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What age do you consider a "young mum"?

126 replies

Hypergear · 08/02/2020 19:38

^^

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MelanieFrontage · 08/02/2020 23:49

Under 25, why?

Bluerussian · 08/02/2020 23:50

I don't know, depends on individuals. Most new mums are at least quite young.
20s and under I suppose.

TheGinGenie · 08/02/2020 23:55

Under 30
Under 25 is very young

thaegumathteth · 08/02/2020 23:59

For having a first baby I'd say under 23 but maybe that's because I was 24 when I got pregnant and don't see myself as a young mum!

TimeTravellersHat · 09/02/2020 00:00

It’s all depends.

I found it highly amusing that in the maternity ward in Spain I was constantly referred to as a “ young mum” however I was 31. Most women in Spain tend to have their first in their late 30s.

TimeTravellersHat · 09/02/2020 00:03

Conversely one of my friends fell pregnant at 28 and her family (South American) thought she was awfully old to be a mother! Most of them had their first child in their teens.

Miljea · 09/02/2020 00:24

Under 25

BlueWonder · 09/02/2020 05:06

In my demographic Under 28 is Young, under 24 very young, 28 - 35 average, then 36+ older

Exactly this.

BlueWonder · 09/02/2020 05:08

I think this is largely due to the expansion in higher education.

BlueWonder · 09/02/2020 05:09

Of!

jaminia · 09/02/2020 05:14

For me, 24 years old and younger. I became a mom at 25 and I still feel young and not yet ready for the responsibility. It really depends on us though. Responsibility could make us more mature. corrent me if I'm wrong.

Weffiepops · 09/02/2020 05:32

Under 25

Purpleartichoke · 09/02/2020 05:42

Over 18 and Under 25

The reasoning being that is typically the youngest age a woman has had time to finish university and get a couple of years of work experience established.

And setting a lower limit because earlier than that and you get into at best a woman who has no means of financial Independence.

HelloDulling · 09/02/2020 07:14

Under 25, I suppose.

CameFromAway · 09/02/2020 07:17

Under 25

DappledThings · 09/02/2020 08:57

Under 30

Caramel78 · 09/02/2020 08:59

Around 27 or younger

hopefulhalf · 09/02/2020 09:57

There is something gone very wrong in society if 27,28 or 29 is seen as younger mum. Satisitically these pregnancies have the lowest rate of complications as you would expect as the women are peak childbearing age most women can only bear children between 15 and 40 or 13 and 43 for 2sds.

hopefulhalf · 09/02/2020 09:58

2 standard deviations

Hypergear · 09/02/2020 10:27

@hopefulhalf

Is peak childbearing age from a biological point of view late teens - early 20s?
I get what you're saying though and find it crazy that so many people think late 20s is young to have a baby! Often the reason women struggle to convince is due to the fact they've waited till their 30s. Despite being socially and financially the "right time" (no such thing!).
It's well known that fertility starts to decline in early 30s, then declining rapidly at 35 onwards.

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trixiebelden77 · 09/02/2020 10:34

Of course we also know that women with partners over 35 are more likely to have miscarriages or foetal abnormalities due to the poor quality of an ageing man’s sperm. That’s not a sentence you read very often because we live in a deeply sexist society that likes to pretend women are finished by the age of 20 whilst men are still virile sexual beings at 105.

It really depends on what you’re doing I suppose. If you leave school and go straight to work then you’re presumably well-established by 23.

Most of my friends have careers requiring long university degrees and significant professional training post-degree. In my circle it’s therefore unusual to have given birth before the mid-30s.

GrumpyHoonMain · 09/02/2020 10:36

Under 25. Nowadays a 21-25 year old is the equivalent of a 16-18 year old back in the day— they about as little life experience / money.

SpaceSharkTea · 09/02/2020 10:36

I'll be 26 when I have my first DC and I consider that very young compared to my friends and geographic norms

GrumpyHoonMain · 09/02/2020 10:39

Is peak childbearing age from a biological point of view late teens - early 20s?

Actually in all countries the rates of neonatal deaths / stillbirths / maternal deaths / neglect is highest amongst this group. It’s why this group gets the most resources thrown at them by health services.

AnotherEmma · 09/02/2020 10:39

"It's well known that fertility starts to decline in early 30s, then declining rapidly at 35 onwards."

It's not "well known" at all - a common misconception perhaps!

Research shows that the decline is gradual after 35.

And as trixie says, there is a higher risk of miscarriage, health complications and disabilities when the father is older and not just the mother.

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