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Discussion are you scared of dying?

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FabbyChix · 10/04/2020 03:23

My sister is terrified she will get the virus as she said she knows she will die. She has mild underlying conditions and smokes. I said with that mindset you will.

I am not scared of dying. Never have been. I know that we are born and then we die. Ergo it’s not an option all life forms expire.

I don’t want to die though and I believe that having a mental state that is determined to not go yet means we have more chance of fighting an illness.

I’ve met people who were terrified yet I don’t get it. We are not aware of anything we won’t think we won’t feel. It’s called the cycle of life.

My dog just passed. I was sad the first day due to the suddeness, but he was really old, he had a good life, he didn’t suffer as it was sudden and he was never ill. I remember the memories he left me. I don’t feel sad.

Am I just weird.

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IHateCoronavirus · 10/04/2020 03:32

I’m not scared of dying. I lost my youngest DD 5 years ago and whilst I want to live for her siblings there is also a part of me that longs to be with her again.
I am terrified beyond belief of losing another child though. DS has already had pnuemonia requiring admission to HDU. I know the pain that would accompany loss too well. It feels like I am standing on a cliff top that I already fell from. Hence being awake at silly o’clock Sad

DeeCeeCherry · 10/04/2020 03:34

No.

My brother is a diabetic and has thankfully recovered from
Covid-19. Too many people forget there are recoveries as well as deaths. Hysterical social media doesn't help.

I lost my Dad in February and believe I have a chance of seeing him again, hearing his voice, just before or just after I pass away. I don't fear death at all. Covid may take me, it may not. I hope it doesn't but I don't obsess. I live, I enjoy and appreciate my life its the most I can do.

Thrashscar · 10/04/2020 03:37

I’m really frightened of it

Coffeecak3 · 10/04/2020 03:41

I'm not frightened of being dead.
I am however frightened of the transition from life to death. I hope it will be quick and painless.

AllTheseThingsThatIHaveNotDone · 10/04/2020 03:45

No but

  1. Having been to hospital in the past unable to breathe and put on oxygen I don't want to die like that
  2. I have three children who need me
so covid makes me anxious yes
LoveIsLovely · 10/04/2020 03:45

I wasn't til I had my son. Now I'm terrified of leaving him.

But I'm not overly worried about Coronavirus particularly. I mean we're following all the hygiene and social distancing stuff but I'm not any more worried about dying from it than I am of anything else.

1300cakes · 10/04/2020 04:09

I'm not scared of dying of covid but in general I am scared of dying.

We are not aware of anything we won’t think we won’t feel.
Yes but to get to that part we usually need to experience unbearable agony!

I agree you can't get hung up on it and let it take away from your life. But it's totally normal to be scared. It's a part of our biology and evolution - obviously the cave person who wasn't scared of dying probably died before having children so didn't pass on their genes. We are all products of people who were terrified of dying.

1300cakes · 10/04/2020 04:11

My dog just passed... he was really old, he had a good life, he didn’t suffer as it was sudden and he was never ill.

If only this is how we all could go.

stellabelle · 10/04/2020 04:18

I'm not scared of the actual "death" part of it - no. I've been close to death before and the experience wasn't awful or anything.

However. Reading about how Covid-19 patients die, makes me want to avoid that at all costs. Dying from drowning in a lung full of fluid, sounds horrible to say the least. Gasping for every breath must be incredibly scary and awful, and anyone who goes that way has my sympathy.

Your assertion that I believe that having a mental state that is determined to not go yet means we have more chance of fighting an illness is totally wrong , in my opinion. No person who ever died, did so because they lacked a strong mental state. Dying is a process which happens when your body can't resist the disease any more. It's nothing to do with how "mentally strong" you are, or how much you don't want to die. If your assertion was correct, nobody would die since we all have a strong will to live - it is hard wired into us from birth onwards.

Casino218 · 10/04/2020 04:20

With a 1% mortality rate. Statistically individuals have a much greater odds of surviving this as dying from it. I presume your sister is not over 65.

Falacy · 10/04/2020 04:45

No I'm not scared of death, or the dying process.

I have never been scared of death but I did used to be scared of dying. Then I did almost die. The whole "life flashing before your eyes" thing wasn't exactly true but I do remember a room full of doctors and nurses around me and feeling this strange sense of calm and peace. I saw my kids faces in my head, my brother but when we will children etc. It was strange but not awful. Then I just slipped away.

And then I woke up Grin

So I'm not actually scared of dying but I wouldn't like to do another month long stay in the hospital. That was bloody worse than the dying part!!

MadameTuffington · 10/04/2020 05:27

I turn 50 this year and do 12-hr shifts in an extremely busy unit in a care home - I work with a lot of colleagues with serious underlying health issues who cannot afford to stay at home - I am grateful for my good health but worry I may contract it and be pretty ill - I survived a bad case of swine flu and haven’t had one cold this year.

That being said, my 22 year old son has a serious undiagnosed mental health issue (family and professionals suspect schizophrenia) and is currently being held in remand at a London prison for an explosives offence (no one was hurt and he was very delusional/psychotic before the offence was committed - nevertheless, he is potentially dangerous) - I have major concerns about his mental and physical wellbeing during the crisis.

Stay safe everyone and try not to worry too much - the vast majority of us will be fine 🌈

bushtailadventures · 10/04/2020 05:43

I'm not scared of dying, but I am scared of what will happen to my family afterwards.

I help my SN daughter look after my granddaughter, I worry what will happen if I'm not here, would they be OK? Plus I really want to see her grow up, and that has made me more scared than I would have been without her.

joystir59 · 10/04/2020 05:45

If your sister smokes she can't possibly be scared of dying as she's actively marching towards it.

Connie222 · 10/04/2020 05:52

I’m scared of leaving my children behind.

But I’m not scared of the actual dying part. Almost died twice. It just feels like slipping away and tbh when you are in pain it feels like a relief to be slipping away and you are ready for it.

Circletime27 · 10/04/2020 06:20

I’m scared of dying. The thing that scares me most of all is the pain it would bring my parents, DH and DC through. DC especially. A life time of loss and grief. That thought terrifies me. The pain of telling a child that they’ve lost their mum must be unbelievable.

Reginabambina · 10/04/2020 06:24

I’m concerned about what would happen to my loved ones, in particular my children, should I die but otherwise no. I take no issue with dying and fully expect to do it one day.

Sunnydaysarecoming · 10/04/2020 06:31

No, I’m not scared of dying. I used to be terrified, but then I got saved, and the Bible promises I will go to heaven. Not because of any particular good thing I’ve done, just because I believed on Jesus. This short video explains how to know for sure you will go to heaven when you die according to the bible if anyone’s interested. Flowers

Likethebattle · 10/04/2020 09:27

I’m not d a red of the actual dying ad I’ll cease to be aware. What dies scare me is that I’ll never see those I love again. I know I’ll be dead and unaware of it but it still saddens me.

Likethebattle · 10/04/2020 09:27

@Sunnydaysarecoming sorry I don’t believe in any of that.

LoveIsLovely · 10/04/2020 09:29

"This short video explains how to know for sure you will go to heaven"

Not exactly provable though, is it?

tallah · 10/04/2020 09:30

I'm scared of the pain before death. Very scared

tallah · 10/04/2020 09:30

And leaving my child without a Mummu

ironicname · 10/04/2020 09:31

I'm scared of leaving my children, husband and my mother without me. They all need me and would really struggle without me.

I'm not afraid of dying or death, I'm just not ready.

sonjadog · 10/04/2020 09:33

No, not afraid of dying. I faced death and became familiar with it at a young age. I am a bit worried about the period before I die as I would really prefer it not to be terrifying and painful, but death itself is not frightening. Which is something I am very glad that I feel at the moment. Several of my colleagues are hysterical about Corona because of the fear of dying. I don't think they have ever faced the thought before.