How is everyone's relationships/marriages fairing under the current 'stay at home' guidance?

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How's things at home?

Is it too early for ?

We're getting under each other's feet a bit but we don't have any DC so it's not as pressured as it otherwise might have been... We also take our allocated daily walk/run separately but otherwise can't complain.

Dh is a key worker and I'm on mat leave. Tbh I wish he was home more.

I’ve been at home for three weeks and DH for almost two. Four DC and I’m also pregnant so lots going on but so far, so good. Turns out we actually like each other’s company! He’s still WFH though so we’re not constantly in the same room.

Pretty well. DH working from home but has less to do because he works at a university and certain aspects of his job can only be done if he's physically there. I haven't been able to do my work (peripatetic music teaching) since schools closed. More time with each other, less external stress, we are all doing Joe Wicks together (DH, 3 DC 6-14 and me) each morning and actually quite enjoying it in some ways. I miss my friends and hobbies though.

Well we have split up and will be getting seperate property . A divorce and selling out house after. Lockdown is making it really really really hard as I cannot just enjoy being with my children / work with him like a team. I'm so hurt. Love is hilarious isn't it. Here you're stuck for an undefined period with your recent break up. Ha ha. Make things normal for the kids though. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Sorry. Derailed your lovely thread somewhat there. It would be nice to be in that situation right now.

Should say life is hilarious. Apologies for the terrible grammar. I typed quickly, through tears.

Surprisingly well actually! Considering he's military and goes away for months at a time so used to our own space. I'm WFH, he's just on standby so he's been doing the "home schooling" (aka YouTube video selection ha) and today he was so bored he started wiping down skirting boards lol. We aren't ones for sniping at each other when irritated to be fair, but I guess it's early days....! He'll probably get sent away at some point during this and is deployed later in the year so trying to make the most of it!

Better than I thought it would 😂

We are lucky we have a fairly large garden and DH has spent majority of the last fortnight there (by choice!) I think that helps!

Owlettele that sounds really hard

Elliebobtail it is - thank you. Struggling a lot today. 💚

ChevalierTialys no, you can’t.

Absolutely fine but we spend a lot of time together normally and are both introverted home bodies. It is lovely having him round more. He is naturally a chilled and kind person so had no concerns about it. I am in the shielded group so we aren't going out at all.

I dread to imagine how this would have been with either of my long term exes though.

All of you who’ve been like passing ships on the night and whose home life and relationships have suffered on account of this..I really do hope you can find that spark that attracted you to each other in the first place.
Then something good will come out of this mess.

For those of you that can’t find the spark again, I really hope the time passes peacefully and quickly.

We have always got on ok but it has really highlighted how different we are in our social requirements!

I need more conversation and he really can't meet my needs. I am beginning talk at him which he doesn't mind because he doesn't listen but two of our ds are exactly the same. Thank Christ I have a very conversational 6 year old, otherwise I think I'd be dipping into madness.

oeletelle I'm in exactly the same position. We decided to separate end of Jan and still in the same house. It's an awful situation to be in. Pm me if you want to chat.

Sorry that should be owlettele even.

TwoHoots74 thank you. 💚

We’re actually doing okay.

I’m a constant talker though (which I know is annoying), so the deal is instead of constantly talking at him I talk at him in Urdu, that way I can gab away and he can ignore me.

We also have Dave, Dave recently moved in, if anything bad happens Dave has done it. Like yesterday a porridge bowl was left on the side without being soaked so it went rock hard, I told my boyfriend and we both agreed that Dave is a dickhead.

That aspect of it is all fine - we like each other and enjoy each other's company.
DH is senior NHS, so not really pulling his weight with home or kids. I WFH anyway and am juggling that with homeschooling (preteen and teen kids) and everything else, but seems a sensible division of labour in the circumstances. If it doesn't work, I will reduce/stop working for a bit, because we're both clear that that is the thing that will have to give here. So far, though, we are fine, and there are some positives to the current situation. Our kids are quite competitive/argumentative, but we're quite a tight family unit too.

Sending sympathy and strength to those in more difficult home situations and relationships.

DH and I are fine. The DC are getting right on one anothers nerves, though, and DS14 (who has autism but is also a bit of an antagonistic goat) can be a bit of a fucker towards DS9 when he's stressed so we're having to balance that very carefully.