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Did I do a silly thing?

36 replies

cjt110 · 01/02/2020 20:22

Was in Lidl this evening and overheard a store colleague in distress. She had had a call from her father who had been shocked 3 times by his pacemaker/defibrillator.

I put my shopping down and offered to take her wherever she needed to be.

The ambulance arrived at the same time as us. Within minutes of the call.

The poor girl was terrified, asked me to go in with her into her home and held my hand.

Her Dad looked ok and I left then in the care of the ambulance crew.

I hope I made a small difference to the world and someone's life this evening.

I didn't care one jot for my own safety. Which in hindsight was a silly thing.

I'd like to make contact in a few days to check she and her Dad are ok but i don't know if thats a bit intrusive of me... sorry just putting this all out there to help me digest it I guess...

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Weepingwillows12 · 01/02/2020 20:24

I think she will be glad if you contact her to see how he is. She may want to thank you. I think you did a kind thing.

Hoghgyni · 01/02/2020 20:35

You certainly didn't do a silly thing. You were very kind. I'm sure she will appreciate you following things up.

MNuser12345 · 01/02/2020 20:50

What an amazing, kind gesture. You probably made the scariest moment for that girl a lot easier. ❤️

villamariavintrapp · 01/02/2020 20:52

Why do you think this was silly? What are you worried could have happened?

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cjt110 · 01/02/2020 20:53

I cant stop thinking of her and wondering if they are ok. I would have stayed longer if i could but i felt i was in the way. Plus my son and husband were at home waiting for tea

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LowcaAndroidow · 01/02/2020 20:53

What was your worry about your safety?

Joopy · 01/02/2020 20:54

You are so kind

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cjt110 · 01/02/2020 20:54

@villamariavintrapp I dont know. Im shit at judgment and often judge with my heart over my head and find myself doubting myself afterwards

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DesLynamsMoustache · 01/02/2020 20:56

You did a lovely thing. Don't second-guess yourself.

Mrsbclinton · 01/02/2020 20:57

You were very kind to have reached out to her in a crisis. Im sure the girl will be very grateful that you helped her in her hour of need.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 01/02/2020 20:57

I think what you did was kind. They might well want to thank you when emergency has passed. It's up to you how you feel about this but you could pop a card through the door with your details on it if you don't mind them contacting you.

moobar · 01/02/2020 20:58

You did a lovely thing, yes follow it up and ask for her, she will no doubt be looking for you to thank you.

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cjt110 · 01/02/2020 20:59

Great idea @Myimaginarycathasfleas.

Not sure i would remember which door though as it was dark and we parked around the corner
Perhaps pass a card into the store for her?

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0blio · 01/02/2020 21:01

You did a very kind thing and I'm sure the girl will want to see you again to thank you Flowers

Feelingabitashamed · 01/02/2020 21:10

What you did was extremely kind. Don't second guess it.

In terms of your comment about your own safety, yes there is a chance going in any stranger's home could be dangerous but I think you made a fair (if unconscious) risk assessment: it was a young woman, not a male (more likely to be a risk), you overheard her and offered to help- she did not randomly ask you, you know where she works and her colleagues would have seen you leaving and at what time. I think it was a reasonable judgement that it was on balance safe to go ahead and offer help to another human being in dire straits.

As for whether you follow up, I'm sure it would be appreciated but not expected so go with how you feel about this.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 01/02/2020 21:10

Yes, that's a better idea, OP

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cjt110 · 01/02/2020 21:11

I hope she's ok

I know her first name so have tried looking if she's on facebook but i can't find her.

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Hadtoask · 01/02/2020 21:45

I don’t know why you would think you did something silly or what you thought was the danger. You behaved in a kind way. I would have done the same. You’ll see her again I’m sure.

WorraLiberty · 01/02/2020 21:52

I don't get these threads.

If you want to tell everyone what you did (understandable, as you've had a shock yourself) and you want to talk about it then fine.

But why the daft thread title? You know you didn't do a silly thing.

You did a nice thing.

stayingontherail · 01/02/2020 22:07

She wasn’t a strange man in a park who approached you to help him find his puppy - you had proof of where she worked and put yourself forward to help her. I think you might have a bit of adrenaline in your system that is making you overthink it.

I wouldn’t send a card myself - you’ve done your bit so leave it at that. Trying to find her or track her down on social media seems a bit intrusive to me.

cousinboneless · 01/02/2020 22:39

OP you did a lovely thing. I've been in situations before where I was desperate for someone, anyone to help me and had the general public hurry away. Well done you Thanks

TheCanyon · 01/02/2020 22:39

You did a really good thing and I think it would be lovely for you to maybe post a card through the door.

cousinboneless · 01/02/2020 22:43

@WorraLiberty Sometimes maybe take it at face value. She panicked, ultimately did a good thing and then posted a thread second guessing herself. She's not asking for an accolade. We're all human no matter how often people frequent the boards. Reassurance is all that's needed.

TSSDNCOP · 01/02/2020 22:53

I’m not clear why your own safety was in doubt. You did a kind deed. That’s really terrific. I’m sure she’s grateful and doesnt need a card. Her plate is full without needing to thank and return correspondence.

PurpleDaisies · 01/02/2020 22:54

I know her first name so have tried looking if she's on facebook but i can't find her.

Please stop looking. It’s really stalker like.