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Original poster

Teen wants to go out with his friends locally tomorrow for an.hour ... should I keep him.in?

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Overseasmom100 · 18/03/2020 21:24

We are all well. Im working from home.
DS is collecting books from school tomorrow then wants to go to the skate park for a but with a few friends.

Should I let him go? I just not sure what to do.

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frasersmummy · 18/03/2020 22:15

I think. Until we are in lockdown proper we need to give our kids a little slack

They are still mixing in classes, playground and in town at lunch times

Skate park for an hour ain't gonna make much difference

Once the schools are shut we might need to think differently

chomalungma · 18/03/2020 22:17

People are still allowed out for fresh air under 'social distance' guidelines.

Keep apart by 2m.

Schools are open tomorrow and Friday.

I think this is going to be a really really hard time for many people - and there are going to be teenagers out - especially if their parents are at work.

Wolfiefan · 18/03/2020 22:21

Schools ARE shutting.
And teens who won’t stay in even though that’s the advice? They’re hardly going to be 2m away from each other are they?
Jeez. It’s idiots like this that’ll see people like me killed off.
Stay the fuck away from other people. Where at all possible.
It’s not hard to understand is it??

PurpleDaisies · 18/03/2020 22:23

This exactly why a strict lockdown will ever up happening.

Davros · 18/03/2020 22:24

17 year old DD is going to college for the next two days.

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Overseasmom100 · 18/03/2020 22:25

Just sat him down and explained how serious this is. He NOW understands!!!! He will stay in

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tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 18/03/2020 22:28

Whilst I agree it's no different to being in school, walking home with friends etc I think it's about changing a mindset to it being socially unacceptable almost to do anything that isn't essential.

Otherwise peoples actions are going to kill people.

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Overseasmom100 · 19/03/2020 18:40

Made DS watch the live broadcast tonight which was all about young people and non essential contact and spread. Seems to have sunk in abit more after another melt down of him wanting to go out on Saturday to a friends house

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hannabarbera · 19/03/2020 18:43

It’s no different to people having to go to work.

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 18:45

Er, no!
Books then straight back home and washes his hands as soon as he gets in.

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 18:46

Work is necessary for a lot of people: skateparks aren’t.

TheCanterburyWhales · 19/03/2020 18:50

Show him the table which shows the UK is still on the same trajectory as Italy. Just 14 days behind.
Then show him the army trucks moving the dead out of Bergamo because there is no longer any room in Bergamo for them.
Then show him a picture of you, or his grandparents or any older relatives he has.
Then see if he wants to see his mates.

Connie222 · 19/03/2020 18:55

My 17 year old understands the gravity of the situation and is happily staying at home. I’m pregnant and he wouldn’t risk bringing anything back to me for starters.

Not all teens are irrisponsible.

1066vegan · 19/03/2020 18:57

Or are people suggesting .... those teens should give up their jobs as well?

I am.

My dd has a waitressing job at an Indian restaurant. She went to work a couple of evenings ago (Her dad was at work and I was shopping at the supermarket for my elderly mum, was on the phone to my mum and missed dd's call so couldn't veto it).

When she got back we explained why it hadn't been a good idea and we were shocked when she said that the place had been really busy. She agreed to text her boss to say that she won't be in for the forseeable future and she has also agreed to cancel her driving lessons.

Everybody needs to take social distancing seriously and minimise contact with others as much as they are able to.

avocadoze · 19/03/2020 19:00

My teenager will be in the house or walking over the local fields with us to get fresh air and exercise. And that’s it, for as long as this takes.

Vinylsamso · 19/03/2020 19:02

I would. I think the lack of fresh air will be a bigger health hazard.
Stopped and chatted with a 90 year old woman in Tesco today. She walked there apparently. She was fit as a fiddle and an absolute delight to speak to. She said she had plenty of family but had been in for a week and has had enough!
Told me she’d been through the war and this was nothing. Said was dressed so smartly and was just so agile. She put a smile on my face.
I don’t think anybody has a right to tell her what to do personally.

Vinylsamso · 19/03/2020 19:02

She wasn’t even phased by the lack of stock. She took it all in her stride.

Duchessofblandings · 19/03/2020 19:07

Oh good. She’ll take it in her stride then when they don’t have a ventilator for her. Or if they do and it deprives someone else.

I8toys · 19/03/2020 19:09

Aren't schools shutting because there are no teachers? Not because the children will spread it, catch it etc. Therefore surely if there were staff they would be in school with the same people they are socializing with.

YakkityYakYakYak · 19/03/2020 19:09

Yeah, why not! Not like there’s a deadly virus going around or anything.

loutypips · 19/03/2020 19:09

Ffs! Why can't people understand that social distancing means not socialising with people outside of their household. Why can't they phone each other like we did when we were kids?!?

Smithy01 · 19/03/2020 19:23

My kids are still at school till end of play tomorrow, 30ish sat in a confined space but the government say that’s ok. You can understand why people are confused!

Hairydogmummy · 19/03/2020 19:28

I'm a teacher. We have told and told the students till we're blue in the face but they're still crowding in together 6 of them watching one phone, play fighting, hands round each other's faces and worst of all coming in to school with clear symptoms. One boy we sent home yesterday with cough and fever was back in school today having walked in with friends via MacDonalds. Apparently his mum told him to find out how he could get his work sent home. Needless to say he was sent home again. We have sent dozens of teenagers home with clear symptoms over the last few days and he's not the only one who's had to be sent home twice. Younger teens, especially boys are really not getting it.

AddressLabel · 19/03/2020 22:27

Loads of people aren’t getting it. I think it was stupid to close the schools without a proper lockdown and better guidelines on what “non essential travel” is for a start. All closed schools are going to do is cause more hassle and expense for working parents.
Those people that aren’t getting it are the ones letting their children play with other children outside (group of primary aged children outside running amok this evening, doubt that will change on Monday). My neighbour is STILL going to the pub after work for a pint (and her 6 year old was one of the kids out playing this evening). The caravan parks etc here are still filling up with people. Closing the schools was absolutely pointless.

ChickLitLover · 19/03/2020 22:48

Closing the schools was absolutely pointless.

Its not pointless. It still allows sensible parents to protect their kids and reduces the number of people out and about as again sensible people are not letting their kids out. Less people out means less spread. But I despair at some people, some parents of kids and teens with their “I couldn’t possibly stop them from going out.” crap. Fucking parent your kids ! And don’t get me started on the over 70s that have decided now is the right time to do routine doctors appointments, see their optician for a routine eye test and buy some plants from the garden centre and have a coffee whilst they’re there. 😡