An accurate list of Asperger symptoms in adult women? I identify with 99% of Tania Marshall’s list

[Thatone5]

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I identify with 99% of this so wondering if it is a specific list or so general that everyone will relate to this?

If I have Aspergers, I would say it’s very high functioning Aspergers but hard to tell due to overlap between its symptoms and symptoms of general social anxiety and being intellectual/cerebral.

Don’t really want to go to GP about it as I don’t have day to day issues because of it but just curious really.

Yep. Read the list. I could tick off 90% but I am definitely NOT ASD or Asperger. I pick up on social cues and respond in a largely typical way. However, I am quirky in other ways and struggle with the everyday but that’s because day-to-day life is a challenge. It is what it is to be human.

A framework of ‘human thinking’ is useful as a map particularly when life seems incoherent, and can empowering when a description of behaviour or thinking helps to make sense of situations. However I am sceptical of the need for diagnosis. Diagnosis suggests life limiting.

I think women on the spectrum typically can pick up on social cues. That’s why women are so under diagnosed - because they don’t fit the male stereotype of autism and mask brilliantly.

@MrsBobDylan

I fail to see how anyone could match 99% of that list when a large number of the options are binary.

This is very interesting because I have long suspected my MIL has Asperger's but DH won't accept it because he is so used to her little quirks and routines. For example she would always cook a full Sunday roast every Sunday even if no one else fancied it or she was on her own, because it was a Sunday and that's what she did on Sundays. She can't physically raise her voice and always speaks in a flat monotone, her face is mainly expressionless too. She is very literal and black and white, so she can't accept how Philip Scofield can be gay when he's been married to a woman and daughters. She cannot watch anything fantasy based or supernatural on the TV because she doesn't like anything that isn't 'real'. She buys the exact same food week in week out and cooks the exact same meals too. She was in the remedial class at school yet strangely enough showed a strong natural aptitude for maths. In highly stressful situations she goes completely to pieces to the point where she will put her hands over her face or remove herself completely from the situation and lock herself in the bathroom. There's lots more really but to me it's obvious, and it's so sad because she has suffered so much during her life because neither she or anyone else knew there was a genuine reason for her behaviours

@peaceanddove I know what you mean, anc when you’ve married into a family it’s hard to say esp when your in-laws keep you at arms length. DH’s granny, in my view, certainly had Aspergers. When I met her she was already in her 80s and I assumed her endless monologues which were all in a monotone and impossible to interrupt or divert were dementia related until MIL told me she had always been like that. At her funeral FIL read the eulogy and it was startling - a woman who clearly was extremely able but had no school certificate so had repeatedly risen in various professions only to be dismissed when someone noticed her lack of formal qualifications. Very sad.

I have Asperger's and the whole list is basically my life!