What small things keep the peace in your house.

[TeetotalKoala]

In our house, DH and I can't share a toothpaste tube. Each of us gets irritated with the way the other squeezes the tube. So we've solved the issue by having one each. Keeps the harmony.

What little weird things do you do in your house that keep the peace?

Eating in front of telly off laps - started years ago as eating at table led to too much bickering.

An extra mirror in a different room. My husband can tie his tie whilst I brush my hair using a different mirror.

We've let the kids to themselves at weekend mornings since they were pretty small and had a lie-in

Synchronised google calendar so my husband can't claim he knew nothing about arrangements I've told him about!

A double duvet each on a shared king size bed. If we are away and have to share DP ends up spending the night chilly. I need to have duvet rolled and tucked around me.

I would absolutely love my own bathroom and toilet That no one else is ever allowed in. Utter heaven

DH is allowed to help with every household task but he is not allowed to fold clean washing.
I have a specific system of folding which makes putting everyone’s clothes away (DCs are too little to do it themselves) - he fucks with the system and it makes me ragey.
Keeps the peace if he just leaves it alone!

Separate bedrooms, bathrooms and do separate washing. It's a winner!!

Great thread! Echo the separate duvets theme. I'm aiming for separate rooms, but not there yet.

Oh and separate washing, 4 adults, each do their own.

Noodles.

Teenagers come in from school (1hr commute) tired and hangry.

Sufficient quantities of koka noodles (up to 3 packets for almost 18yo ds) keeps everything calm till teatime.

Substitute noodles for crisps, also works for dh!

Noodles are genius. I have an hours commute from work and I go straight to school to pick up so I'm also starving when I get in. I just end up picking so much that I'm not hungry come tea time. I should just get noodles to tide me over.

We also now let the kids sort themselves on a Saturday morning. We make sure their tablets are charged. They also know how to work the TV, and make toast/crumpets/cereal. DS (8) says that he loves Saturdays because he can have his tablet at the table whilst he eats his toast. There's a screen ban at the table at all other times. A smaller lie in happens on a Sunday, but then we have to be out at 0930 for rugby.

We had separate duvets on holiday last year and it was lovely as I'm a caterpillar. That said, DH runs hot so usually lets me have the majority of it anyway.

And letting children play to the end of the game / watch to the end of the episode before making them come to the table / go to bed etc. I’d be pretty passed iff if someone switched the telly off halfway through something I was watching! Yes to this. Though my concession for meals is that its paused if there's more than five minutes left.

Separate rooms here, too. Aiming for my own bathroom. Husband and I have different notions of 'quiet' and 'cleanliness'.

What would’ve saved my first marriage would have been living in separate houses !

What might’ve saved my second marriage would have been to have separate bedrooms, separate TVs but he would have none of that, so the marriage didn’t last

DDs have their own bedrooms and a playroom.

The playroom means they can't banish each other from the room or dictate what the other does / doesn't do.

Those with separate rooms, do you still have ‘together time’?

I have a woman cave (3rd bedroom is my dressing room /beauty/room/office), he has a man cave (garage full of man shit like tools, dartboard, motorbike etc).

DH is banned from the airing cupboard.

Boys clothes and uniform is kept downstairs - makes mornings and changes during the day much easier/ quicker and also saves carting lots of clean laundry upstairs from dryer / ironing board.

Separate houses! Although people get very judgy and assume we aren't a "proper" couple. But after four years living together and now one year living apart, it's been a life saver. Happiest we've both been I think. It's like we're dating again!

-DC eat their food on trays on their laps on the sofa in front of the TV.
-Telly in DC bedroom to watch football.
-Have a gaming computer downstairs for DP so he no longer 'games' on the xbox in our bedroom.

Taking responsibility for the bits of housework the other hates. Ie - I never wash up, he never cleans the bathroom. I rarely Hoover, he rarely empties the bins. Works a treat.

Another one that agrees to let their DC finish the activity/TV show before they have to go to bed or anything.

I do all of the laundry in exchange for DP doing all the washing up.

One does dinner the other cleans up, unwritten rule.
Let mummy have a lay in whenever possible, DH doesn't care for sleep.
If DS wants to be in his pajamas all day on a Sunday, fine.
Own washing baskets, never had a washing argument in 12 years
DH can have control of the tv remote, not bothered.

Note to self - we need more USB chargers.......

Don't I love him! Is he a mix breed or a specific terrier maybe? We miss having a dog around.

I live with my twin DDS aged 20. We each have a 2 litre bottle of water in the fridge for refilling chilly bottles etc. No one else to blame if their bottles run low!
We're similar sizes and all wear black undies. We stick to one brand each, mine are Next and the DDS are Tu & Asda. Makes sorting through the laundry much easier!

Having different shifts for the bathroom.
Surprise jelaybi. (It takes like doughnuts.) I randomly leave a box on the counter. No one is allowed to hog it, steal it or squabble over it. Try the same with a chocolate orange and they get all territorial.

@EnidButton
We're not 100% sure as he was a rescue. (4 years last weekend). He could be pure Jack Russell but possibly mix with Yorkie too. He hates arguments and shouting (maybe because of his past) so we had to become a calmer household 🙂