Dumped menopausal women

[madcatladyforever]

So I've been divorced for a year and I've had to downsize.
I've moved into a very nice little modern cottage in a row of 5 in a lovely 17th century village in a much cheaper part of the country.
Yesterday the other 4 residents came over in a "gang" to say hello and bring flowers. They are all lovely.
All of them are around my age and their husbands left them during the menopause.
It's like some kind of menopausal womens leper colony.
Makes me wonder what percentage of menopausal women get divorced or their husbands leave them.
Any mid life divorcees on here?

Oh God don't think of it as a menopausal leper colony! Think of it as a wonderful, accidental community of women with a lot in common!

It sounds marvellous to me!

Oh God! This could've the start of a great friendship group or hell on earth!
Are they nice people?

Sounds great OP!

They are all amazing. Really friendly. Just got to hope our supplies of HRT don't run out!!

I'm glad you posted this MadCatLady because you are definitely on to something. I was dumped earlier than most, but the amazing ladies that I have met since then have all been of a "certain age". Off their ex's trot to mainly younger women I would also take a guess at?

Sounds marvellous, I think you have just been lucky

Friends and good neighbours are so important

Sounds wonderful OP.
Hopefully it will work out for you.

I certainly feel this is a factor in my husband leaving me. When I was a teenager I thought that teenage angst was probably mainly made up of maternal menopause, and now that I'm a grumpy cow I think that male mid-life crises might be made up of the same thing.

Sounds amazing I need to move there! The menopause is a great time to connect with other women. If men want to embarrass themselves by prancing off with some young bit then good bloody riddance!

missyB1 a much more positive way of expressing my feelings!

Sounds amazing I need to move there!

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This!!

It's like some kind of menopausal womens leper colony.

That really made me laugh

That sounds amazing!

(*Looks longingly at DH....)

It's like some kind of menopausal womens leper colony.

One woman's leper colony is another woman's paradise, as they say. It sounds fantastic to me!

It sounds great!! My ex mil said she was divorced due to menopause, thought she was over reacting but her son (my Ex) turned awful when I hit that age..perhaps she was right!

I actually think it is more to do with Male midlife, an author Jed Diamond, calls it Irritable Male syndrome, and it occurs at the same time women decide they will not tolerate any shit so divorce ensues. Men seem more motivated to pursue new relationships and appear to have a larger target age range (quick look on OLD, show men in their 50s seeking women from 25!!!) so there are more single women at this age than men. Communities of wise women sounds great to me.

It sounds great! This made me laugh

OP, I was having coffee with my cousin yesterday. She's very quiet and never cracks jokes. I was complaining about the menopause (my DP dumped me last year) and she said: "You know: the trouble isn't the menopause, it's men". I laughed robustly. (Your new life sounds lovely, BTW. )

This sounds brilliant OP, enjoy your new place and your new friends

It sounds bloody fabulous.

I told DP the other day ( when he was being a dick) that there is no barb wire keeping him here.
I now know what I bring to the table and I'm not afraid to eat alone.
Funnily enough he wound his neck in!

Must remember to pick up my HRT soon 😀

If you advertised your home for sale as being in a menopausal women's commune/colony/paradise, the price would double instantly.

This sounds amazing Very tranquil and supportive. The way you've described it sounds like the opening scenes of a brilliant, feel-good Sunday afternoon film

I’m sure that the drop in oestrogen makes us less idealistic & we see men as they really are so stop putting up with shit.

I'm edging through the menopause (largely symptomless, so no HRT) and I worked it the other way, I dumped my XP because I got so fed up with being expected to laugh off his 'little foibles'.

I'm old, free and single and it's brilliant.

It sounds fabulous OP. Any houses for sale nearby ? I was in a similar situation but I've always put it down to his mad mid-life crisis.

Someone I know lives near a similar lovely group of women and she said the postcode there was HRT1.

Sounds great. I tolerate DH fine and he does have his uses. But if anything happens to him or he fucks off for a new model I’m quite looking forward to the freedom. A street of women sounds great.

Who are these younger women who want these older grumpier grey or bald headed men? I wouldn't go for a younger man myself , but some women seem to like / prefer an older man ? I don't really get it. Maybe they change once they get the younger model?
I've changed a lot since the menopause: certainly angrier/ hairier / fatter than I used to be. I've not been dumped yet after thirty years but I am aware it could still happen if my dh decides his had enough! I know so many women that have had it happen to them , or they have left their husbands and had affairs.
Your new set up sounds great and I hope you can be friends with these ladies. I'm sorry so many marriages end up in divorce but I can see why and the menopause does change your outlook on life so much. It also could be that we just change as we age as well or we just grow fed up with each other.