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Does anyone have a jolly dh?

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Pansypath · 01/04/2020 20:40

I love my dh. But in these difficult times I would quite like a jolly dh. One who sees the sunny side and cheers everyone up and suggests games and makes silly faces on sandwiches etc. Not a grumpy sit in the corner headphones on being grumpy kind of chap. Do jolly DH's even exist, and is their jolliness a pain in the arse in normal times?

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Bigpaintinglittlepainting · 01/04/2020 22:56

Mine is jolly usually in the morning 😂 which I definitely am not! That’s why I am with him though l was with a miserable so and so and when I met dh I was so surprised to see how happy he was in the morning and mostly in general. He had also suffered from anxiety and stress so he is normal, just a cheerful chap most of the time

Tillygetsit · 02/04/2020 03:25

Mine's not jolly but he is extremely laidback, stoic and fiercely loyal. Suits me perfectly. I'm the negative worrier.

bitchonthepitch · 02/04/2020 03:32

Op you've just made me laugh, ex DH makes Eeyore look like the epitome of happiness, now the former OW is stuck indoors with him and I'm not every cloud.....

withaheyandahoandaheyheyho · 02/04/2020 04:33

Wouldn't describe him as 'jolly' exactly, but mine's unfailingly calm and sweet natured. He's also naturally a bit of an introvert and good at managing his own time, so has taken social distancing completely in stride. I'm an anxious nightmare at the moment so not sure I could tolerate jolly!

Shoxfordian · 02/04/2020 07:08

My husband is usually happy although he worries more than me. I'm the one complaining about not being able to go to the pub!

Manyminieggs · 02/04/2020 11:12

Mines amazing. Both felt pretty flat yesterday then he started up a game of theme dress up and we ended up doubled up laughing. I love it. He makes the most mundane things amusing, but isn't over the top and knows to give my introverted self space when I need it too. He's definitely sunnier than me, and I get such a lift from spending time with him.

iklboo · 02/04/2020 11:15

I reckon Santa's probably a grumpy git most of the year but puts on the jolly just for Christmas. Like I do when FIL comes round

HoffiCoffi13 · 02/04/2020 11:16

Mine isn’t jolly. He is however pretty calm and laid back, and does his best to make things fun for the DC despite a stressful job. For example this morning he had them designing their own pancakes on paper then he tried to make them as per their design.
He’s also much better at the ‘home schooling’ malarkey than me as he makes it fun for them and has far more patience than I do.
He has his grumpy moments, as does everyone I suppose.
He’s great.

Stet · 02/04/2020 11:43

My husband is the most even-tempered person I've met. Never grumpy, never in a bad mood, never argues or loses his rag. And he's relentlessly cheerful and optimistic. God he sounds awful

But actually he balances me quite well as I'm much more neurotic and prone to catastrophising. Luckily DD has so far taken after him and is very laid back too!

Poppyfr33 · 02/04/2020 11:47

Mine can a grumpy so and so, but he keeps me cheerful with his really bad jokes.

lubeybooby · 02/04/2020 12:09

Yes - after leaving my ex I promised myself no more grumpy men ever

I stuck to it and very glad of it too

I wouldn't call him 'jolly' as such though, he's just up for whatever ridiculous shit I want to do (dying his hair and beard pink tomorrow) has a great sense of humour and is very, very rarely actively grumpy.

HerMajBishop · 02/04/2020 12:12

Not ‘jolly, but very good natured, positive, funny, caring and has been keeping me (naturally quite depressive) cheery during these strange times.

TheDogsMother · 02/04/2020 12:12

Mine isn't jolly as such but he's kind, even tempered, helpful and fun. I'm usually the problem solver in our house but I am really struggling with the current situation and he's keeping my feet on the ground.

WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo · 02/04/2020 12:17

God no.

I mean he's chirpier than me but has finally trained himself to get out of my way when I growl at him in the morning. Which is good.

chocolicious · 02/04/2020 12:19

@ Deadringer
I think we might be married to the same man.😂
You just described my husband !!

zigaziga · 02/04/2020 12:19

He’s generally a happy person, we both are.

CheriLittlebottom · 02/04/2020 12:23

I would say "annoyingly optimistic". Though even he is struggling a bit at the moment because he has so much work to do and working from home means he can't just leave it at the office.

Deadringer · 03/04/2020 00:37

chocolicious you can have him!

WotchaTalkinBoutWillis · 03/04/2020 02:04

My dh is an eternal optimist

Wish mine was, I'm the eternal optimist in this house and he would be pessimist if I let him lol
He's learning and being cheerier lately

corythatwas · 03/04/2020 09:04

Mine is quite jolly. Actually, his natural behaviour is jolly alternating with moments of gloom and wet-blanketry but years of going through quite difficult times in this family have taught him that not everything going through your mind has to be expressed, especially if there are vulnerable people around. There is a selflessness about him which I love.

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