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Does you partner know how many people you've slept with?

39 replies

Cheesepleas3 · 11/04/2020 18:30

The conversation came up casually away back at the start of my relationship and I told my partner honestly, he told me his but I now suspect he claimed the number to be smaller than what it really is. More I've thought about it, I know a few of my friends have lied to their DP's about it too.
I think it's a conversation that comes up in most relationships at some point (might be wrong) but I wonder how many people are totally honest about it?

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Windyatthebeach · 11/04/2020 18:32

Been with now dh for about 8 years. He has never asked.

PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock · 11/04/2020 18:32

I can't be totally honest because I don't remember. I never really asked OH (we only talked about old significant relationships or funny dalliances) because I don't care.

BlessYourCottonSocks · 11/04/2020 18:33

I doubt it. I don't know how many people I've slept with.

It's not something that's ever come up with us and I assume neither of us is particularly bothered or interested. We've been together a long time now.

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/04/2020 18:34

We sort of had this conversation and DH didn't want to. I suspect it's because he thinks I've slept with more people than him Grin

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 11/04/2020 18:34

Jeezo I don't know how many people I've slept with.
Poor teenaged me couldn't work out how to turn a man down without "upsetting" them and realised far too late that upsetting men is no bad thing. Sad
I've discussed it with DH and he's fine with it... because he's not a cock womble.

EmAndes · 11/04/2020 18:34

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FlaskMaster · 11/04/2020 18:35

His guess is as good as mine. I didn't know you were supposed to keep a count of these things. What do you do with this information? Is there a right number? Who wins?

RandomMess · 11/04/2020 18:35

No they don't know, one of those conversations best left alone IMHO.

Had an ex that was very busy in his youth 😳 I always wished he hadn't been!

Krisskrosskiss · 11/04/2020 18:36

Yes and of course I was totally honest why wouldnt I be? I've never understood people who lie in order to tell someone else what they think they want to hear... if I told a man how many people I'd slept with and he reacted badly... well then hes a twat and I've saved myself some time by getting him to reveal that early.

Krisskrosskiss · 11/04/2020 18:38

Oh and I think it's fine if neither of you are interested in talking about it... fair dos... but personally I do find it interesting just because I like to know all about someone and their life... I'm a talker lol... luckily my husband is the same

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/04/2020 18:38

Who wins?

Always me. Now what's the question?

Wordofwarning · 11/04/2020 18:39

I may have lied, probably a so can’t remember exactly Blush but then I now can’t remember how many he’d slept with either Wink

YouJustDoYou · 11/04/2020 18:39

Dp never asked.

Biancadelrioisback · 11/04/2020 18:41

Neither DH nor I have any idea how many ppl we've slept with. I never kept count!

Ghostlyglow · 11/04/2020 18:43

I don't actually know how many. Who cares? Smile

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Cheesepleas3 · 11/04/2020 18:45

@Krisskrosskiss
This is how the conversation came up in my relationship, and far as I'm concerned my friends too.. Just from talking about your life thus far. Nothing too deep hense why I don't really get why people lie, yet I know people who definitely do

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Azandme · 11/04/2020 18:50

OH doesn't want to know because he doesn't care.

Hoggleludo · 11/04/2020 18:50

I don't think he does. Don't think he's ever really cared

We've been married 10 years. I do about him.

happymummy12345 · 11/04/2020 18:51

Yes both ways

BadlyAgedMemes · 11/04/2020 18:51

I don't even know if I know. Not that it's a huge number, but just never thought it was an important fact to keep a count of. DH has never asked, as far as I can remember.

uhohimbad · 11/04/2020 18:51

I always make a point of asking early on as I like to know, so then they usually ask also.

HeffalumpsCantDance · 11/04/2020 18:52

No. Never asked.
37 years together.

Ronnie27 · 11/04/2020 18:54

No, we’ve never asked each other. I couldn’t actually tell you off the top of my head how many people I’ve slept with, I’d have to think about it. And that’s not because there’s loads it’s just not something I ever really think about. Makes no difference to my life. Grin

Krisskrosskiss · 11/04/2020 18:54

I didnt want to know because I care about the number.. I was just interested about his life! And I think vice versa. I just wanted to know everything about him from birth... lol... some people are like that it's only a problem if the people in the relationship have got different ideas of how much they want to share or know... neither way is right or better than the other. The only shit thing is if someone is asking because they are insecure and want to judge you...
I think people lie when there are two different types of people in teh relationship... one who is interested and wants to share.. and the other who would judge or is insecure ... or one who thinks the other will judge them... maybe it's a problem if it comes up in discussion too early on and you dont quite trust that person yet

AlbusBumblebee · 11/04/2020 18:54

I am pretty sure he was honest with me. He told me I am the third person he's slept with and I know about his two ex girlfriends. He knows roughly how many I have - I don't know the exact number.