Attractively bald?

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Hi all,

My husband has been experiencing hair loss since he was in his early 20s. He has been receiving hormone treatment (finasteride) for them which I believe have side effects which aren’t worth it.

I also come from a family where my dad is completed bald and my brother is also turning bald. My dad however was a confident baldy and makes jokes about it however my DH and DB are both quite insecure which I believe is to do with social pressure.

I have been convincing my DH to embrace his baldness so that he doesn’t endure any side effects, and I assured him that I am still attracted to him as a bald man and that to me I consider it part of his “manliness” and maturity. Ofcourse it is his decision to make however he doesn’t really believe me and says I say that because I don’t picture him as a bald man. His mother comments on his hairline on every other video call or so!! And I believe that his insecurity stems from that!

My brother confirmed my DHs beliefs and thinks that prince William lost all attactiveness when he lost his hair, and I disagree. I just think he looks more “mature”. But DB is convinced I only say that because our dad is bald.

I’m curious to know whether I’m an odd one or whether most women actually feel if there husband turned bald they will lose attraction ?

Also do you think it’s worth taking the risk with finesterides ? I hate them with a passion because I just don’t like tampering with hormones and I feel their side effects haven’t been tested on the long term and I also question whether they effected my miscarriages (before we realized we need to stop them) so I’m very keen on wanting him to stop them completely and be natural. But I understand that it’s his decision but I firmly believe attractiveness is relative and to me maturity and masculinity is something I find attractive.

Am I in the minority ?? Am I a weirdo?

P.S. If the answers are overwhelmingly on my side I’m wanting DH to see this thread. Otherwise for his confidence I won’t !

I’ve always had a thing for bald men. Very sexy....but think balding men always look better if they take the plunge and get rid of the lot rather than try to hide the baldness or rock the monk look.

I agree that it's far sexier if men embrace their balding than trying to hide it. Look at Patrick Stewart- hugely popular with women and I'm young enough to never have known him with hair.
There was a guardian article this week about how more men would choose a smaller penis over losing their hair. (Not that they could make this choice practically!)
I find that very sad- people lose their hair, it's a fact of life, happens to huge numbers of people, women too, though to a lesser extent. Yes, hair can be very beautiful, but so are nice crinkly eyes and a lovely smile.
I do hope your DH can find some confidence in the fact that you love your dad and he was bald. Taking medication which has side effects for something that isn't life-threatening or life-limiting must be so worrying for you.

my very handsome dh is bald now, I still fancy him

the only time I really notice if a man is bald is when they do some awful cut (donald trumpesque) or have a horrible comb over or a strange transplant.

I often find bald men attractive - especially as I've got older And its DEFINITELY more attractive than the 'going-thin-but-pretending-I'm-not' look favoured by so many men. Especially if they then dye their hair to mask grey. i also find grey hair attractive on a man

My husband used to have amazing long hair but had a massive bald patch that was growing rapidly. It started looking a real mess. When he was 30, he came down from the bathroom having shaved it all off. It was a bit of a shock if I'm honest as he gave me no warning!! He looks so much more grown up and pulled together. It looks good.

My DH look better now he shaves his hair off, when I met him he had longish curly hair, I really don't like long hair on men, the shorter the better! He looks a lot better.

Thanks everyone! I’m impressed! Yes I agree with that it’s a reflection of honesty and confidence and to me that’s far more attractive than a main.

Now I’m wondering if I skewed the results with my last comment.

Ladies who don’t find it attractive you are safe here ! I really want honest reflection so I know if convincing him will affect his confidence in the future. I don’t have to show him the thread I want to know the truth as a priority!

I do think hair looks nice but what I’m saying is bald is a new kind of attractive and not a step back.

Bald men are hot.

It's a fact.

My husband went bald at 26. He owns it, keeps his head shaved and has a lovely shaped head. I find it very sexy. The confidence is key to going nails though.

I find baldness attractive if men embrace it. I do feel for men in that transition period, but once the hair really starts to go, I think it’s better to get rid of it.

DH started losing his hair in his 20s, before I met him. He shaves it all off every few days.
I love his bald head! I find photos of him when he had hair really strange.

My DP lost his hair young and just took to shaving his head, it looks much better than trying desperately trying to cling onto little bits of hair. Obviously your DP has low self esteem due to his mothers constant picking at him. Tell him to be brave and pick up the clippers.

I would also say that my grandad was completely bald, I never knew him with hair, but he was the loveliest kindest person ever, so bald men have a very positive feeling for me.

I especially think a bald head with a trimmed beArd is nice. The only time baldness isn’t nice is if something both overweight and bald. The head would look strange that way. But fitness affects also someone with a complete head of hair anyway!

I personally don’t find the transition period unattractive either. I wonder whether Kate Middleton was the voice behind Williams confidence lol

I imagine the adjustment from having hair to being bald must be quite hard. But baldness isn't a factor in making someone attractive.

If someone is both overweight and bald

I don’t like hair on a man’s head. I am all about the bald man. I am that shallow 😂

It is all a social construct. I am a female who has experienced hair loss since early 20s. It can’t be stopped.
Tell your DH that I can sympathise and that it is even worse for women.
A bald man is absolutely normal and acceptable.
In some cultures in the past it was actually seen as a sign on wisdom and women would favour them.
Not so much for me. A bald woman? Well. It caused me depression and I was suicidal at times in my 20s.
I now have a family and I put value in other things.
It is so normal to feel like he does and I don’t think that even if you get a hundred replies saying it is attractive he should feel ok with it.
I think the only way to make people like us feel good about it is body neutrality. A head is a head. Some people have hair some don’t.
I don’t want to ask if a woman can be bald an attractive, I know the answer to that.
I want to accept myself and to not give a crap about what society thinks.

My husband went bald young and just shaved it all 9ff from about the age of 30. I love it ! And tbh I don't even think about it anymore. It is just him and anything else would look weird !

I love baldies. Since my divorce 7.5 years ago all my partners have been bald and only one had hair - I found that weird! I’m in my late 40s though so I imagine much younger women might struggle with it.

I think men really have to brave the fully bald though - no combovers, no long monks hair. If they do have hair round the sides and back keep it clipped to a grade one or two or shave it completely. No Series I Blackadder please. When clipped it feels like suede, I love it!

Look at all the hot baldies - Bruce Willis, Patrick Stewart, Jason Statham, Vin Diesel, The Rock, Mark Strong, Billy Zane.

I would encourage him to ditch the meds and brave the bare. It’s so sexy.

I want to accept myself and to not give a crap about what society thinks.

That is the attractive thing. Confidence and non conformity. When someone is comfortable with their own skin and able to rock it.

I think what is unattractive is when men try to hide their thinning hair with comb overs or that awful spray on hair. It makes you notice it more and makes them seem desperate and of brittle self-esteem.

Far more attractive to have the confidence to embrace it and shave it off. Like Pep Guardiola. (fans self)

loss is a sign of increased testosterone, maturity, confidence in ones masculinity and a nice contrast to the femininity of long hair.

This is social patriarchy though.
In the animal kingdom females are dull . It is males that have flashy feathers, strong horns, manes, songs, intricate nests.
Females are simply choosing.

So biologically there is no need for females of the animal kingdom to be attractive.
Long hair being feminine is also a modern society concept.
In most indigenous communities males and females wear their hair long.

It is a big thing to lose your hair. For men and women. I think only he can decide when and if he is ok with it.
I am yet to embrace and like myself because I know that for people a woman can’t be feminine or sexy without hair.

What worries me now is how it will affect my children and how they will be bullied and made fun of, as I was because my mum was the same. I was not going to have children because of this.

I guess what I am trying to say is that it is good and caring that you love him the way he is but it is a big battle to fight inside his head.

I want to start a movement one day, for women like me, I need to be confident first.

Best of luck

My dh was going bald at 26 when I met him... never bothered me then, or now. He shaved it short, has a short beard and is a dead ringer for a (younger) Patrick Stewart... he got followed out of Heathrow once by fans :D
Now my two sons look to be going the same way..one is 26 , the other 22 and both are going to be bald in a few years. I feel a little sad for them just because they are my babies and they had lovely blonde hair but they have both said when it really goes they will shave it off..the 26 year old's has thinned a lot over the last two years so it's going to be going soon.. but it hasn't stopped him meeting his lovely wife-to-be... she knows what he will look like as he is a carbon copy of dh (so another Patrick Steward .
I love the fuzzy felt feel of Dh's head!

Comeonbabyyay you are right. I just googled bald women and my jaw dropped. In some ways it highlights the rest of the features of the face and jaw line and it looks very attractive. Also the new femininity is all about radiating confidence in ones individuality and it’s uniquely attractive. I removed my comment because I don’t mean for it to be taken the wrong way if someone’s coming to terms with balding as a female as understandably it is less common and less seen due to patriarchal associations with hair and upkeep and so femininity , so must be even harder for a female to adjust during transition.

However reality is someone’s upkeep/neatness is no longer about the hair like it used to be- in some cultures not even all. There is a diverse meaning to it now and uniqueness is the new beautiful. I’m sure your kids growing up seeing you rocking your look with glow and confidence will make them absolutely grow to not be insecure about it , just like I feel my fathers confidence rubbed off on my views, and I wish you luck on that journey.

StillMedusa you’re right! Maybe mums feel a bit resistant because it’s a quick transition from their baby look which we fell in love with. But I’m sure that’s not the look their future spouses are after. So makes sense that mother in law is sensitive about it especially if hair loss started at a young age for DH before she was ready to see her baby grow. I’m picturing it on my own baby son now and yeh it’s about waving goodbye to his youth and embracing maturity.