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Attractively bald?

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1ForAllnAllFor1 · 29/01/2020 09:04

Hi all,

My husband has been experiencing hair loss since he was in his early 20s. He has been receiving hormone treatment (finasteride) for them which I believe have side effects which aren’t worth it.

I also come from a family where my dad is completed bald and my brother is also turning bald. My dad however was a confident baldy and makes jokes about it however my DH and DB are both quite insecure which I believe is to do with social pressure.

I have been convincing my DH to embrace his baldness so that he doesn’t endure any side effects, and I assured him that I am still attracted to him as a bald man and that to me I consider it part of his “manliness” and maturity. Ofcourse it is his decision to make however he doesn’t really believe me and says I say that because I don’t picture him as a bald man. His mother comments on his hairline on every other video call or so!! And I believe that his insecurity stems from that!

My brother confirmed my DHs beliefs and thinks that prince William lost all attactiveness when he lost his hair, and I disagree. I just think he looks more “mature”. But DB is convinced I only say that because our dad is bald.

I’m curious to know whether I’m an odd one or whether most women actually feel if there husband turned bald they will lose attraction ?

Also do you think it’s worth taking the risk with finesterides ? I hate them with a passion because I just don’t like tampering with hormones and I feel their side effects haven’t been tested on the long term and I also question whether they effected my miscarriages (before we realized we need to stop them) so I’m very keen on wanting him to stop them completely and be natural. But I understand that it’s his decision but I firmly believe attractiveness is relative and to me maturity and masculinity is something I find attractive.

Am I in the minority ?? Am I a weirdo?

P.S. If the answers are overwhelmingly on my side I’m wanting DH to see this thread. Otherwise for his confidence I won’t !

OP posts:

Comeonbabyyay · 29/01/2020 10:44

Thank you OP
Oh! I didn’t mean for you to feel bad about your comment, you are just saying what we all think of have heard before
Thank you 💜

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1ForAllnAllFor1 · 29/01/2020 10:45

Also in some ethnicities women don’t grow hair and they look even more attractive with short/bald heads.

So yes must be an association inherited from society understanding.

So makes sense why dB has more issue with it than my dad and why balding females struggle with it. I can only assume more exposure to attractive men and women with bald heads will diversify associations between beauty and hair.

Comeonbabyyay maybe if they introduce more actresses with baldness In movies it will become even more popular among women.

I believe there is associated insecurity around “standing out” but that could be a good “standing out” if the first impression isn’t an awkward exchange if someone not expecting and someone not sure how they’re perceived and that needs society to embrace it first.

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Liland · 29/01/2020 11:46

Sorry to disagree, but I dont find bald men in general attractive (although balding and trying to hide it looks worse imo). I'm a bit shallow on this. However, I met my DP 4 years ago, who had been shaving his head daily since his early 20s (so almost 2 decades) due to early hair loss. It doesn't put me off him at all, and he is a very (if sometimes over) confident person who jokes about it. I find him physically attractive, but it's much more about the person he is.

Shave it off and own it, dont mess with hormones for something so unimportant!

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isabellerossignol · 29/01/2020 11:52

I think baldness only ever looks bad if a man tries to hide his thinning hair. Just cut it really short, or even better shave it.

I have never actually known a woman who has classed 'nice hair' as something essential for a man to look attractive.

My husband comes from a family where every man on both his mother's side and his father's lost their hair at a young age. He said that even as a child he knew he'd be unlikely to have hair as an adult, so he shaved it off as a teenager to pre-empt going bald.

jimmyjab · 29/01/2020 12:05

Agree with the others, baldness can be really attractive. Balding however, is not.

peachgreen · 29/01/2020 12:10

I honestly don't think the majority of women really give a crap about how much hair a man has. Every man I've ever dated has been obsessed with whether or not they're going to go bald yet I've never met a woman in real life who has much of an opinion on baldness!

sunshinesupermum · 29/01/2020 12:15

I used to find Yul Brynner hot when I was a kid! My DP cut all his hair off and embraced baldness when he was in his late 40s - it is a sexy look imo. Good luck OP.

feetfreckles · 29/01/2020 12:22

Don't find it specifically attractive or unattractive. Dh is bald and is attractive.

I really hate the growing pressure on men to fit some ultra youth narrow definition of attractive in order to increase sales somewhere

Needtomoveon84 · 29/01/2020 12:22

The bald object of my affection just grew a beard.

Looks awful

Needtomoveon84 · 29/01/2020 12:23

I really hate the growing pressure on men to fit some ultra youth narrow definition of attractive in order to increase sales somewhere

Yes because men don't treat women like objects or want them slim, much younger, etc.

olivehater · 29/01/2020 12:27

I think it depends on face shape. Round faces and round features suit it. Angular faces and angular features don’t.
My dad suits it. My dh would not - he looks ill if he gets to much of a cropped cut. I hope my boys look more like my side if they are going to go bald which I think they will.

AmbitiouslyFit · 29/01/2020 12:27

Needtomoveon84 so we need to make them suffer for revenge? Because all men are exactly the same ?

Perhaps this whole culture of youth=good and old age= bad is just wrong

SagaBauer · 29/01/2020 12:28

My DH has been thinning since he was mid twenties and started shaving it all off a couple of years into our relationship. I 100% prefer my DH with a shaved head, and think he looks so much more attractive than when he tried to hide it. His older brother is also thinning as badly but refuses to go for the shave and I think it looks more aging and naff (he's mid 30s but could pass for older). I think my DH found it hard because his Dad still has a full head of hair in his 60s

Needtomoveon84 · 29/01/2020 12:29

I've found that women are deemed less attractive when old and men are deemed more attractive as experienced and seasoned.

Dont have to make them suffer but I'm not outraged by discussing what we find attractive in a man considering they judge us for pretty much everything

FrangipaniBlue · 29/01/2020 12:31

My DH has been bald since his 20s, I am partial to a baldy...... I'm just going to leave these here......

Marylou2 · 29/01/2020 12:32

The difference is attitude. Try to cling to last few strands- unattractive. Get the clippers out and shave it really short-gorgeous.

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