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How and why did your wedding go wrong? And can you look back and laugh now?

131 replies

Sd183 · 03/02/2020 15:58

Just as the title says really! I'm intrigued to hear if you can look back and laugh/accept with begrudging realism if something "went wrong" at your wedding...and what is it that went wrong?

I'm just trying to settle my own wedding nerves and tell myself that things go wrong and there's nothing I can do about it!

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lunasunshine · 03/02/2020 18:55

I loved my wedding day but a few things definitely went wrong! Grin

  1. I came on my period unexpectedly - I didn’t even realise until I took my dress off at the end of the night Blush which is probably a good thing!
  2. I nearly swallowed a wasp that landed on an ice-cream I was eating (I got married in the height of summer and they were everywhere). It literally flew into my mouth and landed on my tongue and I had to spit it back out.
  3. My sister had a wasp land on her bouquet as she was walking down the aisle and had to fight it off.
  4. The band we hired gave us a different lead singer and didn’t tell us.
  5. My cousin’s tearaway son broke and/or hid all of the coconuts from our coconut shy.
  6. A random uncle got heat stroke and disappeared for a couple of hours.

I can laugh and smile about those things now. Have a great wedding day! x

BackforGood · 03/02/2020 19:02

Well, I hadn't been expecting snow !

We laughed on the day, tbh - there is nothing you can do about the weather, so just crack on. It is a wedding ceremony, not some sort of performance / show / or test. Smile

Chasingsquirrels · 03/02/2020 19:03

1st wedding: I don't think of it as something which went wrong, but my mum ordered some personalised tableware - and then forgot to bring it. We weren't bothered at the time as we hadn't wanted them anyway, but it has made me chuckle a few times since - mainly when I come across said napkins.

2nd wedding: DH was diagnosed with cancer in the 3 months between making the booking and the wedding date, which made most of the wedding day pretty much not what we'd planned. And my mum arranged the photographer, who was pretty doddery and the photos aren't great. No, I don't laugh about it now.

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DownWhichOfLate · 03/02/2020 19:05

There was a typo in our order of service (this annoys me more than is reasonable); the photographer was utterly crap.

CuteOrangeElephant · 03/02/2020 19:08

My husband's cousin managed to get hold off the laptop playing the music and messed up our carefully arranged music.

We had a deal for someone for some chairs and they never turned up. Luckily there were some chairs and benches at the venue. We ended up with 4 chairs short so used our dining chairs!

Both things we can laugh about now

FTMF30 · 03/02/2020 19:11

We lost our venue and the DJ was unbelievably shit so no one danced in our shit last minute venue. Still a bit bitter about it now tbh.

UtterlyUnimaginativeUsername · 03/02/2020 19:11

FIL got both my name and my sister's wrong in his speech, which I thought was pretty spectacular.

Floribundance · 03/02/2020 19:11

The groom ...

Ughmaybenot · 03/02/2020 19:12

Our bar staff were dicks, had forgotten about that til this thread tho.
Oh, and my mum kept telling me not to do it in the run up to,.. not funny but again, not arsed anymore.

AspieDoc · 03/02/2020 19:13

Stuff that went wrong was pretty much entirely our fault.

We hadn't really thought through what pictures we wanted (and didn't really want to be in any Blush), we'd forgotten to tell the band what we wanted for our first dance, we forgot to cut the cake, and DH was so overcome during his own speech that he became completely inaudible...

We all still had a lovely day though Crown Grin

Spudina · 03/02/2020 19:13

My wedding dress kept coming undone. It had pearl buttons which my friend struggled to fasten on the day, and then the dress repeatedly kept coming open all day. There are photos of my husband fastening it. To applause. Also, I was married on a castle, and on the day I couldn’t find it as a taxi dropped me off on a street I hadn’t been on. I was running around the streets in a wedding dress shouting ‘il Castillo per favour’ whilst lovely locals pointed me in the right direction.

ChicChicChicChiclana · 03/02/2020 19:17

Not me, but a friend got married on a beautiful May day, blue skies, warm sun, blossom and spring flowers yada yada. But after we got into the charming country church and before the vows were spoken a freak thunderstorm brewed up. They actually said the vows to cracks of lightning and rumbles of thunder all around. Everyone was slightly freaked as it had been so pleasant such a short time before.

Sadly that marriage ended in a terribly hostile divorce after about 12 years. So not funny haha, but funny odd.

Elouera · 03/02/2020 19:20
  • I had a harpist during the ceremony (playing only), who also played whilst we have photos taken and people had drinks. She decided that she would also 'sing' as SHE felt this was her speciality, despite me asking her to only play and NOT sing!
  • Got married abroad but instead of the 99% good weather, the heavens opened, dark clouds came over and a huge storm came up
  • The storm meant that instead of having photos outside by the sea and in the gardens, we had to have them inside
  • Our fairly new photographer never took 1 group or family photo, just lots of the wedding party! I didn't think of it at the time, and kept thinking 'maybe we do that later?' I have NO pics of me with brother/SIL, mother, elderly grandmother or other relatives as a group, or some not even as individuals! A lovely day, but 1, group family shot would have been nice.
ScribblyGum · 03/02/2020 19:21

BIL (11) stole all the individually chosen very expensive chocolate truffle wedding favours, bagged them up in a Sainsbury’s bag he got from the kitchen staff and then sold them at school on the following Monday.

ScribblyGum · 03/02/2020 19:22

My mum also booked a medieval jester on stilts as a surprise.

WalkingOutOfFlabbiness · 03/02/2020 19:23

Got DH’s name wrong!

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 03/02/2020 19:23

Now DH and his friends went out the night before (i can hardly complain, my family plus bridesmaids managed to drink the hotel we were staying in out of champagne!). But the Best Man tried to keep up with the Army guys on the drinking.... Leading to an accident with a Cactus pot and a head injury. He soldiered through the wedding, but was not right. Ended up in hospital for several days eith concussion.

We still celebrate Concussion Day and get him Cactus related gifts at random points.

Purpleartichoke · 03/02/2020 19:24

The smoke alarm went off twice. It was a malfunction. We didn’t have to evacuate, but it was really, really loud.

Disfordarkchocolate · 03/02/2020 19:25

Wedding 1 - whole bloody day, MIL sat in the garden smoking and refused to speak to anyone on my side. Husband and MIL changed all the menu so there was hardly any food I liked. We went to the hotel for our wedding night and I ordered steak and chips I was so hungry. Sex took about 30 seconds.
Wedding 2 - a guest got stressed and escaped over the wall. Still a wonderful day.

Chanel05 · 03/02/2020 19:27

I got married abroad and thought it'd be a good idea to apply my sun cream AFTER I'd put on my wedding dress... I squeezed too hard and got lotion on the front of my dress! I managed to dab most of it away but it made a noticeable stain. Doh!

LouReidDododo · 03/02/2020 19:29

What went wrong ?......

Mine and dh family being there.

Destination wedding, everyone had huge argument and no one was speaking in the way home.

I was so down about it for about six months, I still don’t speak to mil or bil.

As time goes in ( a few years) I can sort of laugh about it if it comes up with my friend but it still actually gets me if I think about it too much

AudacityOfHope · 03/02/2020 19:31

Sorry but PMSL at the medieval stilt jester! Grin

Ladycoo1 · 03/02/2020 19:32

My dad did the table place names wrong and ended up sitting a old friend with his ex - girlfriend and her partner (old friends ex best mate) who they broke up over! Didn't realise until I saw the photos!!! They said they just sat where they were told.

LaneBoy · 03/02/2020 19:32

Nothing like some of these stories but I found out while waiting outside the function room (DH and guests already in there) that the specific room may not in fact be licensed for marriages after all. So it wouldn’t be legally binding or whatever. The hotel guy was in a complete state over it (it was the first wedding he’d been in charge of) but I was surprisingly calm!

We did the ceremony anyway (DH didn’t even know about the issue) but afterwards the registrar took us and our witnesses into a different, definitely licensed room, and we did the legal bit again.

So we tell everyone we got married twice. :o

bluerad · 03/02/2020 19:34

Photographer broke her leg a week before the ceremony and it was too late to get another. All photos are taken from her wheelchair with her camera pointing upwards so we look enormous. Only one photo is any good - the one where we were sat down signing the register. Not quite at the stage where I can laugh about it.