so far & everyone worked really had to keep me as safe as possible - my haematologist came down to meet me with a mask at a quiet entrance & stayed with me throughout then walked me right back to my Daddy’s car. It’s scary, but give them a ring & see what they say about you going in: if the benefits of them seeing you significantly outweigh the risks they’ll work to protect you as far as they can - my visit is timed so it’s just after the department has had its during-day clean. They’ll have lots of shielding patients to consider in that department so should have a really good plan in place by this point.

@DissociatedDinosaur @Onmyown1 @Potentialmadcatlady
Dedicated Outside Time for the shielding group would be amazing. Unfortunately I think we would need to venture into Sinister Dystopian Methods to actually enforce it. (Trying to go out when it’s not your turn [& not an emergency]? Yes you have just been zapped by Sinister Monitoring System. Zap zap zap. Sinister System does not care you keep whinging on about being “high risk”, you’re getting a zap if you try it on.)
But if we could have it, have you places you’d go? I know that I’d start with my closest park (at the top of my road) & playing Pooh Sticks (gloves!) & feeding the denizens of the duckpond. Then progress to the park slightly beyond the end of my road to play Pooh Sticks in the river there & see if I can’t spot the kingfishers & check how N’s memorial tree is. And once my legs have remembered how walking works, it would be up over the Heath & through the Park (seeing the deer!) & down to the Thames. Mudlarking, even, Time & Tide Permitting. Literally, not some weird permission slip from a defunct magazine...

@Pebble21uk
I’m often dreaming of being out somewhere busy & suddenly realising/remembering that I mustn’t be. I know what you mean about developing a fear of being out Blush

@Babysharkdoodoodood
Down to 59 from 84 is significant improvement though. I know it’s not in range, but if it’s not bouncing back up it sounds like you’re getting as much out of your body as you can when it’s coping with so much stuff trying to throw it out of kilter. It’s frustrating when you do it all right & your body doesn’t play nicely.
Glad you’d a nice time - albeit at considerable distance - with your family: sounds fun Grin
Good luck with the bulbs...

@FuzzyPuffling
We got Peace-And-Love-d by MNHQ the other day, so you should be ok. Am sorry you felt you’d to leave; & that you’re having a rough time atm.

@ceecee32
Congratulations on reaching the 100-day mark. I hope you enjoyed your takeaway Grin Completely understand you having The Fear of it - I’ve not ordered any takeaway since February, even though I know it should be perfectly safe. Gah.

@LadyDoc1
Do you know when you’ll hear back about your interview? Will hold my thumbs for you. Am sorry yhou’re having such a tough time at the moment & I really hope things improve soon. Is your surgical recovery time a marathon one?

Potentialmadcatlady · 18/05/2020 13:03

I have a two parks and various large open spaces about 5mins walk away... for the first week I took my dogs on my own to get a run about when I knew no one was likely to be around.. on my last day ‘out’ one woman approached my dogs and tried to stroke them- I asked her not to touch them and she went daft demanding to stroke my dogs...( both on leads and right beside me at that point) so I headed for home.. on the way there a man on a bicycle cycled into me and one of the dogs on the footpath ( massive footpath about three metres wide- it was why I came home that way)... no apologies etc just got up and went on his way.. by that point my teen had been shielding for a week.. I havnt been back out since.. I just couldn’t take the chance and my anxiety just couldn’t cope...

ceecee32 · 18/05/2020 16:31

Just been trying to sort out my recurring online Asda shopping. For some reason or other it would not let me check out. Just kept getting a message that my delivery slot could not be confirmed.
Spoke to the helpline and the priority helpline who both said to keep trying (even though I had been trying since 9 this morning !) but that I would loose the delivery slot if still unsuccesful.
I thought I would try to book another delivery slot and it let me check out ... strange.

Its only 2 days later than the original - but i am going too run out chocolate !!!

SweetMarmalade · 18/05/2020 16:40

Does anyone know what’s going to happen after 12 wks?

I think at the moment the fact that he can furlough me, suits my boss, although I’m not sure how long he’ll be happy doing this!

I’m beginning to feel increasingly worried every time there’s a news update with the easing out of lockdown. Has there been any update on those of us shielding?

BeyondDreamsOfBeyondFourWalls · 18/05/2020 18:09

Ceecee, do you use the app? I had trouble with that, but it checks out fine on the website

FuzzyPuffling · 18/05/2020 18:38

The only update we have had is that the original 12 weeks has been extended until 30th June (this is the date on the Govt website now).
As regards anything else - nowt.

I have emailed my MP to express my concern at the lack of information, but again, nowt.

SweetMarmalade · 18/05/2020 19:53

@FuzzyPuffling thank you, I’ve not seen this new date, do you have a screen shot or link for this info?

My original letter is dated 26/3/2020 so almost takes me to that date anyway, wk before I think.

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 18/05/2020 20:08

i am beyond furious. Boots pharmacy have completely cocked up my repeat prescriptions then blaming the gps surgery for it. they said the doctors never sent the prescription whent he actual truth is boots never ordered it like they should have. now i have no meds for at least 2 days while it gets sorted. Ill be firing off a huge complaint once im calm enough to think straight. this is not the first time theyve messed up but its the outright lies im not happy with they, they told me on friday they had the prescriptions, they just needed making up, they lied, they never sorted it out, never requested it and im not on meds that can just be stopped cold turkey. gps are furious as well. What makes it worse is that i have called the pharmacy OVER 500 times the last two days and what do you know, they have the phone off the hook. it took someone going in for me to find out what they'd done and then multiple calls to the gps to find out it wasnt their fault but the pharmacy at fault :(

finished31 · 18/05/2020 20:19

@OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack can they not 'lend' you the meds until the script comes through. I know some chemists do this.

Not good though

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 18/05/2020 20:21

unfortunately not finished because they are controlled drugs, they cannot be issued in any way without a signed prescription from the doctors. theyve done similar to this before by 'losing' my prescriptions but never as bad as this cock up. it just means im goignt o suffer like hell for the next few days until they get it sorted out

FuzzyPuffling · 18/05/2020 21:14

onenightthat really sucks. I'm so sorry.

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 18/05/2020 21:20

im tryign to calm down enough to write a complaint. Im going to feel like hell for the next few days and a few days after i finally get my meds. Theres a reason some of my drugs are controlled and cant be stopped cold turkey. I just cant get my brain in order to write a proepr complaint yet. i really am furious

Babysharkdoodoodood · 18/05/2020 21:48

@OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack This always worries me as well. I'm on gabapentin which apparently is hellish for cold turkey so I always have loads stockpiled. I also worry about what would happen if I went into hospital. Do I need to take everything with me or do they give it out at rounds?

Terrible news today. My eldest son called. His paternal grandad died yesterday. Not cv related they think. He'd just got up had a cup of tea got dressed and his wife couldn't find him and went to look for him and just found him in his bedroom. Such a shock. She had an accident a few years ago and has had the house all fitted with stairlifts etc. Luckily the sons and daughter are all rallying round and my son has said social distancing just went to hell yesterday. I just wanted to hug him but just had to give him a virtual hug via the iPad. So so sad, he was a lovely bloke.

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 18/05/2020 21:51

Sorry to hear abotu your sons grandfather babyshark terribly sad

yeah gabapentin is hell to cold turkey off and im one step above on pregabalin which is just as hellish to come off cold turkey. plu sim on controlled painkillers and the withdrawal from them is essentially like coming off heroin so its not going to be fun for the next week or so. Im still really angry and waiting until i can compose a rational email complaint

Sorryoo · 19/05/2020 08:03

Sorry this is just a quick post for @OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack I think it's worth speaking to your GP again and if you get no joy, the practice manager. They can usually sort most stuff out quickly and it least it's not a Friday!

My GP has sent electronically my recent prescriptions (to Boots!) for all drugs including controlled (tramadol and morphine) and someone has been able to collect on my behalf - they did have to bring ID to prove they were over 18. She also issued one controlled drug as a "new" prescription - so not on my repeat prescription - off the back of a telephone conversation with me. This was 1st May so very recent.

So it can be done (assuming you are in England which I think you are?) and they need to get their finger out for you. Definitely speak to the practice manager if your GP is obstructive. PM if you want any further details!

I have also been given an additional script of six weeks meds so I have no chance of running low (these include an AED it was feared they have may have a shortage of so perhaps this was a reason as obviously you stop or change brands instantly).

It infuriates me that healthcare is so patchy - my GP now is great but I had problems with a different one who seemed to be wilfully obstructive but the practice manager sorted it quickly so hopefully it will be the same for you (I am sure you have the feeling of I don't need all this fucking hassle it's just too much on top of everything else and sympathise with you here!)

ThanksCake and Brew to all and very sorry I can't name check and do proper replies (and be as detailed as marie's lovely posts!) especially to those really struggling but sending love and thoughts.

I actually came on to say I was flouncing leaving MN for a while - after 15 years! - as there seems to be so many total knobheads about atm especially about shielding people. Yesterday was a bad day and I'm very low. But I will try and stay and restrain myself from opening any threads apart from this, Playmopeople and Thug Cat as this is such a nice supportive thread and you all understand.

Gilead · 19/05/2020 08:27

Aaaargggh! I start a new biologic this week, AND have had to double my steroids. I have to shield from the beginning again! 😢

OneNightTimeMenaceStrikesBack · 19/05/2020 08:40

sorryoo the gps are great, never had a single issue with them, its this particular pharmacy alwasy getting it wrong. Every time i ring the gps to chase my prescriptions, its ALWAYS the pharmacy at fault and they never apologise or do better. This was the ifnal straw, i finally got it together enough last night to write out a huge complaint and ill be moving pharmacies as soon as i can. I take forty pills a day plus two inhalers, its not a small amount of medication to mess up and they well know i cant just stop some of them, the amount of problems ive let go time and time again is obscene tbh and im done with it. Ive refrained from hitting them all over social media until i get some sort of reply to my complaint. will see what they have to say and whether they actually apologise this time