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Did I do a silly thing?

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cjt110 · 01/02/2020 20:22

Was in Lidl this evening and overheard a store colleague in distress. She had had a call from her father who had been shocked 3 times by his pacemaker/defibrillator.

I put my shopping down and offered to take her wherever she needed to be.

The ambulance arrived at the same time as us. Within minutes of the call.

The poor girl was terrified, asked me to go in with her into her home and held my hand.

Her Dad looked ok and I left then in the care of the ambulance crew.

I hope I made a small difference to the world and someone's life this evening.

I didn't care one jot for my own safety. Which in hindsight was a silly thing.

I'd like to make contact in a few days to check she and her Dad are ok but i don't know if thats a bit intrusive of me... sorry just putting this all out there to help me digest it I guess...

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Emilizz34 · 01/02/2020 22:56

Not sure why you feel that you did a silly thing . The person you helped was an employee in the supermarket and not a stranger on drugs that you met down a dark alley way .
I hope that most people would do the same . You did a good deed . Not sure why you feel the need to come on here looking for praise . Leave it at that and don’t try contacting her again as that would be weird

Emilizz34 · 01/02/2020 23:01

I try to do at least one random act of kindness every day in the hope that the recipient will pay it on . I don’t think about it afterwards

WorraLiberty · 01/02/2020 23:05

WorraLiberty Sometimes maybe take it at face value. She panicked, ultimately did a good thing and then posted a thread second guessing herself. She's not asking for an accolade. We're all human no matter how often people frequent the boards. Reassurance is all that's needed.

Reassurance about what?

As lots of PPs have said, she was a supermarket employee, not a random in the park.

terriblyangryattimes · 01/02/2020 23:07

How nice of you to help her when she needed it! Maybe wait a few days and drop a card into the store to say you are thinking of her/her dad and would love to know how he is work your name/number. Balls in her court then.

cousinboneless · 01/02/2020 23:25

That she did the right thing. Obviously. I'd rather spur people than criticise.

cousinboneless · 01/02/2020 23:25

*on. Also obviously

Allthecandles · 02/02/2020 00:02

I think the OP just reacted to the situation without risk assessing and did a really nice and selfless thing wants to talk about it which is completely understandable. I also think they are now that the adrenaline is wearing off are realising that they entered an unknown situation without really stopping to consider if inviting a stranger into her car was potentially dangerous.
However I don’t think you were ever really close to being in danger and you definitely deserve your pat on the back.

DramaAlpaca · 02/02/2020 00:06

You did a very kind thing, OP.

Angelf1sh · 02/02/2020 07:33

You did a nice thing but I’d leave it there if I were you. Putting a card through her door is really intrusive and leaving it at her work could add more pressure to her already full plate getting her thinking she now has to write to you. Looking her up on Facebook to get her name feels creepy to me.

If it’s your usual supermarket then you’ll probably see her again in the natural course of events and you could see how she’s doing then without it seeming weird.

You did a nice thing though so don’t stress over it!

GetOffYourHighHorse · 02/02/2020 10:21

'But why the daft thread title? You know you didn't do a silly thing. You did a nice thing.'

'Please stop looking. It’s really stalker like.'

'Daft' title . There's always some who love to put the boot in and tell people off. Ignore them op, there's nothing stalker like about it either. I don't think the op was suggesting following the person or bombarding them with inappropriate messages.

How nice when many people look the other way to hear of someone offering help and support to a stranger.

MintyMabel · 03/02/2020 07:57

There's always some who love to put the boot in and tell people off. Ignore them op, there's nothing stalker like about it either.

I agree with @worraliberty. The title is very disingenuous. The faux naïveté - of course there was no risk in doing what she did. But she had to come up with something to mask the “oh look at what I did post”

If I were in this situation and thought the person was then going to trawl Facebook to find me, send me cards to work etc, be desperate to find out more information, I’d rather they didn’t help me in the first place.

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