Those who are single - what do you do on the weekends?

[Splitsunrise]

Especially during Friday and Saturday nights!

I don’t have loads of single friends, everyone seems to be with their OH most of the time and am anticipating it being really lonely. Do you do hobbies, just go out and do things by yourself, or try and make new friends? Do you just get used to your own company?

Sorry if it’s a stupid question, just last time I was in this situation I found it really difficult to manage and ended up feeling very depressed.

Same as I do any other day, usually with my kids.

Forgot to add I don’t have kids, so it is just by myself

I work M-F 9-5 so I have a typical weekend.

My Saturday routine is usually gym, food, groceries, then I do my housework. On Sunday I go to church and see my mum and dad for dinner.

Occasionally I set up a date but I'm taking a break from the apps. Like you, most of my friends are coupled up or parents so I see them maybe once every six weeks.

It's not so bad. I do worry at times that I'm very used to it and it would actually be difficult to give it up now.

I do find holidays difficult. That's when the loneliness really kicks in.

I do parkrun on a Saturday morning and go trail running with a group on Sunday morning. I do housework on Saturday afternoons and up batch cooking on Sundays for the rest of the week.

Saturday - a long walk in the country in the morning, then shopping, cleaning, errands in the afternoon. I always make a point of cooking something a bit fancier/nicer than I do during the week for tea, then catch up on tv or a film.
Sunday - a good chunk of the day is taken up with church related stuff, I do crafty stuff like making quilts in the afternoon and batch cook some soups and curries for meals the following week.

(Been in a relationship 6 weeks)

See friends, church, exercise, studying for masters, learning language, visit places, batch cook, bake, hobbies, read, board games with friends, local comedy night.

I'm single, no kids.
On Friday night I was quite tired as went to the gym late afternoon, also had increased the dose of an epilepsy med so watched home & away then had a very early night!!

On Saturday I had a lie in, met friends at 2pm in the small town where they live (one single like me, one with her little girl), had coffee & looked round town.
Home by 430, had planned to go to gym early evening & have a (soft) drink (by myself) in the pub after but was too sleepy due to the med increase so it was another early night.

Today my sister came round, we went shopping & had coffee, I'm just getting myself prepared for work tomorrow.

Most weekends I tend to meet friends at least once & my sister once. We generally have coffee or go for a meal.
I like to go out in the evening but unfortunately this doesn't happen often.
No one ever wants to do what I'd like to do.

I go to the gym regularly now on days off, it's in a large hotel with a coffee shop & pub.

But I still feel lonely there although the staff are friendly enough.

There are lots of fit men around & they look but they just don't chat. I'm too shy to start a conversation.

I also work one or two weekends a month but still have time to go out.

I don't date at present, I've given up on dating apps.

I go out with friends or get a bottle of wine in and watch a movie. If my friends are busy then I would be fine to go out on my own. I'll likely do that more in the summer and go out for a few drinks solo

Thanks for your replies

@LilyJade this is my concern too re No one ever wants to do what I'd like to do

I’d love to go on a long walk in country, for example, but I wouldn’t know who with.

My friends seem to be a bit crap with replying and they’re all so busy...in a relationship you always have someone to do something with, which is why I’m worrying about it!

So do people feel happy being by themselves at home Friday/Saturday night? I guess I’ve got it in my head that everyone has fun plans and is out and I’m at home listening to my next door neighbours have fun whilst I flick channels on tv.. sounding very sorry for myself I know!

Join meet-up for social things to do in the evening, some day time events at weekends etc

This was my weekend. Tbh most are similar.

I've noticed that the idea of "going out" (as in socialising) doesn't really enter my head anymore. I'm single, live alone and fine with own company, as I don't have a lot of choice, so....

Friday: Gym/week's laundry/tv
Saturday: Nothing really - tv, MN.
Sunday: "special wash" of some bits that have been hanging round. Prepped work bag and clothes for tomorrow.

Splitsunrise

I like my own company, I enjoy planning nights home alone! Film or net flux, nice meal, snacks snd 🍷

Totally fine with being by myself of a Friday/Sat.

BUT i see friends most weekends so being in and alone is rarer. It hasn’t always been like that but I’ve worked hard on how I view myself and I’ve developed new friendships. When I didn’t enjoy it I always made sure I had things I could do ie craft, baking etc.

Mumsnet, television, family history and games.

OP what do you want to do?

Usually variations of:
Gym, housework, DIY, long dog walks, meet friends for a drink, rock climbing, local markets, grocery shopping.

Plus occasional weekends farther afield with friends

One thing I find helpful is sticking to the same sleep hours - usually 10-6
This gives me lovely productive days and stops me drinking too much evening wine

I go out walking on my own - on Saturday I was out at 7am, did a 16km walk and was all done by 12pm. I listened to a book on audible whilst I was walking and take a flask of coffee. I prefer it to going to the gym for exercise.

You're not alone in spending evenings alone! When you're single it's easier to be flexible so you can see friends when they're free, and they're often not at weekends.

So what though? Meet up is good, if you want to find some new people to do stuff with, but frankly it can be blissful to stay home, undisturbed. Find something to study. What have you always wished you knew more about?

It's not any kind of reflection on your character, spending time alone. Unless you spend it feeling crap about yourself.

Argue with my children and try and bribe them to leave the house .

Empty nester here. Dredded the weekends where I would see no one. However now I embrace the fact that I can slouch on the couch and it’s no one’s business. When I do have an arrangement to meet friends, really saviour the meeting rather seeing it as run of the mill. No interest in dating. Love not having to clear up after people or cater for ‘contrary’ tastes. I suspect I am evolution in progress; adapt or sink ✊

When I was single and child free (I.e on the weekends dc were at their dads) I used to go out with friends - I know you said most of yours have partners and aren't up for going out much so maybe time to make some other friends!!! We'd go for meals, cinema or drinks.

If I was home alone I'd have a few glasses of wine and treat myself to a nice takeaway in the evening. During the day I'd do food prep for the following week, shopping, errands, gym, reading.

I don't feel that happy being in all evening at the weekend.
There is so much to do locally such as gigs, bars that host good bands & djs, various restaurants, cinema etc.

I know I should try to meet new friends but in reality I want a boyfriend.
Also I hate the first stages of getting to know new people. I have MH problems & get very paranoid literally. I even felt unwell in the gym last time I went as I thought everyone was being horrible about me. So a meet-up group would be my worst nightmare.
I have one single best friend, my sister who is single and two best friends who are married with kids. Its just that they only do what THEY want to do.

@Eckhart

It's not any kind of reflection on your character, spending time alone. Unless you spend it feeling crap about yourself.

Well I think this is part of my problem I feel like a total loser if I’ve asked people if they’re free and they have other plans, or don’t reply, and I feel so lonely by myself! I guess I need to work on this mindset and also that lots of people are by themselves.

I also only really have individual friends I see 1-1 but not a group of friends as such (or not ones I see more than once a year) so it always feels a bit disjointed.