Has DH gone overboard for DC's birthday?

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I'd say so. It'll be her third birthday. DH said he'd pick out the stuff to give me one less thing to think about. He's not clueless and I trust his judgement but I think it's overboard. I suggested saving some for Christmas but he says it's not necessary. He's ordered:

A baby born bottle house with an extra doll
Fishing game
Princess vanity case
Ballerina doll (that moves)
Ballerina costume
Toy till and some accessories to go with it
Toy camera
A fire engine that you sit on and it moves
Some paints
A fur real bunny
Some instrument toys

I'd say that's a bit much and keep 3-4 for Christmas? He says it's not too much but she's only 3?

Usually I would say it's too much. But given the current situation there won't be any trips out, birthday party, family celebrations etc so if I were buying gifts right now I might go slightly over the usual amount to compensate.

Books aren’t a gift here either, they are essentials and bought as needed.

I think that’s a lovely amount but on MN anything more than one toy is frowned upon by many.

We buy all year round plus birthdays and Christmas, children are only young once and I love the phases they go through toy wise as they grow and tastes change.

Completely fine. He did a good job, let him wrap them all too lol.

Yes he has, that is nuts. I can't believe the people here who think it's ok, presumably you will be the parents ordering a limo for your kids' Y6 "graduation". Put half away OP.

I think it's ok. Pretty normal amount imo. I did similar with all of my D.C. so far 2 have left both primary school without a graduation never mind a limo. They did have a 5th year prom though. Once drove themselves and the other got the bus with friends.

It’s more than we give but that’s more because he also gets a lot from family.
Doesn’t seem overly excessive if it’s all she will get

*6th year prom

@Ronnie27

For birthdays I would buy a couple of special titles from the Tate shop. ( which is not something I would afford to do every week). Of course if you’ve got the dough for that fair play.

It’s fine but I wouldn’t give them all at once. Bring out a couple at a time and try make it last a few weeks.

If you can afford it, it's fine. It's her birthday, you love her, things are crazy at the moment, there won't be parties and family visits and so on, why is giving her a few more presents than you might otherwise have done a problem?

Far too much for a 3yo - she will either be completely overwhelmed, or pick her favourite thing and ignore all the rest! Does she have no toys at all at the moment? Can you afford this?

I think it’s quite a lot, more like a Christmas list to me.
Are you going to be able to keep this level up for every subsequent birthday?
If so then I suppose she’s very lucky 🙂
Your OH maybe is thinking about keeping her occupied during lockdown and that’s why he bought extra.

Books aren’t a present, they’re a necessity like socks here!

Same here. They're an 'anytime you want one' event.

I think that sounds like an average haul.
Great pressies.DH has chosen well!
I'm a bit of control freak and can't imagine letting go enough to put dp in charge of present choosing.

I think it’s quite a lot, more like a Christmas list to me.

I suppose it depends on the family. In mine birthdays are a much bigger deal than Christmas. A birthday is a special day for that person, where as Christmas is shared with everyone.

Whatever happened to A birthday present? I agree with you, it's too much. My advice would be to pack away most of her current toys, and when she gets bored with her birthday gifts, swap them around. It will help you in shut down!

I think it's too much as presumably family will be sending some presents.

Fuck me that's a lot! Where will you put it all? Are grandparents and family also buying presents?

My DS is 3 in June. He's getting a bike from us. Maybe a bloom and wild subscription box. That's it. He'll get plenty from others and I'm already worried about where it'll all go!

It's sounds like a lot of stuff, both in £££ spent and quantity. I limit it to £100 at both birthdays and Christmas unless it was a new bike or similar. How many more presents is she likely to get on top of those from relatives etc?
He needs to think about having to top that or maintain it year on year for another 20 years or so!

Maybe a bloom and wild subscription box

The flower delivery company? Or is there another one i'm not aware of

Like a PP says. He is as much her parent as you are. He presumably bought those things because he thinks she'll like and enjoy them. Who are you to police that? If you were posting that your DH was restricting what you bought your DD then there would be some people on here screaming abuse

Just give her what he has bought and be grateful that he cares enough to take the lead on something that is usually left to mums.

There will always be someone (usually on here) who claims you're spoiling your child by buying them more than one present. I've not met any of these people in real life. As long as you can afford it, what's the problem?

I'd say so. It'll be her third birthday. DH said he'd pick out the stuff to give me one less thing to think about. He's not clueless and I trust his judgement but I think it's overboard

Does it matter whether it’s too much though, he’s done a job. Might not be what you would have done but it’s done. Why the need to tell him he’s done it wrong?.

It's fine. It's her birthday! Let her enjoy opening all the presents, you can then ration when she plays with them but do let her have the fun and excitement of a whole pile of pressies all for her!

She's 3. Don't be a killjoy.

I don't think it's too much but I'd maybe stagger the opening over a day or two as it's a lot at once. But my DD is not only an only child but an only grandchild, niece, etc. so gets bloody loads

We have a toddler book subscription which is really fun when it arrives every month! I am a sucker for subscription boxes though.

I'm guessing Bloom and Wild is meant to be Mud and Bloom!

I agree, much too much. Definitely keep some back for Christmas. They wouldn't all get used if given at once, anyway.