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Anyone else feeling lonely today?

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 18:13

Anyone else feeling lonely today?

I'm normally a fairly solitary creature, but today I'm finding things tough. Miss my friends, even though normally I do the listening and they do the talking. I miss being able to talk to random strangers when I shop or go on the train. I'm not very good at talking on the phone.

I am lucky, I do have dh and dd here, but I'm still really feeling it today. Being locked up at home other than a single bit of exercise each day is tough. I know for very many it must be even harder.

Anyone else in the same position?

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BlackeyedSusan · 13/04/2020 22:10

I don't miss the shops until I go to ex's house and I am so close to the little corner shops I like to pop into . very annoying.

I miss being able to buy treats from the supermarket. When you have someone buying stuff, it feels cheeky to add a load of luxuries..

EstherLittle · 13/04/2020 22:20

I’ve found this weekend really hard.

We were supposed to be at a family party to meet my cousin’s new baby. They have been trying for years too.

I miss my mum. My dad is showing signs (I think) of dementia and I want to talk face to face to her about it.

DD2 has been missing her friends and is kicking off at everything. Her ASD assessment follow up is cancelled indefinitely.

It’s really shit isn’t it.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 13/04/2020 22:48

Maybe we might find tomorrow better. We got through today anyhow and that something. And at least we are reaching out to each other, and that's something too.

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cottonwoolbrain · 13/04/2020 23:24

Very much so.

I've got a cough so I'm self isolating or at least trying to. I'm in the spare room which I hate and I miss being cuddled up to DP at night.. and I've got to stay here until Saturday which makes me sad. The children keep coming for hugs. and I have to walk aawy. I don't even think its corona but just in case I don't want to give it to anyone. I never thought I could be so lonely in my own home with my own family.

Oh and DP is doing the "cooking". This seems to involve many visits from Deliveroo... and the house looks like a bomb has hit it.

Sorry that was a big long whinge :(

And yes I miss my mum

Sunshineandsprinkles · 14/04/2020 00:12

Yes, I'm struggling here too. I seem to feel worse when I'm tired and up during the night with baby. Tonight I'm up thinking about that (aside from my lovely baby massage teacher) not a single person has 'checked in' to see how I'm coping... I've done so the other way around but nobody has had the initiative to do it to me...

Waxonwaxoff0 · 14/04/2020 06:37

DS is going to his dad's today so I'll be on my own.

I've been single for a long time through choice and I love it. But I'm also very social and usually I'd be going to work and seeing my colleagues, and on my child free evenings I meet friends for drinks or go out somewhere.

I hate being at home on my own all day.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 14/04/2020 09:52

that's extra poo Cottonwool. How is the cough today?

How is everyone feeling this morning? I'm still very tearful. I don't even know why.

All I can hear is the clock ticking. I can't hear my family, or even the family next door. It's very odd.

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HarveySchlumpfenburger · 14/04/2020 10:24

Struggling this morning. I think it’s having to go into work after the relief of having 4 days off not worrying about it. Hoping it’ll be fine once I get there.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 14/04/2020 10:42

Hope it goes well Rafa.

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chocolateisavegetable · 14/04/2020 10:46

I'm the same. I think some of it is having a long weekend which was actually sunny for a change, but feeling like it was a waste because we couldn't go out and do anything. It's also because I'm working from home and missing interacting with the people at work.

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 14/04/2020 17:50

How is everyone this afternoon?

Going for a walk and peering through the fence of a construction site and seeing actual constructiony things happen helped a bit!

Mimicking some of the stuff I've seen on social media: #LockDownHighlight Day Umpty - Saw a digger do some digging. Grin

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Helocariad · 14/04/2020 18:56

I can relate to what you're saying about seeing people at work on a building site. I noticed a farmer at work during my walk today and it helped seeing that kind of normality. Good day for me too. Had 2 video chats, one with my best friend and one with another friend. Not like seeing them in real life but cheered me up. Sat in the sun with my book for a bit and felt chilled.

MinesaPinot · 14/04/2020 19:09

I felt very low yesterday. I miss seeing my mum, although we talk every day, and our friends (similarly we FaceTime). I'm with DH, no kids, and we are WFH and thankfully we are fine financially and no reason to suppose that either one of us will lose our jobs so compared to others and our sterling NHS staff we are ok. It's just that I can't seem to see a way out of this. There seems to be no end in sight. We were supposed to be going on holiday this coming weekend, and obviously that's not happening, and I can't see us going on our booked holiday in August either. That's First World problems and nothing compared to the problems that others are facing. I just feel so flat.

Never mind, Big Girl Pants on and I'll be fine.

Winduprobot · 14/04/2020 19:15

Like you @Voxx I don’t live with my partner and I miss him v much. It’s nearly a month since we’ve seen each other. I have DD 14 here, but it’s not the same as adult company and 90% of the time I am not the person she wants to be talking to anyway. My heart hurts today, I’m v lonely though talking to people regularly. I want one of my DP’s hugs that makes everything feel ok.

ssd · 14/04/2020 19:24

I almost burst into tears wiping over some shopping earlier, I feel sometimes I'm really trying and dh and ds just sort of sit by. I don't know, I just wanted to jump in the car and disappear to the shops for a bit to loose myself in wandering around, but if course I can't, so I bit my lip and got on with sorting everything.
I'm OK now. Hope everyone is coping.

Flatwhite32 · 14/04/2020 19:29

OP, I've felt like this since yesterday and I live with DH and 20 month old DD (who keeps me very busy!). Really missing normal life.

LesLavandes · 14/04/2020 19:43

I am really lonely. On my own. My children aren't here.

Whoever went to the beach for a picnic - that's breaking the rules. You would have been fined or arrested where I live in Brighton.

All of us want this pandemic to end. Please stick to the rules

Kalim8 · 15/04/2020 07:38

I do hope you're all having a better day today x

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OhYouBadBadKitten · 15/04/2020 07:43

Thank you Kalim, I hope you have a good day today too.

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KatherineJaneway · 15/04/2020 07:47

I had a bit of a wobble yesterday. Felt the tears near the surface.

I find myself overly happy to see shop assistants and delivery drivers. Thank goodness James Martin has a new TV series on to distract me.

SomewhereNow · 15/04/2020 07:50

Same here @Voxx and @Winduprobot, I’m on my own with teen DD and haven’t seen my DP since this started. Most people I know are with their families and even those who aren’t are finding ways to see their partners, I feel very alone and tired of putting on a brave face and being strong for other people but then I feel awful because we are in such a better situation than many people. I just need a hug 🙁

Winduprobot · 15/04/2020 09:45

I feel very alone and tired of putting on a brave face and being strong for other people but then I feel awful because we are in such a better situation than many people.

Exactly that. We're all healthy, but I am so tired of not being able to just rest my head on my DP's shoulder and just be.

Voxx · 15/04/2020 11:40

I totally agree @Winduprobot and @SomewhereNow. I would give a lot to fall asleep with my BF at the moment.

Still. The sun is shining today. The DCs and I have just come back from a long walk and my sheets are flapping on the line. Trying hard to see the positives.

HarveySchlumpfenburger · 15/04/2020 21:18

My wobble was a bit wobblier than I thought. Didn’t quite make it into work this morning and I’m not too sure about tomorrow.

I haven’t really done anything useful or productive with the time either.

dyscalculicgal96 · 15/04/2020 23:28

I miss the gym. And being able to walk anywhere too.

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