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What has been your low point today/this week?

113 replies

MrsJonesAndMe · 13/02/2020 20:29

I have a cold because germs are the only thing small children share freely Hmm
a sore back/hips because I thought I'd be clever and go on the trampolines with the kids at the weekend and lifting said small children in and out of car/pushchair/high chairs
my period

but the cherry on the cake was sitting down with DS at bed time and bashed my head not once but twice (either side). I did cry into my Lemsip at that point Blush

Anyone want to share theirs?

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Davespecifico · 13/02/2020 21:55

My line manager’s line manager told her/strongly implied that I’m lazy. My line manager told her quite clearly that I’m not; she sits next to me and sees everything I do. I’m not lazy.
But the big boss still thinks it. Certain types of people have an impression they don’t shift, no matter what any one tells them.i feel a bit sad about it, but also a bit too old to care.

IOYOYO · 13/02/2020 22:00

I’m struggling with pnd; a small baby that hates sleep; a preschooler who told me that she thinks I love the baby, but not her. All in a city I’ve not lived in for long, so I’ve next to no support whilst dh is working.

I did quite a lot of crying whilst walking through the park yesterday. Feel like such a bad parent and I’m so lonely and overwhelmed.

I’m sorry that everyone else is having a rough time too Flowers

wonderstuff · 13/02/2020 22:02

I burst a tyre, second time I've done that in a week. Many hundreds spent on tyres. Many hours wasted.

amazedmummy · 13/02/2020 22:16

I had many more PND related melt downs and to top it off by boiler has broken down. In a storm. With a 12 week old baby. The replacement can't be put in until Sunday.

JuniLoolaPalooza · 13/02/2020 22:36

Flowers to everyone

Mine has been waking at 3am soaked in sweat, coughing up lumps of green stuff, with a creaky hip, to breastfeed my toddler which hurt, then having to stagger back to his room carrying him, strip myself off, put down a towel, spin the duvet and swap pillows. Cough up more green stuff and find a comfortable sleeping position. I just felt so sorry for myself. I'm only 39 and feel about 101 and my body is falling apart :-(

TheDoctorDances · 13/02/2020 22:41

Toxic masculinity at work combined with public bullying which is never dealt with. Ready to lose temper but have to bite my lip because it won’t change anything.

otterses · 13/02/2020 22:44

Being hauled into the nursery managers office at pick up to be told she wants to refer my two year old for an autism assessment, mainly over concerns about his lack of speech and regression which have intensified since DH has been deployed. It's totally floored me.

Franklymydearidontgiveadam · 13/02/2020 22:47

Realising I'll literally have no income for 6weeks, I don't start my new job til 9th march. Made redundant 3days before Xmas and had no money since.

Y0ubetterwerk · 13/02/2020 23:27

Work. I need to leave but what I do is no niche (and they know it so there's no incentivisation as they know theres bugger all out there for me) I'm stuck.

Family. So, so much going on. Stuff I never ever thought I would be embroiled in. It's endlessly draining and I need to be vague as I can't talk about it with anyone, which makes it so much harder.

Health. Really unwell last year and now my weight has spiralled. I'm eating my feelings and feel fucking disgusting. Tried to get some smart clothes and everything looks hideous. My hips and thighs are monstrous.

DS having massive separation anxiety and refusing to go to school. I can't get to the bottom of it and leaving him at the gates screaming and crying is killing me. School says he's happy and has friends but he just won't leave me without losing it. I'm wondering if he can sense just how difficult and stressful things are and it's rubbong of on him which makes me feel terrible as it's my job to protect him from all this shit.

ExDh giving 'helpful' tips on patenting when he sees him for less than 12 awake hours a week.

I just wish there was a reset button for the years 2015-2020

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MrsJonesAndMe · 14/02/2020 06:24

Thinking of you all

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happypotamus · 14/02/2020 07:01

A post night shift breakdown after things spiralled a bit out of control and the subsequent long conversation with my (lovely, very supportive) manager who now wants to refer me for CBT which is apparently a thing she can do if I agree. I really really don't want to, but, objectively, can see that it is a sensible thing. The decision is really stressing me out.

LuckyAmy1986 · 14/02/2020 08:59

I have pneumonia and ear infections in both ears atm so not very happy obviously. Everything else is good though.

MajesticWhine · 14/02/2020 09:09

Many low points right now.

  • swollen tonsils all week but no chance of getting a GP appointment and would feel guilty for even phoning them.
  • DH getting cross with me when I talk about my problems because he's consumed with his own stress and biting my head off because apparently I said things in the wrong way.
  • his puppy that I didn't want causing me hassle.
  • DD2 and DD3 being absolutely vile to each other, including DD2 telling her sister I wish you had never been born
  • worrying about a suicidal patient at work
  • still putting off some things I should have done months / years ago.
  • worrying about DD1 who is feeling depressed and has history of mental health issues / self-harm etc, but lives away at uni.
- wishing I was at work on my day off because it would distract me from feeling so low

Flowers to everyone having a bad week.

CupcakeEater · 14/02/2020 09:20

Came to in pain twice during IVF egg retrieval despite pain relief and sedation. Heart rate went through the roof (unsurprisingly). Recovery also seems slower this time...

Pringlesonthetable · 14/02/2020 09:37

A friend passed away aged 50
I was already signed off for three weeks with stress. Never been off work sick, I'm 53.

Sackofspuds · 14/02/2020 10:16

I spent most of yesterday in tears. I have dreadful PMt and suspect I'm menopausal. I don't want to take anything though. :(

Whynosnowyet · 14/02/2020 10:19

Monday night getting a call from adult ds to tell me to come round. Finding he has prepared a glass of painkillers and assorted pills to take...
Thursday - yesterday - hearing about an awful incident with my ddogs that has resulted in making the decision to have one pts asap.
Today - text from the bank reminding me I am skint and so can't afford the vet bill just yet...

Vintagevixen · 14/02/2020 10:54

Waiting waiting for the exchange on my house sale to go through, that will free me from last ties with abusive ex. I've got a lot riding on it. Also feeling skint because XP refuses to do/pay for any childcare for DD leaving me only able to work minimally and therefore watching every penny.

House sale will free me and make me financially much better off, just want to exchange and lock everything in. Then can concentrate on me and DD.

Plus I have a heavy cold 😫🤧

ayvasili · 14/02/2020 10:56

Ran into the back of another car as I was rushing to school for lunchtime pickup. Everyone ok-and apparently I drive a tank! But still a lot of hassle waiting for the insurance guy to turn up,and daughter had to go home on the bus

What has been your low point today/this week?
puds11 · 14/02/2020 10:58

@TheGirlWhoLived that’s the worst! I’m still not recovered after dropping a bottle of wine on my drive 3 years ago Grin

namechangenumber2 · 14/02/2020 11:01

Big argument with DH last night. Feel a bit under appreciated, over whelmed and fed up Sad. SAHM trying to better herself, fed up at home but DH doesn't see that he's going to have to help me out a bit if I get a job.

Spent the morning looking for jobs to no avail!

Rationalcat · 14/02/2020 11:18

JoyceDivision and Unsuitableavocado

I'm so sorry.

redwoodmazza · 14/02/2020 12:55

4 digs at me from DH during our 10 minute coffee break.

confusedofengland · 14/02/2020 13:55

Flowers for everybody

Many low points for me & not many high points, tbh. It's been a tough week

  • Filling in DS2's DLA renewal form - 30 pages detailing all my child's weaknesses, that is a job I'll never enjoy Sad
  • DS2'S parents' evening, where his teacher didn't have a single good thing to say about him. I know he's hard work, I know he works very slowly, but he's 8 & autistic, he's not wilfully disobedient or lazy. It sends him into meltdown if he is rushed or corrected, we are working on it. It's part of who he is. That's why he gets 32.5 hours 1-1 per week Sad

Friends all being unavailable for coffee when I desperately needed to talk to somebody about all that.

Being so utterly broke that I had to choose between buying bread or milk, never mind the bills that keep coming in or Ds3's birthday next week. It will take a month or so to get things straight again, I think Sad

happypotamus · 14/02/2020 15:09

Low point so far today: my 8 year old, who is sad about no one playing with her at school, said she couldn't invite anyone round to play, because she is embarrassed of our house, their houses are all more fancy than ours, ours is too messy, her friend has bunk beds and their own ipad rather than having to share, our bathroom is only half-decorated. We don't live in some kind of hovel, we live in a very messy house but it would be tidied up if someone was coming round, she isn't a deprived child, she has lots of toys. We can't afford to finish the bathroom or decorate her bedroom or do anything, but now I feel that it is my fault that she is lonely and has so few friends.