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Anyone else feeling lonely today?

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 18:13

Anyone else feeling lonely today?

I'm normally a fairly solitary creature, but today I'm finding things tough. Miss my friends, even though normally I do the listening and they do the talking. I miss being able to talk to random strangers when I shop or go on the train. I'm not very good at talking on the phone.

I am lucky, I do have dh and dd here, but I'm still really feeling it today. Being locked up at home other than a single bit of exercise each day is tough. I know for very many it must be even harder.

Anyone else in the same position?

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CousinItInTraining · 13/04/2020 18:16

I read that this week is the week it all starts to kick in. I feel like that too.

LoseLooseLucy · 13/04/2020 18:16

Today more than any other for some reason, I'm not actually alone in my house either, but I have a rather overwhelming feeling of loneliness.

ssd · 13/04/2020 18:17

I know how you feel. It goes I peaks and troughs for me. Today I'm OK, but 2 days ago I felt so low and alone.
Its just such a bloody hard time. Luckily there's usually someone on here for a wee chat.
Hang on in there, tomorrow may feel different Flowers

Kalim8 · 13/04/2020 18:19

I'm feeling a bit lonely too, op and feel as though I shouldn't be, I have a charmed life, a garden, wfh for years.
I feel as though once this is over and I'm doing the school run again I will cry at the sight of the other parents and kids all milling around the playground.

newmumagainn · 13/04/2020 18:19

Oh me too today, must be something in the air. I've felt thoroughly bored all day, whereas I haven't felt that so far. Also FaceTime is loosing its touch for me, I just want a cuddle

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 18:20

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling too. Nice to hear though that I'm not alone (haha) in this.

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Patchworksack · 13/04/2020 18:20

It's the realisation this is it for the long haul. I am with my family but we are all getting on each others nerves. My kids miss their friends, being 'on holiday' but unable to do anything is wearing thin. The feeling you shouldn't be complaining because many are much worse off doesn't help either.

Voxx · 13/04/2020 18:21

Yes, I am. I’m a single parent so am the only adult in my house. My DDs are lovely and are being so good but I miss having adults to talk to. I miss my boyfriend. We don’t live together and decided not to move in temporarily when all this kicked off as we didn’t think such an important decision should be rushed. So I haven’t seen him for over 3 weeks. I miss him so much. And my mum. Normally, I’d pop in several times a week to see her and my dad.

I’m FaceTiming them of course but it’s not the same. I’m very grateful everyone I love is healthy at the moment but today I am feeling so lonely and sad.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 18:27

Massive hugs Voxx.

I think it is the realisation that this is for the long haul isn't it. Even though I'm not supposed to go to the shop at all (in a vulnerable group) I'm desperate to go, just to have a normal interaction. I see people who can go to work and I'm so jealous that they get to see people. I want to volunteer, but noone needs me and I can't do going out stuff anyway.

I think you are right Patchwork, feeling as though we can't moan cos it's happening to everyone and there are so many far far wise off, adds to it.

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Terralee · 13/04/2020 18:29

I'm missing my mum today as it's her birthday, she's 71, 12 miles away, im frontline nhs so can't see her. I feel like crying!!

Voxx · 13/04/2020 18:34

Thanks Kitten. Childishly, I just want everything to be back to normal. I’m trying really hard to keep us all in a routine (early morning run, an hour or so of school work, yoga in the afternoon etc) but I’m struggling.

bettertimesarecomingnow · 13/04/2020 18:38

Today was actually ok, cos I got up early, we all had breakfast together and then went out to the beach for picnic.
Sun was out so had wine in the garden with my dad who lives next door this aft.

However two days ago I was at my wits end and crying with loneliness and missing my bf who lives 450 miles away.

Just me and the dc at home. Missing adults!!

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 18:40

Happy Birthday to your Mum Terra and thank you for what you are doing.

Voxx, it's not childish to want things back to normal. It's ok for us to not want this and say that.

Maybe we are all trying a bit too hard to be brave? Maybe it's better to have that cry and acknowledge to ourselves that this is really shit.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 18:42

I like your name bettertimes. It's also good to hear that even though today feels shit, it won't necessarily feel the same in a day or so.

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bettertimesarecomingnow · 13/04/2020 18:51

kitten it defo depends on the weather and if I have something planned.

It was rainy for a couple days and the kids didn't want to do anything so I was climbing the walls when I was feeling low.

Here's hoping for sunny weather for the remainder. And an exit strategy soon so I can make a plan to see dp. It's a new relationship too, so it's really frustrating when we should be going on dates and having lots of sex! 😂

Helocariad · 13/04/2020 18:55

Another one here who has been going through ups and downs. Not finding things too hard atm as had a lovely catch up on the phone with family and a friend yesterday and a nice chat with a neighbour this morning. Made my easter weekend. But last week I felt it was all so relentless and I felt lonely and without purpose. I volunteer normally on a Wednesday and it hit me that it's not just a few weeks of no volunteering, it will be months.
Agree with the pp who said that it's better to acknowledge that it's shit. Flowers to everyone missing their loved ones.

AutumnLeavesSeptember · 13/04/2020 19:03

Me too. We've been so busy trying to WFH and manage the little ones that I haven't even had time to think about it all. I read the stories of some of the dead and I just felt washed away by sadness.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 13/04/2020 19:12

I’m OK this weekend. I had my low point last weekend when there were loads of people I wanted to see but couldn’t. It does get better.

I think the trick is probably for not everyone to reach that point at the same time.

Topsy44 · 13/04/2020 19:19

I agree with bettertimes. Its just me and my DD and like a pp said, she has been great but I did feel lonely today.

Yesterday I had a great day, sun was shining, got gardening done, went out with DD for a lovely walk etc. - neither of us looked at screens for most of the day. Today is a different story, weather meh, an inside day, DD has had loads of screen time and I haven't really had any motivation to do much. I'm actually looking forward to doing a bit of wfh tomorrow which I can tell you never happens!!!

The weather definitely helps for me. I also feel guilty when DD is watching alot of tv so when its sunny and she's happy to be outside I don't have that weighing me down.

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 13/04/2020 19:24

I have a wobble for some part of nearly every day. I think the loneliness, even with other people in the house, is the lack of the casual contact and conversation that made up our daily lives until recently. Just chatting with a neighbour, a wave at someone, or just an interaction with someone in a shop.

Helocariad · 13/04/2020 21:16

Yes, nice weather definitely helps!

flipperdoda · 13/04/2020 21:52

This is interesting, I've really struggled today too. I've worked today - manager allowed me to take holiday in lieu - as I'm alone at home and four days just seemed too long to face with nobody around and nothing much to do.

The work did help this morning but it was a bit lonely seeing my icon be the only "online" one and imagining other people with their families. I know they won't all have had a lovely day but hey, that's what loneliness does eh!

I then made the mistake of reading the news so it all went downhill from there really and I indulged in food Hmm

Wauden · 13/04/2020 21:57

Yes, today in particular. Yesterday it was mostly a monologue from someone which made me feel lonely and missed a proper 50\50 conversation in English.

Auldspinster · 13/04/2020 22:03

I'm not, I have been alone for 4 weeks but I'm coping, having regular video chats with my mum.

I've noticed that people I know who aren't alone are finding it worse.

Louisa111 · 13/04/2020 22:07

Today's been very hard. My children have coped amazingly with all the changes but today all they've done is fight. I just keep thinking of how nice it would be to just have everything back to normal then I get really teary as it's going to be a long way off yet. Missing my parents and my friends so much and video calling was ok at first but it's not the same