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Just bled thru trousers at work - help

56 replies

namechangepls5 · 06/02/2020 10:47

God this is so embarrassing, I’m wearing dark grey jeans so thankfully not too obvious I don’t think and we have dark office chairs but I feel far too embarrassed to walk around as I usually would.

I have a female manager - do you think it’s cheeky if I ask to go home?

It’s an hour and a half commute each way so I don’t know if there’s much point in me coming back, plus I usually finish at 5 so worried she’ll think I’m taking the piss

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 06/02/2020 11:07

Honestly, OP, if you are not bleeding so heavily that you are OK to sit it out for longer before speaking to her, then I don't think it's so much of an emergency that you can go home for this.

A half-day for a bit of blood is not really OK. We've pretty much all had something like this happen. Be glad you have dark trousers on!

NinetySixer · 06/02/2020 11:08

Just ask to pop out and get some trousers.

If it makes you feel better ... I was on a work trip to a hot country. I’d put on a lovely dress and felt amazing. We had a new colleague with us who is utterly beautiful, like breathtakingly hot. As we were leaving the Air B and B he came up behind me and whispered ‘you have a stain, do you want me to wait for you whilst you change’ Shock. I can now look back and laugh and he’s one of my beast friends. But at the time I wanted the ground to swallow me up.

WorraLiberty · 06/02/2020 11:08

We do have a few shops nearby but honestly I feel like freshening up properly, plus that’d be too awkward/obvious that I changed trousers (if it were a coffee spill chances are someone would just dry them and leave them on ifyswim)

Oh come on, that's not a compromise is it?

Ask to go to shops, buy new trousers/knickers/babywipes.

You'll be right as rain until home time.

waterlego · 06/02/2020 11:14

Another vote for going out to buy cheap pants, trousers and wipes. That’s what I’d do (unless I lived close enough to pop home and get changed).

OurChristmasMiracle · 06/02/2020 11:15

I have a spare Top, trousers and a pack of undies in my office drawer. Along with pads and wipes for these occasions and plastic bags.

Go somewhere cheap, grab a new pair of trousers- even if it’s grey jeans again and then no one will notice and even if they do they will just assume it’s the same jeans.

ReginaGeorgeous · 06/02/2020 11:17

I would just pop out and buy some new pants and trousers on my lunch break. It's not really an emergency that warrants going home.

BigFatLiar · 06/02/2020 11:20

Just let her know and go get some cheapo stuff. You're not at school the others there are all adults if your manager is a woman she should understand the problem, even if your colleagues are male I'm sure they'd understand and be sympathetic. No ones going to take the piss.

If its seeped into your trousers is your seat still clean?

Fink · 06/02/2020 11:22

Especially since you've been there such a short time, I wouldn't ask to go home. She might be worried you'll be doing this every month. And it's not like you live round the corner.

Ask if you can take your lunch early (like, immediately) and then go out to buy the necessary things. No one will care that you've changed. Who would even notice?

Southmouth · 06/02/2020 11:25

I sympathise with you OP. I had this happened before.

I’d nip to the shop and buy trousers/knickers/wipes. I’d probably try getting similar trousers myself, but no one is probably likely to ask. If they did I’d probably just say you’d just noticed they’d split or the zip broke on them or something!

Poppyfieldsummerdays · 06/02/2020 11:28

If you ask for help will get it. It doesn’t matter if it is a man or woman they will help you. Sometimes you help people and other times you need help. Ask.

wowfudge · 06/02/2020 11:29

I once tipped coffee all over my black trousers whilst making the team drinks. I spoke with my manager, went home and changed and came back to work. No one should have to sit in wet clothes in that or your situation OP. Just ask if you can do that.

burnoutbabe · 06/02/2020 11:30

as i am 6 foot tall, i can only buy trousers from a few shops.

I've had this happen (on light blue jeans) and the blood was in such a place that only you could see if looking from below.

New pants and wipes at lunchtime (actually I'd ask if can nip out now for emergencies supplies assuming a shop is close) and yes, i tied cardi around waist. Depends if you can discretely slip paper on your seat as well to protect it?

oldfashionedtastingtea · 06/02/2020 11:30

It happened to me and I took an early break (at half past nine...) to get new clothes. I don't care if they noticed, half of the population is female and either had periods, has perdiods, will have periods or should have had periods. It's normal. Men know this too. It's okay.

WorraLiberty · 06/02/2020 11:32

wowfudge, just the commute alone is going to take her 3 hours Confused

wowfudge · 06/02/2020 11:33

I missed your commute details - sorry. Take an early lunch and buy something to change into.

Thanks Worra was just amending my follow up post above when you posted to tell me.

Original poster
namechangepls5 · 06/02/2020 11:35

Thanks for the advice, you’re right it probably does sound ott to take the rest of the day off
I’ll just go to the shops and change

OP posts:
wowfudge · 06/02/2020 11:40

If anyone comments on you changing you can always say you spilt something on yourself. If there's somewhere suitable at work, assuming you're not driving, take a change of clothes in should anything happen in future.

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 06/02/2020 11:40

Talk to your manager, explain the situation, then go out for lunch and spill something horrible greasy/mayo all over yourself (well, say you did anyway).

Come back and and say you nipped into the shop to get a change.

TalaxuArmiuna · 06/02/2020 11:43

this happened to me once and I just immediately left the office without speaking to anyone. pretended I had been overcome with sudden diahorrear when I next came in.

the terrible thing was that I totally forgot that I had a lift-share arrangement that day, till I was half way home, so that was pretty crap of me as I left someone stranded.

jaspercatx · 06/02/2020 11:50

OP if i were in your position I'd absolutely be asking to nip home as I'd be too uncomfortable to just nip to the shops and change, not to mention embarrassed! go as long as you can and then speak to your manager, work the time back if you can and reassure your manager that it wont happen again, like a PP mentioned about keeping spares with you at work, might save any future incidents!, if you're not comfortable then absolutely ask to go, plus if you're managers female she may understand?

Feelingabitashamed · 06/02/2020 11:53

I would just nip to shops, taking an early lunch if you are not due to go. I doubt anyone will notice your trousers but just say your zip broke if you like. I think you can sort this out with minimal fuss and although I fully understand wanting to get home and shower, I think you can get through the day and make do with a change and wipes (unless theres a shower at work?).

BecauseReasons · 06/02/2020 11:54

Say you squatted down and split a seam so had to change.

Feelingabitashamed · 06/02/2020 11:54

Ah just seen your update! Good call, it will be fine OP

muddledmidget · 06/02/2020 11:58

If anyone says anything about you changing, just describe it as a wardrobe malfunction, if they're nosey and ask more, just say 'oh it's far too embarrassing to share details', should put a stop to any questions and they'll just assume you split a seam

AJPTaylor · 06/02/2020 12:09

As a woman who suffered from terrible periods until the day my uterus was removed. Spare black trousers in drawer or car. I always wore a scarf with a pattern on it that I would remove and dump on any seat I needed to sit on.
I bumped into an ex colleague who said " I always remembered you for your amazing scarves"
Better than being remembered for periods I suppose!