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My mum is roaming around and turning up in various family members' back gardens. I am so cross

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 19:53

She keeps doing this 'I just can't stay in the house' giggling schtick. I am really, really pissed off. The DC were upset by not being able to go to her and then she had the cheek to ask for a cup of tea- I said no.

Turns out she's being doing this to different relatives. WTF am I supposed to do with her?!

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mbosnz · 13/04/2020 19:56

How about telling her to grow the hell up, and if she pops up in your garden again, the neighbourhood will be hearing you read her, her pedigree?

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 19:58

I honestly feel like I am parenting a mardy teenager. Every time I read her the riot act she behaves herself for about 10 hours, it seems.

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FlibbertyGiblets · 13/04/2020 20:01

Lock your gate. You can't stop her traipsing around but you can try to keep her out (I know it feels wrong!)

mbosnz · 13/04/2020 20:02

Water pistol?

Works on annoying feline visitors with anti-social habits. . .

Dawninglory · 13/04/2020 20:02

Does she live on her own op?

JasonPollack · 13/04/2020 20:03

Hosepipe

CaroleFuckinBaskin · 13/04/2020 20:06

I know this a very UnMumsnetty thing to say and I will be banished, but is it really that bad if she comes and sees you if she is keeping a safe distance and not coming in the house? Does she live within walking distance or is she driving everywhere?

The kids being upset is an issue if they can't go to her, but her actually coming into your garden isn't really a risk is it? Obviously no cups of tea or anything.

We went for a walk today and stopped at a couple of friends houses and had a bit of a chat while we stood at the end of their drive...

Quirrelsotherface · 13/04/2020 20:14

Nerf gun?

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:15

No, she's not on her own, she's with my dad. Admittedly he's a quiet soul but I just feel I can't trust her. If I knew she had been nowhere else all week I'd be more inclined to indulge her, but she's been to my two brothers', M&S and her sister's. That's what I know of so she's definitely been other places as well. She does not get it.

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:16

Water pistol is inspired!

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IWantT0BreakFree · 13/04/2020 20:17

My mum keeps doing the same thing. She doesn't come inside the garden, just peeps over the fence for a chat with the kids. Every bloody day. We have a difficult relationship at the best of times and for a million reasons that I won't go into now, I know there is no point telling her she's wrong.

I actually had a dream the other night that she opened the gate and came inside and I lost my mind and gave her the bollocking of a lifetime. Ridiculous.

FlibbertyGiblets · 13/04/2020 20:18

Oh gosh your dad is equally culpable.

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:20

For not locking her in the house? Confused

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:20

Oh sorry, I've misinterpreted you. No, she lives with my dad but she's roaming independently.

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Mumof1andacat · 13/04/2020 20:22

Nothing. When she gets the virus just say told you so

Bluewavescrashing · 13/04/2020 20:25

Do you have any siblings?

My parents were out seeing friends until I told them to stay at home and also texted my brother, to get him to ring them and tell them off. It has worked, for now.

Windyatthebeach · 13/04/2020 20:27

Maybe send her links of victims of CV who are her age? Remind her she will have zero chance of even talking on the phone from icu..

ChicChicChicChiclana · 13/04/2020 20:29

Is she in the ultra protected shielded group?

Does she or you Dad have symptoms?

Is she spending more than an hour a day outside?

What are you so worried about?

Dawninglory · 13/04/2020 20:30

Maybe she's fed up being in with your dad 24/7! A lot of people's relationships can't take this.

Mrsjayy · 13/04/2020 20:33

Adult dd asked my mum earlier if she needed anything from the co op no im fine said she we were at asda on Friday (on the bus) i am so annoyed with them we have offered shopping a billion times ! I feel your pain tell her to phone the children if she wants to talk to them.

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:34

My Dad is in the ultra protected shielded group. He really does have a bad chest so I'm petrified about him catching it. I don't want her catching it either.

She's turned up at all the siblings too. We're demented.

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Mrsjayy · 13/04/2020 20:37

I told them last week if they get it we can't visit the hospital

Inkpaperstars · 13/04/2020 20:42

This is awful OP, esp with your dad being in the shielded group.

Does your mum have any mental health problems or behavioural disorder that you know of?

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:42

Done that- tried the 'you will die alone' guilt trip, showed them pictures of the coffins in Italy. Nope. Nada. Nothing. It works for about ten hours and then she's off out again.

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Aaaahhhndrea · 13/04/2020 20:44

Can't -sit-on-her-arse-itis, by the looks of things.

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