To think Mumsnet need to put on a let's be kind to each other message

[Casino218]

Just at the moment. Just while these events are unprecedented and lots of people are trying to make sense of an ever changing landscape. Can Mumsnet maybe put reminders out there somehow.

I've seen so many posts where really frightened people are coming to this thread for help and getting shitty comments back.

This is not a time to be shitty and some people need reminding.

Mumsnet is the last place I'd expect or want to see a 'be nice or shut up' message tbh.

If people posted on the appropriate board then they wouldn't get shitty replies.

#postwhereyoufuckingshould

Oh good grief.

I hope we can be nice to eachother. And if not, just not be dicks.

I think MNHQ would be better to put out a Don't Be A Dick message. No matter what the board.

I flatly reuse to “be kind” to anyone who sends their kid to school on Monday when they absolutely don’t have to (or are lying about how they fit the criteria).

I agree OP

As with all social media, people should consider whether what they're about to say is valid. If yes then they need to think of the most appropriate way of wording what they want to say. You can still disagree with someone and state a differing view without being a dick about it.

That's ok Phone. You don't have to be kind. Can you just not be a dick?

Not that you're actually being a dick Phone.

Whatever happened to resilience? If someone a snowflake is upset by a few messages on a keyboard then that is their own issue they need to combat.

Resilience! I think people are being resilient to a bloody mass epidemic! They don't need unkind dick heads on Mumsnet as well!

The problem is that some people think anything other than positive affirmation is awful. You see it in other threads where someone is being an arse and when people say so there's cries of "what happened to sisterhood?"

It's good to not be a dick though.

It's good not to be a dick but a lot of OPs are being dicks then getting dickish replies.

It has always been that way on MN and a pandemic won't change that

It's just people asking questions because they are upset and confused! Probably the dick heads are upset confused and angry but it's no excuse!

This whole global pandemic thing has given a lot of people an opportunity to give others a real kicking, verbally, whilst pretending that it's because they are actually oh so civic minded and compassionate and care so much about others. It's very unpleasant to see.

I'll be kind when people stop thinking they're above this and exempt to the rules!
AIBU to go to the ice cream van whilst isolated? AIBU to think I'm a key worker as a nail tech? AIBU to send my kids to school with a fever when I don't think it's coronavirus? AIBU to make my 90 year old mum do her own shopping? AIBU to let my kids have their friends over and go out to play?

People can use the internet they're using to post on MN to get answers to all their questions instead of asking MN the questions like in the post above. If they can't be arsed, they might get responses they don't like if asking MN.

Even if they do it wouldn't work, calling the place a pit of vipers is about right. I think I'd rather take my chance with the vipers, it's got worse this week.

The only people I know who love telling others to ‘be kind’ are vile human beings themselves.

Who police's this ‘kindness’ ... you op?

Until posters stop making the corona virus political, the message won’t get through. Mumsnet is far too left wing for the be kind message.

Being left or right wing has nothing to do with it, that's rubbish. If you want to bring politics into it then I hardly think you can describe the right wing as being full of compassion.

Yep I agree OP

There's a definite shift in the tone of posts this week. As if lots of people have finally woken up to what's happening. They are frightened and responding in anger, worried for themselves and their families.

We are all fearful. We can choose to fight against one another or we can choose to support each other.

Resilience! I think people are being resilient to a bloody mass epidemic! They don't need unkind dick heads on Mumsnet as well!

Casino218 Except that they’re not, because we seem to have too many snowflakes in our society and parents are continuing to cause it. You only have to look at the multitude of posts with OPs complaining their kid won’t cope if they have to stay home for a few months/miss their prom etc. People need to get a grip.

Nobody should be affected by words on a screen from a stranger, and if they are that is their problem to fix.

We are all fearful. We can choose to fight against one another or we can choose to support each other.

Except the actions of a lot of posters is going totally against that. People who think it's okay to go swimming, to the park, to friends' houses are the problem. They're the reason this virus won't stop spreading. People are allowed to be angry about that.

People are allowed to be angry at those who are putting us all at risk - absolutely. There are ways, however, of stating your point without being a total bitch.

I agree OP. I've just read through a thread from a terrified OP who has taken a bashing that was really unnecessary.

When we come out the other side of this, some will be largely unaffected, some will have substantial MH issues and some will be dealing with unimaginable loss. Suicide rates will go up, divorce rates will go up.

This will impact on adults and children alike - all of us will be affected somehow. Then there's the NHS staff who are risking their own wellbeing to serve others; the teachers who are continuing to work throughout to support those families and the most vulnerable children in the country; those involved in food and medical supplies. Many will be working despite being terrified, managing their own health issues as they do so.

Have we learnt nothing? Just be kind! Be kind, be kind, be kind.