Anyone else much prefer sleeping by themselves?

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I feel bad about it but if I was told I could still have a relationship whilst sleeping on my own, I'd definitely be pleased about that.

It always feels like a camping situation to me - a temporary must do due to circumstances rather than something I'd freely choose to do.

To me, there's almost no advantage and a lot of disadvantages - their movement waking you up, them snoring/breathing heavily, hygiene things like wind (both the other person doing it and being conscious of yours), different sleep-wake cycles, annoying cuddles, not having enough space, having to compromise on temperature, feeling uncomfortably warm having another person beside you, finding it harder to fall asleep, etc.

Definitely a part of the relationship I'd rather do without!

Me I love it

Couldn't agree more. So civilised to have your own bed.

Oh yes, I love it. I have my own king sized bed and it's sheer bliss.

30 years happily married, 20 years in separate bedrooms. She snores like a rock crusher, I scream and thrash. We both have 4'6" doubles. Bliss.

Yes. We have separate bedrooms with our own ensuites. Love it!

l love it!
l've been in two long distance relationships and l'm so used to sleeping on my own, l can't sleep in a bed with anyone else when they're here.
l just can't get to sleep if there's someone else there, l can hear them breathing and feel them moving. l'm used to silence and can't bear the proximity of another person.
My OH is fine with it, he's much the same. We both sleep better and it's never affected our relationship - quite the reverse.
And l'm like a couple of other PP - l've got my king size bed and l love it.

I do not willingly share a bedroom or bathroom. Also happily married.

@DisgraceToTheYChromosome, that sounds like a hilarious combination!

I'm actually the opposite. I hate sleeping alone. I just don't sleep. I'm sure I would eventually, but as it stands, nope.

We sleep in separate rooms and I much prefer it. I don’t like being aware of someone else in the bed while I’m trying to fall asleep and I refuse to be kept awake by his snoring!

Very happily married (13 yrs) with separate bedrooms.

I am content not to share with another adult. DH and I more often sleep separately than together. I love sharing with the children though because they are gorgeous and cuddly and make funny little noises.

I hate sharing a bed and find it very disruptive to sleep. Unfortunately DH thinks differently

Me!!!

I've lived on my own for 14 years with a few relationships scattered about, but I always found the sleeping in the same bed, really irritating. Think I'm doomed for another 14 years...

I love sleeping alone but my husband doesn't get it. I am a very light sleeper, he falls asleep instantly and nothing wakes him, so he doesn't understand. It is a source of sadness in our relationship for him.

I am completely happy to sleep with my very quiet (and cute) 8 year old though.

Totally get this.

I prefer it too.

DH gets 'offended' when I say this but I sleep much better on my own.

I love my own bed! We have a king size and it's not big enough. We are currently isolating with my parents and they only have what seems like a tiny double and I'm hating it! It's awful I can barely sleep 😭

My husband and I have slept separately for about two years now. It works great. We both need quality sleep and we are better for it. We start off in the same bed to read, catch up have a cuddle etc and then he takes himself off to his room to sleep and I starfish in the other bed. He has windows shut and burrows down I have windows open and covers off. We both get a good nights sleep

We have mainly slept separately since small children arrived, and our life became about shift work . But we aspire to share again, and do from time to time, but we are still always so tired that it doesn’t seem worth the gamble that you may get a shite sleep by sharing. He is a very light sleeper and I usen’t to be, until had kids. Now get woken all the time and hate being unable to move freely without waking him all the time.

Sharing the bed with another human being? Fuck that shit. Only dogs and cats allowed that privilege

Also when this first occurred I was worried it was a sign of relationship breakdown and did lots of googling etc and some research suggests we are actually not designed to bed share and primitively would have slept further apart in our own space.

I love a bed to myself, and a bathroom. Unfortunately DH does not feel the same way.

I hate sharing a bed with anyone. Need complete darkness and silence.

Oh yes, separate bedrooms rock. You can always visit

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I like to sleep in the middle of the bed. I like a very low tog duvet in winter and none in the summer - sheet if anything. I like the window open every night. I like space and no warm body next to me.

DH likes to sleep wherever I am in the bed. He likes warm bedding. He doesn't like the window open unless it's a hot summer night. He likes to cuddle.

I like my bathroom uncluttered, spotless and smelling lovely. DH creates clutter, mess and smells. I am gradually training him out of our ensuite and into the bathroom next to our bedroom.