Does you partner know how many people you've slept with?

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The conversation came up casually away back at the start of my relationship and I told my partner honestly, he told me his but I now suspect he claimed the number to be smaller than what it really is. More I've thought about it, I know a few of my friends have lied to their DP's about it too.
I think it's a conversation that comes up in most relationships at some point (might be wrong) but I wonder how many people are totally honest about it?

DD's father did - and I'd never tell any partner of mine again. He was slightly obsessive about it and, while this was not why we separated, his reaction was really off-putting and made me think less of him.

And, no, I haven't slept with an entire army batallion, FWIW. Also, I was 34 when we met, so hardly a blushing virgin.

I have no idea how many people I have slept with, so how on earth would DP know?

When I was young, free & single, I was free & single.

Yes, I asked early on as it was important to me.

Yes we told each other early on in our relationship after a few drinks (although think DP slightly downplayed the number).

I think my dp lied and said he’d been with far more than he has because he just doesn’t behave in bed like someone who’s had lots of partners.

He wouldn't ask and I wouldn't tell, and vice versa.

He's never asked. Just as well, as I don't know what the answer is 🤷🏻‍♀️

We've never discussed it. It's old news and not relevant.

It's come up because we've talked about everything over the years! We both made guesses to the nearest 5 or so, then had a go at counting.

Why would you lie? Like anything else, if your partner is going to be a dick about it, wouldn't you want to know early on?

I know a ball park figure for my DH and he has a vague idea for me (I think) but he’s never asked an actual number and I’ve never volunteered it although I’d happily say. As long as we’re each the last person we’ve each slept with then that’s fine by us.

I've not had this conversation with anyone since my 20s. I don't see the point, makes no difference

No hes never asked and its not his business what I did before I met him nor is it my business who he slept with before me.

Besides most of them I'd rather forget anyway. Most were ones I went through with before I realised letting them buy me a drink didn't mean I had to sleep with them and that getting drunk and hooking up with people wasn't the exciting thing it was made out to be.

I personally wouldn't want to be with someone who had been with a ridiculously high number of women so I've always asked and I've always answered honestly if they asked me in return.

If they don't ask they clearly don't care much (or would rather not know) and I don't see any reason to volunteer the number in that situation. But if they do ask, I don't see why some people lie/are sketchy about it. Why would anyone want to be in a relationship with someone who clearly finds aspects of them/their past undesirable. Surely you'd want a relationship where you're loved and respected without needing to lie and hide...

I don't know how many people I've slept with so he's got no hope.
But then his number is "shit tonne"
We were both quite slutty.
We've been very honest.

We got together for a ONS and then just had a casual sexual relationship because we enjoyed the sex. So our experience is what started we very thing.