Do you and DH/DP still have both parents? How old are you?

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Inspired by the equally morbid thread about grandparents, it made me think about parents. Both DH and I have both parents living. I am almost 52 and DH will be 56 in a few months. All parents are in their mid to late 70s. We fear that at some point we will have a terrible year when we lose them all.

Oh and DH’s grandparents are still going strong at 94 and 95! I lost mine some years ago although grandad lived to 92. Everyone had children ‘late in life’ in my family.

Mid sixties,last of previous generation died last year.

I lost all my grandparents by the late 90s. My dad is 73 and his health is precarious. I''m 42.

My MiL died at 48, but FiL is still with us, again, health precarious, but at 72 and with his life history, I'm impressed.

My SMiL lost her dad aged 99 last year. Her mum is still alive at 96.

Yes, we both still have ours, we're 46. They're all in their 70s.

I lost my dad when i was 39, dh lost his dad when he was 46, we both still have our mums, his mum is late 70s mine is early 80s with dementia. Thread about GP made me think, I still had one GP until i was 35 ,my DC are unlikely to have GPs when they are in their thirties

I am 41 and have neither of my parents, DH is 55 and has both.

I’m 30, both parents still with me at 60 and 68 but dad quite severely disabled. DH lost his dad at 25 (when FIL was 59) but still has his 66 year old mum.

We have a DC on the way so hopefully they will know at least their grandmothers into their teens (I have everything crossed for the same for my dad but we shall see).

I’m 27, have two parents (Late 50s and early 60s) and three grandparents (ranging from late 70s to 90).
DH is 31 and has two parents (both mid-late 60s), no grandparents.

I think it makes a difference that I’m the eldest child and DH is the youngest with a substantial age gap.

I’m 42, DH nearly 47. We have all parents. Mine are 70 and in excellent health, very fit and active and my Dad still working.

FIL is late 70’s and poor health, I imagine he has limited time left. MIL lives abroad and is mid 70’s, there isn’t much wrong with her.

DH is 56, MIL is 91 but his DDad died when DH was 17. MIL Manages with a weekly carer and meals delivered. She’s very frail though. Dreading her passing away. She’s absolutely lovely.

I am 48, my DM is 79 and My DDad is 84. Both in reasonable health and quite active for their ages. They have always caravaned for holidays and can still tow and get the awning up. I dread the day when they have to give that up. 3 of their parents lived to late 80s. I can’t even think about the future without them. My head is firmly in the sand.

My parents died when I was in my 50s (at 80 and 86 respectively), but my h, who is 67, cares for his father (who has alzheimers), and who is nearly 93. I think it's a sign of the times that you can be a carer, yet old enough to be retired yourself.

Df died at 51 dm at 69. Both suddenly of massive strokes. I was 48 when Mum died and it's been hard. Inlaws both still alive in their early 80s.

I'm 45 and have both parents. DH is 40 and has his mum. His dad died 8 years ago.

Mid 50's and still have all four. 86,86 86,92. One set still live independently although in poor health, one set recently moved into care home, one in poor health, the other, the 92 year old, to keep him company. She will outlive us all!

Yes we do. I'm 30 and both of my parents are 52 and DH is 33 and his parents are 60 and 63. Funnily enough, I was 27 and DH was 30 when our DS was born, the same age his parents were when they had DH

im 55 and lost my parents years ago mum i lost nearly 20 years ago and dad 10 years ago my partner is early 60s and his mum and dad are still very much alive and kicking

I'm nearly 30, still have both my parents but I'm NC with my dad. Mum is 51.

I'm 36 and just have my mum. DH is 39 and also just has his mum. We both lost our dads to cancer before they turned 60, 3 and 9 years ago, sadly before either met their grandkids.

We're mid 30s and both have both parents. My DF is 60 and still has both of his.

I’m 31, 32 next month, and lost both my parents in my 20s. I’m jealous of people who still have their folks

Mid thirties here. Mum has terminal cancer and Dad has advanced dementia, so I'll be losing both soon. All grandparents died in the first five years of my life.

DP's parents are significantly younger than mine and are likely to be around for some time. He also still has his grandmother who is 85 (and only a couple of years older than my dad).

It's hard.

membership of the 'both parents living and in reasonable health' club is very precious, and I think we all recognise that it isn't forever. I remind you that 71 year old Prince Charles is in it too!

I'm 35 and DP is 38; we still have all four parents. Mine are 68 and (nearly) 70 and in reasonable health though I worry my dad has the beginnings of dementia. DP's parents are 58 and 70; her dad has a lot of health problems and is more or less housebound and her mum (58) could easily be taken for a decade or two older. I don't know how long they will be around. However, DP's grandmother died at the grand old age of 94!

I do find it sad realising that my toddler will probably not know her grandparents in the same way I knew mine (or DP knew hers).

membership of the 'both parents living and in reasonable health' club is very precious, and I think we all recognise that it isn't forever

So true. Also worth noting that ‘in reasonable health’ can change alarmingly quickly.

My parents were in apparent excellent health when they went on a skiing holiday in the January of the year in which they both died of cancer (Dad in August, mum in October).

Both my parents are still alive (mid 70s) but DH only has his mum left (70) his Dad died at 67 a decade ago.

A lot of my friends have lost a parent in the last decade and I dread the next decade as I know a lot more of that generation will pass on. I know it is a fact of life but it is so hard.