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To be ashamed that my life is as normal??

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BeingLonely · 02/04/2020 00:32

Name changedSad sorry!

All I keep hearing from the government is how life shouldn’t feel normal just now but mine does. Granted the kids are off school and me and OH are still at work because we are key workers but otherwise nothing has changed.

I don’t socialise, I have no friends. We don’t have babysitters so no date nights. I can’t remember the last time I was in a pub or had a fun night.

It’s sad to see everyone saying how much they miss their friends and family and how they can’t wait to get together when I know for me life will stay the same.

Anyone else feeling the same and just wanting a sad moan? Sad

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RB68 · 02/04/2020 10:03

Not alot of difference here either - we work from home anyway, DH is here more as he used to travel around, DD is here so often feels like a weekend although she is busy with school stuff. We went out occasionally and miss that but saves us money which we are not really able to generate at the moment. We have a dog and she gets walked and played with but other than that not alot of change. Am missing popping out for a change of scene but I still get to go shopping and even that hasn't changed alot as I always used to go just once a week

ILLBESUZIE · 02/04/2020 10:04

Same here ☹️

dottiedodah · 02/04/2020 10:07

I miss seeing my friends and our quiz evening every 2 weeks .In the day at home (SAHP) with dog! Miss meeting people at the park and seeing our dog running free, instead of having her on a lead (park a little bit too far to walk to .(have hurt my ankle coincidentally.) Also feel nervous if I have to go the SM for essentials too! Had a conversation 6 feet apart yesterday with fellow dog walker !Why not see if you can arrange a night out with hubby when this is all over ? Some day trips with DC or a W/E away if you can manage it .Maybe treat this as a pause for thought of how your life is going ?

Selfsettling3 · 02/04/2020 10:10

3 year old is not at school nursery and her social activities are cancelled. The one baby group I could to is obviously not on. DH is working from home all the time rather than a couple of days a week so that’s easier for me. In the last 10 months I went out to a friends one early evening with the family and in September I went out for an hour one evening. I nolonger have to justify why I can’t go out on a evening when I have a breast feed baby - that’s nice too.

LuluJakey1 · 02/04/2020 10:16

I'm a SAHM and the only things that have really changed are all 3 DC are at home all day and DH (teacher) is at home much more but works in his study quite a lot. It is like our house on a weekend except we can't go to a cafe or restaurant or visit PIL.

We go for walks, garden, entertain the DC, cook, chat, watch tv or a film. We have stopped driving -haven't been in the car at all since last week. It is very peaceful and if it wasn't for all the awful things we know are happening from the tv and internet we would be totally enjoying it.

Yes, I feel guilty too.

mindproject · 02/04/2020 10:20

Very little has changed for me too. I didn't have a big, exciting life before and I still don't. I am slightly relieved I don't have to plan and go on holiday this year as holidays as a single mum are more stress than fun.

Circletime27 · 02/04/2020 10:43

Same here, part of me’s wondering what all the fuss of lockdown is about because nothing much has changed in my small world. DS is obviously at home and I’m not at work but as I work in a very small team of 2 other people I can’t say I’ve noticed a huge difference at all. Bit sad really!

trilbydoll · 02/04/2020 10:55

We are not going to work/school but we don't do much else anyway. We do nip up to Morrisons a lot for something for tea and now we are not doing that so we are being more organised with getting food out of the freezer.

Girlattheback · 02/04/2020 11:13

We are in a similar position where our lives are mostly unchanged by this. There is a sob story behind that but not important for you all to know it.

Anyway, my point is that you should not be ashamed, your situation is not shameful, I think you should be thankful that at the moment your lives have not been impacted too much.

There are many people in the country who will lose their lives, their loved ones, their livelihood and their homes as a result of this terrible crisis.

Whilst at the moment a lot of the media is focused on how to carry on your “normal” busy life using technology and that of course makes anyone who doesn’t have a life full of exercise classes, social events, and whatever .... feel that they are missing out. I suspect the stories we hear will change over the coming months to reflect the trauma that will inevitably come from this.

I for one am happy for you that your lives remain the same and I hope that continues. Take care.

zigaziga · 02/04/2020 12:10

Very little has changed for me.

I am at the end of mat leave and was going to become a SAHM anyway. Older DC used to go to school but not now. We used to get out and about of course to the library, museum, playgrounds, music classes etc but I was at home 80% of the time and now 100%. It’s fine really.

DH goes out to work “as normal” although no socialising after for him.

Weekends we used to go out and about a bit - swimming lessons and more museums or whatever but mostly from home. Odd visits to cake shops or out for lunch but we never had a date night or anything.

We have friends but no one that we saw regularly enough to be finding this strange.

Family we used to see every few months anyway so again this feels normal.

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BeingLonely · 02/04/2020 14:07

Wow I did not expect that many responses Shock

I’m permanent nightshift 3 nights a week so we don’t need childcare for our work as DH does days.

I guess I just felt a bit sad that my life wasn’t very sociable. Lots of people are saying things they can’t wait for like nights out with friends or weddings and I have nothing like that to look forward to anyway sadly. I would love to be sociable I just don’t seem to be able to make any friendships that extend to that point.

Here’s hoping 2021 will be better 😆

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Circletime27 · 02/04/2020 15:05

People are being melodramatic about things too though. It’s only been 2 weekends. If you can’t go 2 weekends without socialising and spending money then you’ve got an issue. 2 months in I could understand it but not 2 weeks.

Peachy92 · 05/04/2020 15:53

Totally the same. I'm sick of people saying they're bored. Husband and I have to work from home all day with very busy jobs and a 1 year old. I just feel like my whole workload has doubled yet my husband sits at his desk all day working and then gaming. I'd be happy if it weren't for trying to work all day and I could just be with DS and get things round the house done I've been dying to do. But instead it's just Groundhog Day with the same chores and mess to clean up. We have no social life either. It's made me realise I need to do more when this is all over as if I spend all day cleaning it only needs doing again the next. I shouldn't have to spend every weekend doing the same tasks over and over

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