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How is everyone's relationships/marriages fairing under the current 'stay at home' guidance?

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VladmirsPoutine · 05/04/2020 13:31

How's things at home?

Is it too early for ?

We're getting under each other's feet a bit but we don't have any DC so it's not as pressured as it otherwise might have been... We also take our allocated daily walk/run separately but otherwise can't complain.

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Nuttyaboutnutella · 05/04/2020 15:52

We're actually rubbing along quite nicely. We never really argued before but we also definitely appreciate each other more. I'm a SAHM to a 3 year old and a 10 month old. Although he gets how busy they are, he finally realises just how much I do when it's just me (as in, not on the weekend but M-F when he's normally in work). our 3 year old has additional needs so I do a lot for him in terms of speech and language stuff, etc. We've been enjoying our daily walks, kids are in bed slightly earlier as DP hasn't got his commute. I thought we'd annoy each other more but actually, we've been more of a team. It's been good for us actually.

AlunWynsKnee · 05/04/2020 15:59

We're rubbing along OK. Decent size house and garden so we can all be by ourselves if we want to. We're used to wfh and don't have big social lives so not much change there. I got a bit stressed about juggling jobs and the dc but we've been working on that and that's helped.

CaffeineInfusion · 05/04/2020 16:00

I have a bad tempered, argumentative teen who suffers from severe anxiety.

It's crap.

BurnerPhone · 05/04/2020 16:02

Not great here, but I knew before lockdown that we are not a great match. Been together 9 years but most days I fail to see why I married the annoying arse. He's a good dad though and we have young children so I doubt I will do anything about it for a few years. Can't wait to go back to work...!

Chocolatedaim · 05/04/2020 16:03

No difference for us, in fact today is our 14yr anniversary.
We worked together prior to this lockdown so used to being together 24/7. DH is bored whereas I’m just seeing this as an extension of my mat leave, I quite like it!
DH May volunteer as a local homeless charity to fill his time

peaceanddove · 05/04/2020 16:03

We're doing fine. DH and I have been happily together for nearly thirty years and have always enjoyed each others company a lot. We're lucky to have a large home and garden so there's space to relax. Both our teens are very chilled by nature and we've just never had any arguments or nasty atmospheres anyway, it's just not how we're made. It's all good

Myfriendanxiety · 05/04/2020 16:04

DH is working 70 hours a week in the office as NHS staff. So it’s me and the kids.... all day..... pretty much every day. It’s difficult, I crave adult conversation, he gets home at 9pm and needs quiet. On his one day off a week I want him to entertain the kids while I clean etc, he wants to put his feet up after a hard working week.

Hotwaterbottlelove · 05/04/2020 16:04

I'm loving it. We are getting to spend so much extra time together. Giving us the space to have the sort of conversations that only happen when you aren't just chatting between other activities.

Ledkr · 05/04/2020 16:04

We have never been better. He's a key worker so I'm acutely aware of his risk and am also really proud of him.
We agree on a balanced approach to home Ed and are sharing this.
I'm woking part time from home and am actually enjoying having time to cook proper meals and get everything done so we can all enjoy some downtime together.
Also enjoying precious time with Dd.

Callo · 05/04/2020 16:05

I'm a widowed mum but i get on well with my two teenagers which I'm pleased about as the family i grew up in were quite dysfunctional. When dh was alive we got on well as a family and it's carried on since then.

DramaAlpaca · 05/04/2020 16:10

We're good. DH & I have been together a very long time and we don't usually annoy each other. If we do we have enough space in the house & garden to get away from each other for a bit. DS is 22 and is also coping fine.

Fanciedachange1 · 05/04/2020 16:22

We are ok atm as both key workers. I love being at home so i am looking forward to the bank holiday weekend, whereas my husband hates being cooped up so I think he will get a bit tense.

KillerofMen · 05/04/2020 16:32

Me and DH are fine so that's something.

I am worried about those in abusive relationships. At least 3 women have been killed and one stabbed in the face today.

Bagelsandbrie · 05/04/2020 16:40

We are okay. Well compared to other couples it’s going amazingly. We’ve been together nearly 12 years. Two dc. Usual moans I guess about him watching utter crap on tv that I can’t stand (American sitcoms, I like reality tv and news stuff) and he’d probably say I drive him crazy having to “do” stuff all the time... I can’t just “sit” like he can. All in all we are muddling through....!

DinosApple · 05/04/2020 16:57

We're doing ok. We ran a hectic business together until last year. The last few years have been incredibly stressful, but brought us closer together.

Spending time at home (even if I do have to try to teach our DC maths) is a walk in the park! Also - gardening, he loves gardening.

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VladmirsPoutine · 05/04/2020 17:46

@Callo Oh Callo... are the teens getting on well between themselves? I'm so sorry to hear about your late dh

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MrsCastiel · 05/04/2020 17:50

I live seperately from my fiance. We've been together 5 years and had been making plans to move in together at the end of this year (his kids and my kids schooling and recently building work dictated when we could all live together)

He has asthma, as do I. His step dad has COPD and his mum is a HCA so we decided that we wouldn't see each other at all, to keep everyone safe.

I'm missing him terribly. I get choked when I think about it too much. We've been through some really hard times together so to be doing this solo, it's truly awful.

Every now and then I think I'll just go and stand outside his house. But then I think how stupid that is and give my head a good wobble.

On the other hand, having never spent more than 2 weeks together (holidays) I have no idea how we would have coped in isolation plus the 4 kids (3 of whom are teens!)

So, head down and take each day as it comes and be grateful we are healthy.

Oaksandashes · 05/04/2020 18:10

Not living together but I am definitely feeling warmer towards my Ex husband. He's been doing all our shopping, bringing me wine & drives here everyday to sit at the end of the driveway and chat with our kids. He also just transferred me a decent amount to give me a good buffer untill I can go back to work. I'm beinging to quite fancy him!

Callo · 06/04/2020 01:02

Thanks VladmirsPoutine it was nearly 2 years ago now. Yes they get on fine really. Sometimes they'll irritate each other and go into separate rooms or have a moan about the other one but don't really have big arguments and most of the time they're fine. They are on their phones chatting to friends etc a lot so don't have only each other to interact with.

TreacherousPissFlap · 06/04/2020 01:42

Prior to this I have wondered whether DH and I would remain together, mentally I had given us until DS's GCSE's were over before we made any big decisions but the seed was definitely there.
I think we've spent a long time being busy, tired and having other commitments and over the years we've forgotten the little things we liked about each other.
While it's not perfect (I've taken to getting up around lunchtime so I get some peace and quiet) we seem to be getting on so much better, so for that at least I am grateful.

managedmis · 06/04/2020 02:05

Not too bad. We know to give each other space.

vanillandhoney · 06/04/2020 06:41

It's not too bad but we do have a garden and no children which helps massively!

We each go out separately with the dog so we each get an hour out of the house and an hour home alone each day. Neither of us are working but we have spent a lot of time doing up the living room!

CigarsofthePharoahs · 06/04/2020 08:54

Not too bad for us.
Week one DH was self isolating with a fever so it was like he wasn't here.
We've settled into a routine mostly. Thankfully I have screen time to bribe them to keep them in line!
DH and I have adopted the "cat" method if we're getting on eachothers nerves. We just pretend the other one doesn't exist for a bit until we're feeling better.

ChevalierTialys · 06/04/2020 11:30

Thanking the stars that I made ex leave when I did. This would have been pure hell.

Are couples who live separately allowed to see each other under the new rules? The guy I'm dating refuses to come over or let me go to his, in order to stay safe.

isittheholidaysyet · 06/04/2020 11:36

So nice to have time to be together.

We have sat down and watched TV together for quite a few nights.
Haven't done that in months.

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