Was this mean?

[Surly]

On the train today and there was a teenage couple, a couple my age (30s) and myself.
Teenage boy says to girl, you're so bangable, girl makes a face and says bangable? Boy says yea it's a compliment its just a slang way to say pretty, everyone says you have a bangable face.
Anyway they get off the train and the woman from the other couple smirks and says to her oh, so do you think I'm banagable then? (Obvisouly lightheartedly) he says of course, she says do you think other people think I have a banagable face? (Still clearly just taking the mick out of what the teenagers were saying) he pauses and stares at her for about 5 seconds and says well your body is bangable and she looks annoyed and the conversation ends, shes silent for the rest of the trip clearly annoyed and he just says well how am I meant to know what other people think?
I thought this was so nasty of him she was clearly just having a laugh but he should've just said yes. FWIW she was actually very pretty.

Ha ha, it is funny, but he is a total dick. No banging for him that night then!!!

You don’t know their relationship.

I can’t imagine being so concerned about it that I would bother starting a thread about this.

@purpleDaisies this is a very long and boring train ride.

Given that ‘bangable’ is pretty much a synonym for ‘fuckable’, applying either specifically to a face is a bit graphic, surely?

It’s not a synonym for ‘pretty’ unless you’re functionally illiterate.

Or are a recently-arrived Martian who’s learned English from rap.

@BoudoirPink I did think that myself but the teenage boy stated it was slang for pretty.
But the woman was clearly copying what the teenagers were saying so I still think its mean of her oh to not just say yes

He's negging her and the teenager boy was crude.

Just replace the word with the word pretty.. that what I'm getting at.
If I asked my dh he would say something like ' if they dont think you're pretty they must be stupid or blind ' I.e hed make me feel good about myself not just pause and basically tell me I'm ugly.

And I'm not even that pretty truth be told but as my partner hed tell me something to make me feel good.
This woman was very pretty and had her feelings clearly hurt.

I don't think it was nasty. She asked a question about herself which he replied of course too. She then went on to ask shout other people and he's right he doesn't know what someone else will think of her but he thinks she's 'banagable' and surely that's only what matters here.
Most people wouldn't give two shits if someone else other than their partner didn't find them attractive.
She was sensitive on the subject and I think maybe you might want to stop listening to people's conversations 🤣

He didn't say she was ugly though! He said he doesn't know what other people would think. Stop reading into it too much fgs.

And why should he agree to something to make someone else happy? if this was the other way round...

I wonder what he says when she asks, "Does this dress make me look fat?" Does he pause and say, well, just from the back"??

Maybe he has ASD. I hope he does.

the teenage boy stated it was slang for pretty

That was helpful of him.

It doesn’t matter how the teen explained it, bangable obviously has connotations of “fuckable” so it’s not synonymous with pretty. So it’s not the same as replacing it with the word pretty in your example.

@PurpleDaisies huh? Read the op, he said it to his girlfriend.
The woman only asked about other people because the teenage boy said everyone thinks your face is banagable!
She wasnt seriously asking, she was taking the mick

I hve far too much time on my hands I know

I did read it.

It was very convenient that he chose to explain what “bangable” meant.

@NotALurker2 thank you for getting what I'm trying to say.
Surely a partner is someone who builds you up not breaks you down. Theres such a thing as being too truthful.

@PurpleDaisies because his girlfriend made a face when he said it!
FWIW that not what I know banagable to mean but that's besides the point.
I'm not arguing over what it meant fgs my post is about how a partner should just make someone feel good at about themselves. Doesnt matte what the actual question was.
She could've asked 'do you think I'm intelligent', or Do you think I can get through this presentation tmrw' the answer should be yes

Yes it was mean.

I remember having a meal with some friends and they brought another couple with them. The dh got drunk and said to one of the men out of ear shot of his wife and said about his wife ‘her face is a bit battered but she got a top body’

His wife was happily chatting away. How I didn’t throw my wine over him I don’t know..

Also you’re reading into this too much.

There’s a good chance the adult BF wasn’t listening to the teen’s full conversation to understand the references

There’s a good chance that the adult GF is happy speaking about her “bangable body” with her BF in private, but pulled a face because by saying that, he’s publicly referencing their sex life in front of others and she didn’t like that. She probably clocked that you were listening in!

This is the sort of thing my husband would say to me. I’d punch him on the arm and laugh!

They were smirking during the conversation so I know they both heard it. I was sat behind them, I dont think they knew I was listening.
I dont think she meant banagable in that way, she meant it the way the teenage boy meant it, and I dont think she was really asking, she was taking the mick

I am reading a bit much into it yes. I am on a now empty train with another half hour to go and nothing to do.