Just weighed myself- 16stone 8. I am disgusted

[ThisIsItGotToChange]

I had a thread on here last year about how I was a bridesmaid for my friends wedding abroad and needed to lose weight. At this point I weighed 15 and a half stone. Lots of lovely people commented with advice. I didn’t do anything about it though, the wedding happened and it was fine. Had a lovely day.

I’ve just weighed myself and I’m 16stone 8. Absolutely disgusting. BMI of 42. My husband weighs 10 stone and is super fit. I must look like a pig next to him. A pig. I know what it is, snacking and no exercise. My meals aren’t very high calorie (not underestimating or denial, they genuinely aren’t) but I’ll think nothing of having a full multi pack of crisps, 6 cans of Pepsi (my downfall) a massive bar of chocolate etc a day. God I am so ashamed, I used to be a size 10. No wonder my
Husband won’t have sex with me. I’m 31 and morbidly obese. I have a kid, what example am I setting him? I’m sat here in tears, over hall starts today. I’ve lost weight before on 5:2 diet, I lost 4 stone and was a size 10. Going to get back onto that, starting today. Starting the 30 day shred as well, did It last time and it was brutal but good. I’m retraining and spend a fortune on snacks at uni every day so not taking my
Card/ deleting Apple Pay. Please anyone who comments I know how disgusting I am, I don’t need abuse I just need to get it out somewhere.

I'd definitely second swapping to sugar free drinks. Squash and fizzy water is really nice too.

I try and fast, so don't usually eat anything from dinner time until the following lunch time.

I'm heavier than you OP, so I must look like Jabba the hut.

I'm trying to lose 50 pounds by next christmas. 9 down and another 41 to ago.

@ThisIsItGotToChange a big part of successfully losing weight is strategies around 'normal life' getting in the way of your eating plan. So you did really well with your food options when you were out. Next time, consider drinking a spirit with low cal mixer rather than cocktails, eg vodka and diet cola or gin with diet tonic .

Red wine also less sugars and carbs than sugary cocktails and it’s at least vaguely good for your heart.

You can do this!

In January 2019 I was 16st 1lb, I'm not 13st 7lbs, it's been slow going but I will get there! Small changes and a different mindset towards food. I've followed slimming world, the weekly weigh in keeps me on track.

How are you getting on OP?

Hi OP,
I just wanted to send you a virtual hug and say please don't be so hard on yourself.

I was almost exactly the same weight as you a year ago. All through my twenties and thirties I gradually put on more and more weight, doing nothing about it, just buying bigger clothes and feeling worse and worse about myself.
I had to lose weight for health reasons and over the course of a year I have lost around 4 stone. I still have a stone to lose and this feels like the hardest part. I hate exercise and I love bad food so it is a constant battle for me.

I have been using the soya milkshake Almased for breakfast and sometimes lunch and trying to cut down on snacks, opting for a big meal at night (rightly or wrongly) as something to look forward to each day.

You have lots of great goals to aim for this year. I believe in you, you can do this!
Do it for yourself most importantly, nobody else. Start with small steps, don't try and cut everything out all at once, take it gradually and you will soon find the right balance. I hope you have supportive family and friends who can keep encouraging you along the way.

I wish you all the very best x

Hi OP and anybody else in the same situation.
I’ve felt exactly like you - I’m 5ft 6 and weighed 18st. I had depression and didn’t want to go out, hated clothes and definitely didn’t want to stop eating.
I just accepted that the journey was going to take time and small changes were better than doing nothing and then being heavier a year later.
What’s really helped me though is Instagram. I would say I have disordered eating and go through phases of bingeing on junk (6 packs of crisps and then followed by half or a whole cake). Then I’ve eating really well and healthily and back and forth 😢
Instagram has really helped me align my thoughts better and just keep me motivated and confident in my capabilities. I don’t follow any of these model types I only follow people into food or fitness who yes want subscribers but who genuinely want to make us all feel good about ourselves and remind us not to be hard on ourselves or set ourselves up with unrealistic goals.
They care about being kind to not just others but also ourselves (people like realjaredhamilton, and kurtrawlinsfitness and chadhargrove1) In the last year I have lost 4stone and I’m really happy with it. I’ve still got a few stone to go but I feel I look ‘normal’ now and that’s done tonnes for my self esteem. I exercise 4 times a week and love it. It was so so hard at first but I can do so much now that I couldn’t even think about before. Best wishes to you

Hi everyone, thanks to every who has taken the time to post. I really appreciate it and it’s good to know I’m not the only person who struggles.

I had some bad news on Monday (thankfully everything will be ok) and have just had a terrible week food wise. The very first thing I did is go and buy a huge box of chocolates and sat and ate them all. Since then it’s just been one bad decision after the other :( I have downloaded a hypnosis app to listen to to see if that does anything but apart from that I am just so anxious. It just seems SO easy, just don’t eat loads of crap and yet I can’t seem to do it. Today already I’ve had a bag of crisps, a cone of chips for dinner, a full pack of biscuits and 4 Jaffa cakes. I feel like there’s something totally wrong in my head for me to feel this way, all I think about is food. Not even food actually, snacks. It’s like an out of body experience. I can’t afford counselling so I’m not sure what the answer is and I KNOW that sounds so stupid because the answer is just don’t eat loads of rubbish

Op you can do this!

I was in a similar position when I put on quite a bit of weight and was oblivious to it until I weighed myself and realised by BMI was higher than it should be and I was unhappy with my weight.

Small long term changes make so much difference. To me it has been things like eating 3 meals a day, no snacks and only an edible treat once or twice a week. I stopped having biscuits with tea (i could polish of a packet a day easily) switched my sugary cereal for porridge and fruit, and started eating tangerines as I don’t like the white bit so peeling that off keeps my hands busy and takes me longer so by the time I have finished my lunch I feel full!

Pintrest has helped me as I suffer from bloating. In the morning I look at myself and feel happy but by the evening my stomach has gotten bigger and I feel down about it. I found some pictures of women who suffer the same and it helped me to accept that our bodies change throughout the day and not to focus too much when I’m not feeling my best.

I drink a lot of water throughout the day, and when I fancy a bit of flavour I tend to have flavoured fizzy water, they do some lovely flavours that are low sugar.

The main thing for me has been reducing my sugar because I am addicted to anything sweet (never been a fan of crisps etc) but I could eat so much chocolate and still crave more.

It is very hard, especially when you have a bad day or when you weight yourself and haven’t lost as much as you would like, but its a lifestyle change more than a crash diet that helps long term :)

You can do it op. Don't berate yourself for having a bad week. Stick to support chat threads - the 3kg per month thread is really supportive and people have bad days all the time but it doesn't mean you should give up. You won't succeed if you try to change everything at once...
Start with the mornings between 7 am and 12. What's for breakfast? Whatever it is swap it out for plain yoghurt and berries and a few seeds. What would you snack on mid morning? Have 2 bits of fruit instead. Then congratulate yourself and repeat for a few days. When you're ready you can then look at lunch and afternoon eating. Start small.

Thanks for the support! Been to weight myself today and I’m still 16 8 so relieved I haven’t put any on after my binge!

Fresh start today. I’ve brought some Diet Pepsi to try and change my tastebuds and then hopefully wean myself off. I have just been and got loads of fruit and veg. The sun is shining here so that has spurred me on as I don’t want another summer feeling horrendous in jeans!

Rooting for you op!

I found that going cold turkey on fizzy drinks was the only way. The diet versions aren't cutting the habit and still not good. Switch to water, brutal I know. But seriously I found that I would associate a fizzy drink followed by a nice sugary edible snack and it was so much easier saying I'll have a couple of cans on a Saturday as a treat but nothing for the rest of the week and it really did help. Plus I felt tons better drinking water.

Good luck, you can do this!

Hi OP @ThisIsItGotToChange i realise this is an old thread but how did you get on?