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A thread to be a bit sad about the little things and to be kind to one another

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 22/03/2020 09:06

Right, before anyone says it
Yes there are big terrible things happening
Trust me I know, probably I know more due to my worst than is good for my mental health
But i am still allowed to be sad an anxious about things and it seems on here currently allowing that space for people to vent their sadness kindly seems in short supply
Please can this thread be a place to let our sadness out safely and support with kindness
Little things can become huge when we're isolated and anxious about things we can't control
More than ever we need to share and support each other with the small anxieties because when this is all over we will have to pick ourselves up and get on with life and the more kindness and support now the the stronger we will be in the long term.

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Tomorrowsanewday · 22/03/2020 17:13

I’m sad because my friend’s husband’s cancer has returned and his time left will marred by this unreal situation.
He can’t even receive his chemotherapy in hospital as the cancer unit is virtually closed.
My friend is being so brave about it all.
I feel a moan for worrying if we’ll have enough food to see us through as although my cupboards are full atm every time I go to the supermarket the shelves are bare.

pitlochrypat · 22/03/2020 17:22

Corner shops/petrol stations seem to be the way to go for emergency food top ups.

HulaHoop2 · 22/03/2020 17:22

I’m sad because I live overseas in an already isolated place where you can hardly leave the house in winter, and I was so looking forward to being able to go out when the snow melted, and now I can’t.

I’m sad because the baby groups for the very small English community have now been cancelled, and they were my lifeline.

I’m sad that my toddler will not be able to go to the playground, or the pool this summer - his first summer of being able to walk and run!

HulaHoop2 · 22/03/2020 17:24

And I’m scared that my elderly father will die while the borders are closed and I won’t be able to fly home.

AdaFromYorkshire · 22/03/2020 17:30

Mine is very small. DD frequently pops in and out as she's just a few miles away. Her favourite mug is usually on the drainer, it's not worth putting it away. But today I put it in the cupboard as she won't be here. It's the first time I've cried about this crisis, it just brought it home. Sorry, I know it's trivial.

Arrakis · 22/03/2020 18:00

I don't think any of these things are trivial. This is just an example of how swiftly and devastatingly this has changed our lives. It might be temporary, but it could go on for a while, and it is awful and it is often the little bits that bring it home.

lovetheweekends · 22/03/2020 18:04

Feeling sad that we couldn't see my eldest DD and DGD who's only 4 months old today and don't know when we will be able to see them again.
We did FaceTime this morning which was lovely but shed a few tears afterwards.
Like other posters, I know how much she will change in just weeks and it makes me very sad to be missing out

saraclara · 22/03/2020 18:12

I'm sad that my baby granddaughter (4.5 months) isn't going to be able to be socialised, meet new people, and experience new environments and experiences over the next few months.
She'd just started to really recognise me and beam in delight when she saw me. And now I won't be able to see her and grow that relationship for a long time.

Toastie7 · 22/03/2020 19:33

I'm sad because my 18 year old son has had a rubbish couple of years with anxiety and depression and was just starting to come out of it thanks to driving lessons and a little job, but he had to give up the lessons and will probably have to give up the job. I'm worried he will stop talking eating and sleeping again.

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 22/03/2020 19:45

I'm missing my eldest tonight
He only lives a mile away with four friends
They've decided to keep themselves to themselves for now and although we speak daily and FaceTime I have never wanted to hug him tight more
He is doing it for me and the rest of us to keep things to a minimum and is being so sensible but I'm worried about him
His uni course has ended overnight
He will likely struggle to find any work for a long time when this is over
It feels like his whole future has had to be paused
I miss him

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MazDazzle · 22/03/2020 20:00

My eldest is in her last year of primary. No trip, no disco, no transition, no leavers’ assembly, no emotional last day.

My seniors aren’t getting a leavers’ ball. There’s uncertainty about their grades. They’ve been told that they won’t be disadvantaged, but I don’t believe that.

Our long awaited Easter break has been cancelled. I managed to get a really good deal and bought itison vouchers to use as well. All for nothing.

I work in a school and potentially we could be deployed elsewhere. More than happy to chip in anywhere where needed, but it’s the uncertainty that’s unnerving.

My boss is an absolute star and high risk. I’m worried for her and her family.

HappyStep1 · 22/03/2020 20:03

I'm sad today missing my Mum.
I'm scared for my elderly Dad and desperate to make sure I don't infect him.
I have no idea what will happen with my job and if I will be able to pay my bills in the next few months.
I'm angry with my sibling for not asking how things are with my elderly parent since they moved 400 miles away.
Thank you for this space

ExpletiveDelighted · 22/03/2020 20:04

My DS, who has ASD has made great progress socially and academically in an amazing special school. He is in his gcse year. When this first started appearing in the news in Jan he got alarmed and asked me if it would disrupt his GCSEs. I reassured him that it should all be fine.

MinesaPinot · 22/03/2020 20:05

I feel sad that this is happening at a time when the weather is turning and we should be able to go out and enjoy the sunshine, but we can't.

And not sad so much, but on FB this morning was a post from P & O showing one of their shops leaving Barbados - the one that we should have be sailing on in April. Along the side of the ship the lights were on reading "We'll Meet Again'. It was so touching - I howled, not for missing the holiday but just for the uncertainty.

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 23/03/2020 07:46

Just bumping this for the morning

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BogRollBOGOF · 23/03/2020 08:01

Mine is tiny, and a lot of what has been shared so far has been the big emotional stuff that makes us human

I've hated this long, long, grey, dull, soggy winter. It's been wearing, and now finally we get the nicest weather since the kids broke up last summer, and there's a risk of missing the spring and summer developing beyond my back garden. 100m from me, the bluebell woods are stirring into action after 6 months of being a swamp. Being connected to nature means so much to wellbeing, especially at a time when there is nothing on the calendar to look forwards to until at least September.

I am appreciating my home, my family and my little garden even if the grass is already losing the battle against the football

to all that need it x

ilovecakeandwine · 23/03/2020 08:19

Last week was very emotional so hopefully will settle this week.
I was sad about work my hours have been cut , school closed .
I'm sad that I couldn't go out at the weekend after it was planned for months and we never go out .
I'm sad about my holiday that I've saved up for all year will be cancelled .
I'm sad now the weather is getting better we can't enjoy it with going out beer gardens etc .
I'm sad about the economy I'm very worried about the future.
I'm sad that I couldn't hug my mum or see my in-laws on Mother's Day .
I'm trying to be positive I've got lots of jobs round the house to do so I'll never get board . I'm hopeful that the worst is a couple of months only and will start to get better .

BlueRaincoat1 · 23/03/2020 08:34

I'm sad that my brother's wedding is cancelled.

That my other brother has lost his brilliant new job.

I'm very sad that it is likely to be many, many months before I can see my lovely DM again, she lives alone in a different country. This will all be so hard for her. My children will miss her.

I'm sad not to see my family, and my nephews, again for likely a long time.

I'm sad that my DCs fairly small circle is now so much smaller, they will miss their friends and the lovely nursery staff who were so kind to them.

I'm sad for my best friend who is immunocompromised and already lonely, and things will be so much worse for her now.

It is a very worrying time.

ExpletiveDelighted · 23/03/2020 08:39

I'm trying to be positive about it happening now, in spring. We can still see what's happening in our gardens or from our windows, which is a lot more than if this had happened in say October. The evenings are lighter and longer already, it will make us miss pub gardens etc but at least we can throw open windows and put washing out to dry.

TreacherousPissFlap · 23/03/2020 09:58

I'm not sure as it wouldn't have been easier if this had happened in the autumn. That way we could have hunkered indoors and not felt like we were missing out on the good weather.
I'm due back to work tomorrow where I suspect the situation will have deteriorated rapidly. I'm apprehensive about how things will pan out and am fully expecting to be on 12hr shifts for the foreseeable.

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hobnobsaremyfavourite · 24/03/2020 12:30

Bumping

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Deathraystare · 24/03/2020 19:30

Missing my friends but obvs can text them (not on internet at home). That's about it . On the plus side I can really get to grips with my tip of a room now! I am still working but not all the time.

Hoolajerry · 24/03/2020 20:21

I'm sad because my husband has lost his job and our lives will be very different for the foreseeable future.
I'm sad because i am having to work full-time and not be at home with the dc. Dh also working full-time from home currently so they are fending for themselves.
My job is pretty emotionally demanding. I work with very vulnerable people and services and opportunities for them are closing down or much harder to access. I feel so sad for the challenges ahead that they will face.

ReginaGeorgeous · 24/03/2020 21:05

I’m so sad for my daughter. She’s five in a couple of weeks.

We took her on a birthday trip to Disneyland Paris and the park was closed the day after we arrived. What should have been a magical weekend was spend in a hotel room terrified the borders would be closed before we got home.
Her birthday party next weekend has been cancelled.
On her actual birthday, we should have been holidaying in the canaries and had promised her a trip to the water park. The holiday has been cancelled.
She was finally due to start ballet lessons last week, after months on the waiting list. We’d also had confirmation she had a place to start Rainbows after Easter. Both cancelled for the foreseeable.
She’s settled brilliantly at school, loves her teacher and has made friends. She misses them all terribly.

Her whole life has been turned on it’s head. She’s too little to understand really, and I’m thankful for that in the main but Christ this is hard on her.

Deathraystare · 25/03/2020 07:22

Forgot to add, was going to the Ideal Home Exhibition on Friday. I know it has really gone downhill now but last time i got some steamer bags for 50p (the ones you put in the microwave) and was planning to get them again. Oh and was going on holiday with friends in the UK late April/early May.

Never mind, worse things happen at sea as they say!

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