Dh won’t go to a&e...

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Shamelessly posting for traffic. Dh has an issue that has flared up this evening. In A&e we are always admitted straight to resus in this event...it’s not life threatening in the next few hours but needs to be dealt with ASAP. He won’t go due to covid19 fears....can anyone give me some reassuring stats to help convince him that it’s far better to go!!!! Stubborn sod. SHIT!!!!

He is a grown man ask him if he has life insurance then go to bed

Is it something that could be treated via a doctor (111) if it’s medication he needs, that he’s previously had prevent it escalating, they may be able to sort him out without visiting A and E?

If it's life threatening he'll have to go. No option.

The Dr’s on TV this morning literally said ‘ please come in if you need us, plenty of room for emergencies’

A&E will be very empty as everyone said c19 patients are taken to a seperate place. I wouldnt even bother with 111 as you could be waiting hours. Show him this thread. If he usually ends up in Rhesus he needs to go now or he will make it worse and potentially spend longer in hospital making his minute risk a little bigger.

@Standrewsschool ridiculous advice. An ambulance crew cannot kidnap someone! And what a monumental waste of a resource that would be.

OPs partner is a grown up and can make their own decisions.

OP - I'm frontline NHS (paramedic) The EDs in my area - well I've not sen them like that in about 15 years. They are how they should be, used for accidents and medical emergencies, not every whim and fancy.

They are clean. Super clean.
There probably won't be a better time to go.

My doctor relative said he had to admit people last week who could have gone home if they hadn't left it too late to go in for treatment.

Won't it be safer to go now in your own car (assuming you have one) than later in an ambulance that might have transported a covid patient?

DS2 is a nurse in A&E . They've separated the areas so Covid and non Covid patients don't come anywhere near each other. They're, also, seeing far fewer patients than normal.

If he needs to go then he needs to go

A&E will most likely be pretty quiet for non covid related issues.

Friend went two days ago with her DS, it was deserted she was out inside an hour after treatment. She said it was spookily quiet. Separate entrance and seen straight away.

He absolutely needs to go. A&E departments are very concerned that people aren't going when they need help, and as a result they are seeing people much later - sometimes too late. They are all separate from Covid-19 wards. He will be in no more danger there than he would be in Tesco. But if he doesn't go, then he will be in danger from his existing condition.

Not something that can be sorted anywhere else - Iv meds first stop & minor op procedure if that fails. 111/out of hours are no use sadly. He’s still steadfastly refusing...to those saying leave him to it & go to bed I understand your sentiments but he’s my husband, father of our children and he’s shit scared....leaving him to it is not an option. Thanks to those being helpful - advice gratefully received...

Is it not better to go now when everything can be slow and calm and get everything done or wait a few hours, have an emergency situation and more of a rush/chance of cross contamination etc. Obv I don't think that would happen but it might frighten him into action

Went to A&E last week because DS broke his thumb... usually a 3-5 hour wait at our hospital... in and out in under an hour... wouldn't be surprised if you're discharged by midnight if it's quiet.

Every time this comes up on the radio phone Ins all the doctors say you must still go for non covid treatment, hospitals are quite and segregated but if your DH doesn't want to listen to the experts there's not much you can do.

I totally get his concern but he needs to go in. I had a worry about my pregnancy on Friday and um'ed and ah'ed but ultimately decided to go to the hospital. False alarm thankfully but the staff said I was right to go in anyway. If I can do it he can too - give him a kick up the arse!

Had to take Dd last week. Both dreading it but it was fine. I had to sit in the car. She was in and out in 20 minutes.

With everything it is a risk anaylsis what actually he is at most risk from and it sounds like he is most at risk from is staying at home

And if he doesn't get the treatment?

It is really, really silly not to get treatment for a condition you definitely have just in case it might possibly put you at risk of getting a disease you may never get.

Bless him its understandable he is scared. But he does need to go now sooner rather than later for all the reasons stated here. I hope he listens and gets seen to soon.

I'm intrigued what the problem is that allows you to be well enough to self present but gets him into resus! Palpitations/svt? If so have you tried all the usual remedies to stop it?

He would only end up in the dirty side of a&e if it's a respiratory condition. Otherwise it's probably a similar risk as travelling on a train/bus these days the virus is everywhere!

Im a nurse ... If he wont go there is not a lot you can do unfortunately.

His health is his responsibility- it sounds harsh but it is the reality.

I spent a day last week in hospital for a non covid related regular treatment I have to have to keep me from being really ill. It was fine - lots of precautions

Sooner he goes the less time he'll likely have to spend there, which will reduce any (very small) risk.