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Does anyone have a jolly dh?

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Pansypath · 01/04/2020 20:40

I love my dh. But in these difficult times I would quite like a jolly dh. One who sees the sunny side and cheers everyone up and suggests games and makes silly faces on sandwiches etc. Not a grumpy sit in the corner headphones on being grumpy kind of chap. Do jolly DH's even exist, and is their jolliness a pain in the arse in normal times?

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Anotherdayanothernight · 01/04/2020 21:19

Wouldn't call DP jolly, but he's very positive and chatty, before all this he'd gladly chat to anyone, neighbour, whilst on holiday, total strangers, just anyone... He's opposite to me who's Scandinavian and slightly more reserved.

evilharpy · 01/04/2020 21:19

Mine is somewhere in the middle I guess but he's not a joy thief at all, just a worrier/stresser. He's not jolly but he is very witty and makes me laugh a lot, and is quite happy to prance like an eejit around the living room pretending to do PE with Joe Wicks to entertain the small child. At no point so far during lockdown has he actually annoyed me (apart from his snoring).

CouldBeOuting · 01/04/2020 21:21

I feel like I should apologise but my DH is making a point of making me laugh every day. He is doing comical things, saying comical things.

He is WFH and I am working on a rota as a keyworker in school but he is making sure that I and our DS are laughing, he is even making our DD laugh over WhatsApp as she is several hundred miles away. ....

He has made me smile and laugh for over 30 years but making a point if it right now.

Shehz21 · 01/04/2020 21:24

My husband is the epitome of optimism. And very very jolly, even during the most stressful of times. He gets on my nerves with his cheerfulness sometimes(especially in these times).

schnubbins · 01/04/2020 21:26

Mine is so upbeat and optimistic .He always looks on the bright side of life.It can be difficult though when there is a problem as he tends to bypass them.But by and large he is really the life and soul of the party .People love him . He is also physically as large as his personality And guess what he is German ,the total opposite to all those oh so worn out stereotypes

Stroller15 · 01/04/2020 21:27

I have a jolly one too. He is very happily looking after 2 small DCs while I WFH - he cooks the meals, cleans the house and he makes the jokes. I'm very grateful.

BackforGood · 01/04/2020 21:28

No, unfortunately my dh can be grumpy in many circumstances. Don't get me wrong, he has a lot of qualities, but being jolly isn't one of them.
Fair play, he is trying really hard at the moment, but working from home with 2 of our dc also confined to the house was never going to improve his mood. Grin

stanski · 01/04/2020 21:32

Mine is a grump... I would have preferred jolly too

Superlooper · 01/04/2020 21:38

About 80% jolly (more than me). I need to be a bit more jolly for him.

Mostly it's good but sometimes he picks the wrong time to drive the kids mad

ktp100 · 01/04/2020 21:38

Mine is working hard but down to play with DS every chance he gets and although he definitely falls on the side of sarcastic-funny over tomfoolery he's an absolute gem in a crisis.

Mistymonday · 01/04/2020 21:39

No, I’ve got a grumpy one here

AhoyMrBeaver · 01/04/2020 21:39

I wish. I should have seen his dad, who has been self-isolating since the 1990s, as a warning of the future.

DH forgets that those around him sometimes need someone to give them a little boost or spell them off from being the jolly one.

StarsThatTwinkle · 01/04/2020 21:43

Mine's not jolly all the time, but considering the stress he's under with work, he does well and he does make sure he makes the DCs laugh.

One exBF did make me laugh a lot and was very funny, but on the downside he was also impulsive and dreamy, which wasn't very practical on occasion.

I prefer to see my mostly practical, stoic DH as a Mr Darcy type. Smile Cool, calm and collected on the outside but loyal and romantic on the inside.

hellswelshy · 01/04/2020 21:53

My dh is, for me, a perfect mix of jolly at times but also sensible, practical and calm at others. He makes me laugh every day and dd's have lots of silly fun with him! He would probably not appear that way to others, he's fairly shy until you know him well.

As a pp said, I had an ex who appeared to be fun, jolly and friendly to others, always wanting to get a laugh from everyone. But he was a nightmare partner, narcissistic, depressive, egotistical and very flaky.

I know what I prefer!

DramaAlpaca · 01/04/2020 21:56

No, a jolly one would drive me mad, as would grumpy one.

I've got a calm, relaxed, practical, easy-going one, he's good to have around in a crisis.

Atthebottomofthegarden · 01/04/2020 21:57

None in this house. My DF can be quite jolly though. It irritates DM no end.

Fentyplenty · 01/04/2020 22:02

My DP is ‘jolly’ I suppose. Calm, even tempered, never argues and will always make the best of things. All these things I love about him in normal circumstances.

However, as we don’t live together and are now isolated til God knows when, his jolly attitude is doing my head in slightly. I’d just like him to look a bit more miserable about of separation and act like he misses me. Instead I get lots of contact but all terribly upbeat and I just feel like wallowing sometimes!

LemonSock · 01/04/2020 22:02

He’s even-tempered, can-do, funny and optimistic, which is why we work, as I’m gloomy and panic easily. I’m afraid ‘jolly’ makes me think of someone with an awful permagrin like Michael McIntyre.

And if someone made a silly face on my sandwich I would stick a fork in them

AnneElliott · 01/04/2020 22:32

Er no. He's a grumpy sod. Sometimes I'm so desperate for a bit of optimism!

Trying2019 · 01/04/2020 22:45

Mine is pretty much always happy. Rarely grumpy. Me on the other hand... 😁

FunnysInLaJardin · 01/04/2020 22:48

Oh yes, my DH is. He has his down moments but generally has always been up beat and happy. I love him a lot Smile

FranklySonImTheGaffer · 01/04/2020 22:50

Mine is generally quite a happy person. Mix of silliness when I need a giggle and dry sarcasm which is probably more my kind of humour.

He's generally un-flappable which helps keep me calm and after listening to some of my friends talk about their miserable husbands and how it's making isolation harder, I'm very grateful for him and it helps me ignore the traits that drive me bonkers 😂

TKAAHUARTG · 01/04/2020 22:52

Mine is calm and happy and deeply funny. He does drive me mad sometimes, but he is a good person to be quarantined with. I proper belly laugh with him around.

panicstationsready · 01/04/2020 22:54

Not jolly exactly but like others I married a positive cheerful upbeat guy. He has his moments of being down but so rarely I worry about him when it happens. Can be a bit wearing at times, but most of the time it's great.

Boredbumhead · 01/04/2020 22:56

Not me. Mine has turned into sergeant fucking major. He's lovely really but he is doing my head trying to home school the kids

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