Miscarriage tattoo?

[Sparkle2020]

Would you find a tattoo linked to a miscarriage weird? I lost a baby at 8 weeks nearly 2 years ago and spent so long hating myself for it and struggling to get over it as I blame myself for it. At 8 weeks baby is size of raspberry, so I kind of want a little raspberry tattoo? Is that weird? Like these ones

I'm sorry for your loss OP. I've also had MCs.

I think this is a personal decision which will be influenced by how much you like tattoos and how public you want to be about remembrance.

Op try the UKCP or BACP for a counsellor/ therapist.
www.psychotherapy.org.uk/find-a-therapist/

I have one for the five I lost. I like the raspberry bush.

Sorry for your loss.
It's not about what we think it's about what makes you feel happy and what helps you come to terms with your loss.
I have had 7 miscarriages so know exactly how you feel. X
Happy to say went on to have 2 healthy babies. X

I can't believe that second counsellor told you that your miscarriage was your fault . I find that absolutely shocking.

It was NOT your fault. Miscarriages happen and babies grow or don't grow whether we wish them away or not. This was as much a tragic 'accident' as a loved one dying from a random illness. You are perfectly allowed to grieve however is right for you.

I like the raspberry bush

I'm sorry for your loss op. Personally, I wouldn't, just because people often ask about tattoo meanings, if it's somewhere visible and I would need to feel comfortable explaining it and I'm not sure I would, iyswim.

But if you think it will be helpful to you, go ahead. It's very pretty

I am so sorry for everyone here who has lost a baby.
Op, I personally think it's a lovely idea to remember your baby with a tattoo. The raspberry bush design is very pretty and quite unusual. I wouldn't go for the single raspberry unless some leaves and extra interest could be added to it. Would still prefer the first tattoo though.

Hi Sparkle2020,

I know I'm two years too late to the thread but I'm just wondering if you went ahead with the tattoo or not? I think it's a lovely idea, and it's all about personal choice, I'm looking to get one myself to commemorate the baby I lost in 2019. After reading messages on this thread I'm actually rather shocked at how mean some of the other commenters on here have been about it to you, especially the one saying its attention seeking, it is absolutely not attention seeking at all, its something that means something personal to you so I'd just ignore that comment, and unlike jewellery etc (not saying that its a bad idea to get jewellery, I've got a necklace for mine, just personal preference) it's not something that you can misplace easily either so if you haven't already got it, I'd say go for it, it's a beautiful sentiment.
Sorry for your loss too x