DM and MIL on hen do???

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NC for this one. My hen do is a couple months time. I have invited 12 of my close friends.

It's become apparent that both DM and MIL expect to be invited.

I have an ok relationship with both of them in small doses/family scenarios -a bit better with MIL as DM has no off switch and never stops talking, usually to turn any convo around to herself. MIL is sweet but I wouldn't be able to really let me hair down.

Did you invite DM and/or MIL to yours? How did it go? Or did you not invite them and did they strop? I'm leaning heavily towards doing what I personally would prefer which is to not invite them.

I did. But it was a very relaxed evening at my parents (my DDad vacated at a great pace!) with food and booze and lots of relaxed chat.

I went on my daughter’s hen do. It was fine had a few drinks bit of a dance. Played a few hen do type games it was fine.
How old are they? I was 42.

Definitely do both if you can. We had one at my house with drinks, silly games (only mildly saucy!) and a buffet. It was really good fun and both my mum and MIL felt really involved. Did a seperate night out with friends and went to bars and a club (they all came to the thing at my house too but since that was free it wasn't a big problem for anyone).

If they mention it, ask whether they invited their own mother and mother in law to their hen do.
Thought not!

Yes theirs would have been a more simple affair but I bet they just invited their friends, no older generation relatives. Whether it's a night out or a weekend it's the same principle.

I'm going to my dd's hen do and I'm over 60. I was surprised she wanted me there tbh. I've been to really raunchy hen dos though and I think this will be tame in comparison.
I think it depends on the relationship. My dd and I are very close.

Yes, I invited both of them with a friend each. MIL said no, thankfully. My DM came & had a great time, did her own thing a lot too.

It depends on your relationship with them, and also the theme of the hen do. I’m very close with my mum, and I love her to bits, but she is the biggest prude I know. If she was to attend a hen do with willy straws and strippers...I just can’t even imagine it..she’s very much an afternoon tea and spa day kind of woman

MIL is a lot more open shall we say. She talks about sex a lot (much to dps delight) but I still probably wouldn’t invite her, as it changes the dynamic of the whole group.
Plus @MangoHat’s post has scared me, I tend to chat rubbish when I’m drunk

I'm feeling extra love for my daughter right now. She genuinely wanted all the women she loved at her hen do, and her lovely friends were as warm and welcoming of me and her MIL as ever.

I've invited both my mum and MIL to be, plus my DPs Nan. I'm having a civilised afternoon tea somewhere fancy then going for drinks on the piss.

My mum and his nan won't drink and will go home after the afternoon tea, but my MIL is an absolute hoot and will be first one up dancing. She's fab and a good laugh.

Should have added I've done the afternoon tea so my mum would come as I want her to be involved.

It's also given others the option to just come to that, drinks or both and it's worked well.

When my DD had her hen do abroad I never considered she would want me there, and we're really close, but I'm her mum not her mate. The thought of clubbing until 4am, the whole 'are we having fun yet?' just not really my thing. MIL however was very insulted not to be invited. Horses for courses.

God no. There was stuff on my hen that neither of them needed to hear and lots of drinking. So no. I had a great time though! Worst hangover I’ve ever had.

I'm 37. They're both early 60s.

MIL is lovely but square and posh. DM very un-posh with verbal diarrhoea.

Fuck it, I'm not going to invite them and I'll deal with the consequences- the only one of which will be DM talking about the hen dos her friends get invited to.

mangohat that sounds like one hell of a night! Clearly you were the sensible friend to remember it all

Please report back OP, when is it?

It's at the beginning of June. I will report back!

No I didn't.Didnt want them to cramp my style!